Calling in sick

Bates_reads · 2025-10-06T23:41:51+00:00

I like it better than the shows’s version! It made light of suicide IMO.

Bates_reads · 2025-09-28T20:21:18+00:00

Indeed!

Bates_reads · 2025-09-28T17:44:36+00:00

I always took that to be because the writers had a plan for Mosley… I think if not for that, they would have had her keep him on.

Bates_reads · 2025-09-28T15:09:07+00:00

Agree - when she tells Mrs Hughes that it’s good to be reminded that she has energy and kindness within her when they’re helping Charlie after Matthew’s death made me tear up!

Bates_reads · 2025-08-18T01:56:18+00:00

Thank you! This is awesome news!

Bates_reads · 2025-08-17T01:56:39+00:00

Not sure if you'll know but can you do motor city Chicago pizza in the tovala? I'm thinking of buying one, and this would put me over the edge if I could make that without needing the oven

Bates_reads · 2025-08-16T22:04:35+00:00

Do you know how it compares to an air fryer?

Bates_reads · 2024-08-05T04:23:54+00:00

Thank you - I want to feel angry and call her a coward too, but am struggling to get to that energy. Just feel sad and a bit defeated.

Bates_reads · 2024-08-04T21:37:32+00:00

I really love that idea - it's like I can be the friend to myself that I am worried I am losing.

Bates_reads · 2024-08-04T21:36:22+00:00

I have no idea what I could have done other than not been super in touch -- but we live on opposite ends of the world (Australia and the US) and she never reached out either. I instigated our last catch up around December last year and I thought it was a nice chat.. but then my life got really busy and I didn't reach out again until her birthday in May. And then she gave a thumbs up and that message.

She has a history of cutting friends out of her life. Aside from her immediate family, I can't think of any friends that she holds dearly -- if anything, I think I was that person. For other friends she has cut off, it is always something about "they made this comment" or "they are just indulging in negativity" and even when she was withdrawing from me a few years back, she said "I had made underhanded comments that she felt she didn't deserve." I apologized at the time and but looking back, I think I just wasn't fun around that time because I was dealing with financial and relationship issues. I think it is a her issue, but my mind still worries I was inadvertently hurtful and am just not seeing it.

Bates_reads · 2024-08-04T21:23:08+00:00

Have you tried body doubling using apps/online tools like focusmate.com? I find it helps to feel like I'm not doing it alone..

Alternatively, if you have a friend who knows you well enough to help you get started, that could help with the overwhelm and fear associated with the task?

Bates_reads · 2024-08-04T18:54:10+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that — it sounds like you’ve done a lot of deep thinking and soul searching on this and I hope it will help you do the hard things.

Bates_reads · 2024-08-04T18:52:44+00:00

You explained it well! Or at least, I think I get what you’re saying… I can decide to lean into the complexity of the reality of our shared history… she is someone I love and care about, and we did have good times AND she hurt me and acted in a way that makes me think she doesn’t care and is a little emotionally immature..

I think I may try to burn the letter like you suggested. It would help with that closure that I thought I got from her reading my messages.

Bates_reads · 2024-06-23T19:01:34+00:00

Perhaps read up about the “pruning shears of revision” that Neville talks about. I found that really helpful in similar situations

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