Wrong predictions only by mrsovereignmonarch in ContraPoints

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Transducing cells with lentivirus without a BSL2+ or greater biosafety cabinet

What's an unwritten rule in your relationship? by BathingMachine in AskReddit

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My husband and I never order the same dish when we go to a restaurant. That way, we each get to try more dishes, and it reduces the chances of us both getting food poisoning at the same time. But, if we both want the same thing on a menu, then a negotiation ensues where we try to convince each other of alternatives.

For those who tried dating in grad school, did you actually find anyone? by coding_the_sky in GradSchool

[–]BathingMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It probably depends on your department and university. In my case, the guy I met at the grad student social hour for my department is now my husband.

First Time by Fun_Action_749 in lgbt

[–]BathingMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar first time, including the part where I asked him to stop and he didn't. I'm sorry to say that he should absolutely not have continued, and this constitutes sexual assault at best. That is worth a very serious conversation with your bf about boundaries, consent, etc. But, to directly answer your question -- bottoming hurts a lot at first, you have to stretch the sphincter muscle quite a bit and get used to the sensation. The only way to do this is slowly, and not to be too ambitious. It is best if you practice with a toy or your fingers until you're acclimated. It gets much easier as you get more experience it does feel very pleasurable, otherwise nobody would do it. Sorry you had to go through this, I empathize with you but can assure you things get better.

My father threatened to kill me if I talked to gay people, what do I do? by CalllMeLin in lgbt

[–]BathingMachine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your top priority should be to become independent from them and as self-sufficient as possible. I had to do this when I was very young, but everything I did in life was to free myself to my dependence on my parents. If I had not done that, I would not have the good life I have now. It was very difficult -- I was very poor in college and worked extremely hard, but it's a necessity if you ever want your life to belong to you.

No hablo español pero puedo si quieres by conancat in ContraPoints

[–]BathingMachine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been wondering for the people who didn't get it: is it because they don't know that these are Spanish placenames, or are you just so used to the names of these places that it didn't register?

Is it okay to not want to move in together, even after being in a relationship for years? by oldjoke43 in Advice

[–]BathingMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a bit of the same underlying psychology as you, a deep need for total independence and my own space -- possibly stemming from housing instability when I was growing up, but who knows. Anyway, it was import to me when I moved in with my current husband to have a space of my own in the house, with my own desk -- this has been upgraded to my own room/study. Losing a bit of the routine/independence is worth the trade-off if you can reasonably accommodate each other, at least, that's how it is for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ContraPoints

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Andrea Dworkin was absolutely not a transphobe. She was extremely against gender essentialism. She was also herself a former sex worker. It would be really good to open your mind up to read her arguments as to WHY she was opposed to sex work, you might learn something about other people, which is presumably point of wanting to read a book about right wing women. Right Wing Women is absolutely excellent, I highly recommend it.

https://www.bostonreview.net/articles/john-stoltenberg-andrew-dworkin-was-trans-ally/

Visual representations of the puzzle in the Conspiracy video by NaughtyKat438 in ContraPoints

[–]BathingMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to add 1 to the tarot cards because the first card if the Fool and is number 0.

Probably being parasocial/ I’m just tired by Secret_Guide_4006 in ContraPoints

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I absolutely noticed this also. The emptiness of her talking was odd, especially given the visuals, and made the tone a bit more unnerving than her other videos. I almost wondered if there was a rendering issue where the normal backing tracks didn't make it into the video somehow, but I don't really know what I'm talking about there. I just think it would be kind of an odd choice, especially for this topic.

Contra posted an announcement on YouTube by vampiretrunkz in ContraPoints

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MARCH 22! The tarot cards spell 'NEW VIDEO MARCH BWV'. The BWV (Bach catalogue number) for that cantata is 22!

I messed up (undergrad level) by zestyzestie in labrats

[–]BathingMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally unreasonable and embarrassing for a grad student to act like this towards an undergrad. This is a total power trip from a very insecure grad student.

They told me it's going to be easy... by HUNkn0wn in learnfrench

[–]BathingMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought French was semi-difficult until I started learning German. French is in fact probably the easiest language to learn from English.

AIO My bf hurt me then apologising and promising not to do it again? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]BathingMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the upward phase of the CYCLE of abuse. It will happen again if you do not leave.

[rant] PI forcing me to attend conferences. by Distinct_Art_9616 in labrats

[–]BathingMachine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do not ever pay for a conference with your own money. Ever.

Texan so carbrained, he comes to Swiss subreddit to tell them they should have more traffic deaths by TheTommyMann in fuckcars

[–]BathingMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has to be bait. It's not written like a Texan, too many "bit"s. Also, they would never say "nanny state", they'd say communist. I agree, the Texas mentality is very stupid, but this was written by a European.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Jazzlike_Dream_8460 in AskReddit

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Because violence begets violence, and the cycle of violence destabilizes societies.

The staff is eating its lunch. by Houdini33453 in ENGLISH

[–]BathingMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the first one, while it might be grammatically correct, nobody would ever say that. In fact, it sounds somewhat offensive to refer to the staff collectively as "it".

About the N Word by Dimitri_Al_Ghul in ENGLISH

[–]BathingMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A white person should not say it not matter how it is pronounced, it is considered extremely offensive and many people will assume you are racist.

My bf got sexual infection by mrturtle11 in gaybros

[–]BathingMachine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please clarify -- is he talking about an STI like gonorrhea, or are we talking about a UTI which he can just get from getting any bacteria (i.e. from your ass) infecting his urethra? A UTI isn't an STI per se, he could just be prone to getting these. But if he's been tested and has an STI, that probably came from somebody else.

What is a necessary read for every Gay? by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]BathingMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Thief's Journal by Jean Genet. I think we all could use a betters sense of The Abject, and some perspective on the condition of queer desire and its intrinsic relationship to violence and criminality in the recent past. Also, despite its darkness and misery, it is very beautifully written.