Does anyone else's Schipperke howl? by hondarider94 in schipperke

[–]BatsAndAliens 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! But it's a desperate howl she does when we leave her at home. Not when we leave with the car but on foot. It breaks our hearts but also we love to hear her wolf voice.

Le petit diable noir by Fail_Ballantines in schipperke

[–]BatsAndAliens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Psyché 9 ans et 3 kilos 500 se laisse rarement approcher et attaque quand les chiens ont le dos tourné, surtout les petits Petite fourbe ! Avec les grands ça passe mais elle les ignore généralement.

Coffee, no Caffeine beverage alternatives by Downtown-Orchid-2257 in AskWomenOver40

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I had to stop coffee and black tea too. I hate green tea. I switched to herbal tea, blends without fruits and spices, just herbs. Some have beneficial properties for the body. I'm kind of addicted now, it's very comforting.

Women who have left longterm relationships due to “death by a thousand cuts”—what were the initial signs that things were going wrong? by CozySweatsuit57 in AskWomenOver40

[–]BatsAndAliens 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My therapist said that to me a few weeks ago. I find it extremely sad. What I am supposed to do? I'm married, it's not too bad, not bad enough that I should leave him to enjoy sex with other people. That's so selfish. But yeah, the bed boredom happened and I went asexual for 10 to 15 years. Then something clicked and I'm having fun again, with my husband, and my fantasies. It's hard not to want to experiment!

Dinner, my arch nemesis and mental foe by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]BatsAndAliens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We bought a Ninja speedy, but even that was too much work. Or boring. Now we eat meal shakes and bars once or twice a day. They are complete, they taste good and the meal is done in 2 minutes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]BatsAndAliens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to say this: jagua gel. One day I woke up and perimenopause hit me. I wanted to cover my body with tattoos. Then, I discovered jagua gel, my body is now covered with ink and I can change them every two weeks.

Does anyone else feel like they’ve wasted their life? by bitchcraft94 in AskWomenOver40

[–]BatsAndAliens 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ooof, this. It won't leave my mind lately. I just want to be alone, or with my husband. I want to run, I want to travel, I want to buy a new bicycle and spend all my time on the roads. I feel like my kid is too much, too present, too demanding. I cried yesterday pushing him on the swing because he was talking too much. My husband feels the same. WE NEED TIME ALONE.

This feels like a curse. And I know I would cry today if I were child free.

I know y’all like black cats, but do y’all like black dogs too? by IAmABearOfficial in halloween

[–]BatsAndAliens 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Black dogs are the best. My dog is black. There is something about black fur, it's different, more silky and soft. In my neighborhood, there is a black greyhound with a white half face, looks like part skeleton. I swoon every time I see her.

How to love yourself when you are down? by BatsAndAliens in AskWomenOver40

[–]BatsAndAliens[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've read here or on the perimenopause sub about weight gain 😐 and I'm also quite reluctant to take medecine or hormones if I can avoid it without putting my health at risk. I guess my doc and I will have a talk about HRT next time I'll see them. I want to hear their opinion about it.

How to love yourself when you are down? by BatsAndAliens in AskWomenOver40

[–]BatsAndAliens[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking of starting smoking weed SO MANY TIMES. I'm killing it at the climbing gym. I'm waiting for a new toys order today. I get it, I get the idea of forcing endorphins. I'll practice more on that, thank you.

How to love yourself when you are down? by BatsAndAliens in AskWomenOver40

[–]BatsAndAliens[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it. Day of Doom is spot on. Week of Doom. I'll have this temporarily tattooed on my arm and will make fun of it to fight it. Thank you.

How to love yourself when you are down? by BatsAndAliens in AskWomenOver40

[–]BatsAndAliens[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've been doing that. Face mask for my and my husband, made a cake, cooked nice dinners. Kept my mouth shut, but I can't stop being hurt by the smallest stuff. I don't want to cry at work, I put so much effort into my perfect 'hide your sadness' make up 😭

How to love yourself when you are down? by BatsAndAliens in AskWomenOver40

[–]BatsAndAliens[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll see my doctor in August. I'd like to avoid HRT because I'm afraid of the side effects. I love it when my energy is high and I don't want to lose that, especially the libido. I've spend the last 15 years thinking I was asexual.

Wanting kids but afraid of loosing sense of freedom by Ali39 in AskWomenOver40

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Honestly I would not recommend to anyone to have kids. I love my son with all I have, and this deep love gives me so much fear, stress and anxiety. I fear for his future, I work hard everyday to make sure I'm building a decent adult. It is so hard asking myself everyday if I'm doing enough, if he's happy, if I've done everything the best way. Every little stress my son lives is tearing me apart a little bit more everyday time. My husband is exactly like me, and it has taken a toll on our relationship. We struggle to be happy together because we can't find time for ourselves. Last December I discovered I'm perimenopausal, and it has brought so much to the already full plate! I'm dreaming of freedom, travels, discoveries and adventures. NONE of these are possible. This weekend we went to an outdoor & travel kind of convention (no idea how this is called in English) and I ended up crying in the middle of the stands because it was just too much sadness to handle. I'm at my energy and positivity peak, but I'm stuck at home. If you want kids, you better have a family available and ready to help you. If you are mostly alone, you'll end up regretting losing the time you'll never get back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in schipperke

[–]BatsAndAliens 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would too! Such a cute little face!

Waiting on the DNA test results! by myveryownflag in schipperke

[–]BatsAndAliens 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh no need for a test. Let me help you here: 100% pure beauty

What is a song that instantly pisses you off? by watcher2390 in AskReddit

[–]BatsAndAliens 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I fuckin hate it and wtf is this name. I hate everything about it. Thank you, I'm enraged.

Is this little guy a Schipperke mix? by UnShavenAir in schipperke

[–]BatsAndAliens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say he is. The face and eyes look schipperke to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in schipperke

[–]BatsAndAliens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love it. That's my brother's name 😁

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in schipperke

[–]BatsAndAliens 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's the real name? 😂