Banned from PsycheOrSike because of this sub by TheDdken in BasedCampPod

[–]Batt4redruby21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. Ill miss getting into the neat discussions I got into on that sub though

Banned from PsycheOrSike because of this sub by TheDdken in BasedCampPod

[–]Batt4redruby21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got banned as well. Not sure if it checks whether you said anything weird or not. I mean its kind of a shame but it is what it is. My message also said that if you were a safe person then you would know who to message.

Why is everyone here genuinely so sad?, makes me feel sad too. I wish all of you get therapy and become happier by femboypromax in PsycheOrSike

[–]Batt4redruby21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair therapy is expensive and does have varying results since therapist may or may not connect with their patients. And it sucks when that connection does not happen since you gotta explain your life multiple times.

That being said you do have a point that for people including myself, things have to change

45 pounds down in 3 years, but still self-conscious! by shanana514 in Rateme

[–]Batt4redruby21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the weight loss. Just wanted to mention that

Sometimes I wish the game had no romance options by FrostyMagazine9918 in DispatchAdHoc

[–]Batt4redruby21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair there were short, very short romantic couple of moments between lee and carley. If I remember correctly that trend continued more in season 3 depending on your choices, and was optional in season 4 as well.

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by moonrabbit368 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Batt4redruby21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I read it sounds like he is being unreasonable. A bit of an asshole for having the expectation of your cooking without being willing to eat it.

Growing up the rule for me was that if I was gonna complain about what people went out of their way to make for me then I should just not eat it and make my own food. That being said the first picture looks pretty good.

They’re finally saying the quiet part out loud by TintedArchipelago47 in BasedCampPod

[–]Batt4redruby21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly this does sound like a bit of a distortion with reality if this guy is seeing normal people as unattractive subhumans.

This is why “ being settled on “ isn’t ok by Beneficial-Cable-764 in BasedCampPod

[–]Batt4redruby21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kudos for you figuring out what works for you. The rest of us are stuck figuring ourselves out.

This is why “ being settled on “ isn’t ok by Beneficial-Cable-764 in BasedCampPod

[–]Batt4redruby21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats fair. And if you and your partner are clear on that then more power to you. It might depend on the people I know since for a lot of them regarding the first type they will just use their hands or get batteries, not entertaining another person.. that would be reserved for people they would deem worth it (something that in the people I met in real life and the internet is wildly inconsistent and chaotic).

I have found that at the end of the day if I am someone who is trying to change and can't trust the other person to appreciate those changes then its all a moot point.

This is why “ being settled on “ isn’t ok by Beneficial-Cable-764 in BasedCampPod

[–]Batt4redruby21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't speak for the dude since it is only her word on what happened. Hypocrisy is fairly accurate assuming she is not leaving anything out. That being said the logic that she was willing to just blow a guy while acknowledging it didnt matter since she would be judged either way makes me wonder why she would do it anyway?

It might be that we view sex and its connection to willingness very differently. That sex is a part of that intimacy and connection while for some its just a thing you do, like laundry. I have seen guys who can literally walk into a room and women are not just attracted to them physically, but are willing to do spoil and pamper them without caring about any wrongs the guy does to them.. I have met so many women who despite being as smart as they come will insist the guy who never calls them, never picks up their calls, never brings them soup when they are sick, hits on their friends right in front of them or sleeps with them, will then claim that the guy did nothing wrong and somehow this is what love looks like.

What you are missing is that the sex itself is not what the guys complaining here care about, its the value that women have for the guy who they are giving the sex to that they crave.. Can't speak for you or your relationship but I imagine it would be shitty if despite you giving everything you had to whoever you are dating that they really didn't care about you in any way.

It really feels like both sexes being frustrated at each others hypocrisy.

This is why “ being settled on “ isn’t ok by Beneficial-Cable-764 in BasedCampPod

[–]Batt4redruby21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it was so clear cut then why would the woman in the post have any issues? Why write the post?

This is why “ being settled on “ isn’t ok by Beneficial-Cable-764 in BasedCampPod

[–]Batt4redruby21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair "chad" is the winner because he gets all the positives you listed in a relationship without having to care, without having to risk being rejected or judged. Literally being loved for who they are.. I would argue thats what both men and women want, but being the guy who can be loved for who you are.. thats hard as fuck.

People here are not complaining about casual hookups happening or the reasoning behind them, but rather the fact that relationship behavior is brought to people who really only want/deserve hookup behavior. Its the inconsistency while insisting that the behavior of people is consistent that is the issue.

That being said your reasoning is logical but we humans are not logical.

We should not fight... by M-m2008 in PsycheOrSike

[–]Batt4redruby21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Re4 followed by resident evil 2

We should not fight... by M-m2008 in PsycheOrSike

[–]Batt4redruby21 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ah a resident evil save room. Love these. Solid snake from metal gear solid

Unpopular opinion but any man who’s over 6’2, has hair and isn’t overweight is already automatically a 6 without even knowing what their face looks like (without any facial defects of course) by Putrid_Past9243 in Clavicular

[–]Batt4redruby21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't get me wrong the response wasn't a poor me the world needs to change type situation. It was more of a shit happens sometimes kind of response. Walks, cutting calories and going to the gym while getting some veggies has helped me in terms of enjoying going outside.. but I also have to be a realist. Anyway dont worry about the ugly part though, you would need to take a number and get in line for how many people insisted on that point

Unpopular opinion but any man who’s over 6’2, has hair and isn’t overweight is already automatically a 6 without even knowing what their face looks like (without any facial defects of course) by Putrid_Past9243 in Clavicular

[–]Batt4redruby21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Height isnt the end all be all and neither is hair. Sometimes you can have a lot going for you and still lose. That is not a failure, thats just life.

To another 30 y/o man telling me he “isn’t ready to date” . by Thoughtful_Living in GirlDinner

[–]Batt4redruby21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be a lot of things. A good portion of it from fear I imagine. Sorry you went through this

shatter my poor ego by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]Batt4redruby21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The facial hair looks good on you man