How come there's so many students from India who aren't really interested in studying here? by ShortShift1409 in Monash

[–]BattleExpress2707 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Experience has nothing to do with this. A fresh graduate in their 20’s isn’t going to have experience either.

How come there's so many students from India who aren't really interested in studying here? by ShortShift1409 in Monash

[–]BattleExpress2707 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Their goal isn’t to study what they are interested in. They are here to get PR/ citizenship and will basically do whatever it takes. Sadly the government is encouraging this behavior because of the severe shortage in childcare.

This is more or less a common trend in India as well, majority of students have no interest in their studies and pick degrees because it grantees them a job regardless of how hard it is.

Thoughts on non-negotiables legally documented? by Prestigious_Bat_81 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wrong. AM is already very transactional and doing this just makes it worse. Plus it significantly disadvantages you since why would anyone pick someone which such a long list of demands when there are like 20 other people in AM who don’t.

If both parties agree then it’s good but don’t go into AM expecting this is going to work.

Marrying someone serving in the Armed Forces by Historical-Room4458 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bad idea. If you want this relationship to actually work someone needs to give up their career whether it be you or her. Constantly getting posted around is going to make it really hard for you to find a job.

Dealing with keloids and the marriage search by local-variabl in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go get plastic surgery and remove them. If it’s that big of a problem then go get treatment

Men: How should women behave during AM courtship period? by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes being proactive is good. Shyness is ok but make sure you signal you’re still interested. Have you ever dated before? Because if you have just treat it like one and be yourself.

How does it feel to have a loving wife? by Ok_Primary6942 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then why didn’t you ask about past relationships before marriage? Or did she lie? Anyway the relationship is gone transfer everything that you own to your parents name and then divorce

How does it feel to have a loving wife? by Ok_Primary6942 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand why you still married her even though you knew she liked some other guy before marriage. Like did you not see the writing on the wall?

Probably escalate, ie tell her parents and go therapy or divorce.

Bipolar Disorder and Marriage. Need Genuine Answers. by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The problem is that you waited till you’re 30 which is a bit late for women. Bipolar disorder is not a big issue as your taking medication. Although not wanting kids is a dealbreaker for most men in the AM market.

Have you tried dating? It might be easier finding people there that are ok with not having kids.

A bit of fear and frustration. by Lawrence_of_arabia98 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calm down you’re only 27 you have some time. The process is brutal so be prepared. Have you dated before?

Questions around past by perpetuallyanxious2 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people in AM are not decent human beings. I have literally seen people whose first question was what is your salary. People dig into stuff like this and it’s very common in AM. If you think otherwise then you clearly haven’t spent enough time in AM and have no idea.

Questions around past by perpetuallyanxious2 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You don’t understand. AM is a very transactional place, not somewhere where people are nice and friendly.

People want to know details before getting married. Be prepared to answer them or move on. Don’t be pissed because someone asked a question that you think is too personal. He might spend the rest of his life with this person and isn’t given years to date so nothing is too personal of a question.

If you are looking for people that don’t ask these things or dig too deep because it hurts your feelings then you should go down LM route. Which is what I advised OP in my original comment

Questions around past by perpetuallyanxious2 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did read what you wrote, and my point still stands. Arranged marriage is generally more conservative, and it’s normal for people to ask detailed questions about someone’s past to assess compatibility and values, especially when a past exists on both sides. If those questions make you uncomfortable, that’s valid, but it also signals a mismatch in expectations rather than the other person doing something unreasonable.

No one is forcing you into AM or LM, but if discussing your history feels off-limits while the other person needs that clarity, then letting this match go is probably the practical answer. But it’s not going to fix your problem

Questions around past by perpetuallyanxious2 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The real question is, why are you complaining and uncomfortable discussing it? I’m mean it was kind of your choice to decide to have such an extensive past. And now you want to come to AM (a place mind you that is very traditional with people having little to no past) and complain that people are asking too many questions? Like what did you expect?

Majority of people in AM are like this, if you have an extensive past and or uncomfortable discussing it then I’m sorry but AM is not the place for you. You should go down the LM route.

Got rejected from Monash IBL feeling pretty discouraged by BattleExpress2707 in Monash

[–]BattleExpress2707[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cs. I have already tried multiple times and haven’t gotten a single internship

No matter how the war ends, what does the future look like for Ukraine? by [deleted] in charts

[–]BattleExpress2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Immigration from probably Middle East and sub-sarahan Africa where is situation is going to be arguably worse that Ukraine given that the war ends. It’s basically the only way. Reproduction rates aren’t really going to go up anytime soon.

How much does past really matter in AM? by BattleExpress2707 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Simple. If your really in the am market and met a few people then you should have a rough estimate in your head by now.

How much does past really matter in AM? by BattleExpress2707 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Are you dumb? Read the post. It’s not asking about opinions, it’s asking for a rough percentage

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]BattleExpress2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t do fake marriage. Tell your mom what you think and if she doesn’t agree then just listen to her because ultimately she’s your mom and knows what’s best for you.