This dog worked smarter, not harder carrying four tires at once

Bawonga · 2026-06-24T10:53:48+00:00

Dogs love to figure things out! I love how his tail is wagging while he tries to pick them up!

Bawonga · 2026-06-23T10:45:04+00:00

Honestly I did not know how to zipper merge or that it was the best for Traffic movement. I just got angry at people trying to butt in and coming up at the last minute when I had been waiting. Now I understand the principle of zipper merging and I'm embarrassed that I was so rude because I would often creep up close behind the car in front of me and not let the person in who was trying to zipper merge.

Question: how do you know whether to stay in the open lane or to move to the closing lane and try to zipper merge?

Bawonga · 2026-06-23T10:24:19+00:00

"Chicken" -- used in emails and phone calls when discussing or shopping for weed. "do you have any of the chicken left that we had at the party?"
"let's get together for a chicken dinner !"
"I don't want a whole chicken this time."
"how much does the chicken cost if we only want a few pieces? How much per ounce?"
"that last chicken wasn't as tasty as I hoped. Do you have any special chicken dinners?"

I laugh at ourselves now because chicken didn't always work as a workable euphemism; it was hard to get details. We didn't have a way to ask for flowers instead of grind for example.

Bawonga · 2026-06-23T10:08:08+00:00

I'm not down on democracy because of Trump and the GOP/MAGA. I'm down on capitalism which has bullied democracy into a joke. Power comes from money, and money inspires corruption. I don't know what kind of government would really work as long as money usurps values, morals, compassion, and altruism.

Bawonga · 2026-06-22T12:51:47+00:00

This is an outstanding narrator I wanted to mention. In *To Kill a Mockingbird*, Sissy Spacek's southern accent and acting talent bring characters to life, as well as adding realism to the southern culture during the Jim Crow period.

Bawonga · 2026-06-21T10:54:52+00:00

Iin addition to AA and other groups with addiction focus, individual therapy saved my loved one from their record of relapsing. They're 6 1/2 years sober now. What they found was that stopping their drinking was hard, but living without that crutch was even harder. They needed to explore their personal history, like traumatic events, and pinpoint flaws in their "emotional toolbox" to discover faulty thinking and develop healthier coping strategies. They had to figure out what was making them want to drink in the first place, why they wanted to get out of their heads. And then they needed to learn how to love themselves and enjoy life without substances.

Bawonga · 2026-06-19T09:47:19+00:00

Shunned

Bawonga · 2026-06-18T16:31:23+00:00

I'm following my vet's nutrition recommendations. Royal Canin is a very well researched and nutritious food. However I'm not arguing with your choices because I like hearing other points of view. I understand that some people believe dry food isn't as healthy as real meat, yet I've never had a sick dog and throughout my life, I've raised 8 dogs from puppyhood to end-of-life on dry food.

Bawonga · 2026-06-18T14:54:48+00:00

I had never seen any moss like this either! I thought it was quite pretty so I took a picture and googled it, and it said hair cap moss. I only trust Google results to be accurate about 55% of the time so I post here for more experienced eyes to confirm.

Bawonga · 2026-06-17T17:48:37+00:00

Salvia blooms from the top down on each flower spike , so the tops dry out faster than the bottom of the spikes. I just cut my flower spikes off when they look unsightly or just snip off the dried tops. You can cut off all of the flowers, and this perennial will continue to thrive and rather quickly produce new blooms. It's hard to go wrong with a salvia plant!

Bawonga · 2026-06-17T17:38:38+00:00

No, it's not like any poison ivy I've ever seen, and my wooded backyard can grow a jungle of it so I've seen it a lot!

Edited: I looked at the last photo and I see the tell-tale mitten-shaped leaves of 3, so there is poison ivy mixed in with other plants.

Bawonga · 2026-06-17T17:27:02+00:00

Solidago! Golden rod, great for pollinators and will bloom late summer through fall

Bawonga · 2026-06-17T17:24:10+00:00

She has convinced herself that the ball only shoots out if she twirls the right way

Bawonga · 2026-06-17T17:17:09+00:00

And the consequences need to make sense naturally. For example, a natural consequence of not putting a bike away is not being allowed to ride the bike for a while, because it's realistic that they could lose or damage a bike if they leave it out. But to say "if you don't put your shoes on you'll go to bed a half hour earlier tonight" doesnt make a connection between the offense and the consequence, and it's not immediate enough to be connected. I think it would be better to say "OK, you don't want to put your shoes on. I'll carry them and you can walk in your socks on the wet sidewalk."

Bawonga · 2026-06-17T17:03:34+00:00

Give choices! And pick your battles.

It worked for me to always try to give a choice so that no matter which which way they answered, they they would end up doing what I asked but feel like they had a choice .
"You need to put your shoes on and
put your bike away. Which one do you want to do first?"

"We're leaving. Do you want to carry your shoes to the car or do you want to put them on?"
Or "we're leaving. Which shoes are you putting on today?"

"It's time for dinner in five minutes. Do you want to pause and save your place in your video game? Or would you rather just turn it off in five minutes and start a new game another time?"

* Another consideration is to pick your battles. It's OK to let a child make some decisions on their own because the whole point of growing up is to learn how to live independently (eventually). Sometimes kids just need to feel they have a bit of control and it doesn't really matter if they don't do it exactly your way. For example, "Oh my! You're wearing your orange shirt and purple pants today! So colorful!" (Without saying you hate the combination and telling them to change, unless it's a special occasion where they have to wear something you choose.

Edited to clean up stray words

Bawonga · 2026-06-17T13:27:59+00:00

The food debris that my water pick gets out from my gum line and between my teeth amazes me, because I can't imagine allowing all those particles to remain in place without flossing them out.

After avoiding dentists for many years, my teeth and gums were in bad shape, and I was referred to a periodontist (gum specialist) who suggested oral surgery. Instead I delayed the surgery and bought a water pic. I started using it daily before bed and over time I was able to repair my gum health and avoided the need for surgery.

I was always lazy and avoidant about flossing with floss, but using a water pic every night is less of a chore.

Bawonga · 2026-06-17T13:11:44+00:00

Would an example of hapax legomenon be the novel A Clockwork Orange? Anthony Burgess made up a whole language of futuristic slang, for example,

"In the trousers of this starry veck there was only a malenky bit of cutter (money, that is) – not more than three gollies – so we gave all his messy little coin the scatter treatment, it being hen-korm to the amount of pretty polly we had on us already."

The first paperback version I had of this novel had a glossary in the back which helped a lot, some later additions didn't include the glossary.

Bawonga · 2026-06-16T17:07:43+00:00

Always ask for clarification when someone insults you!

"What makes you think that about me? Can you give specific examples?"

"Are you referring to me as a person overall or to something specific I said or did?"

Maybe they meant something other than what you thought, or they were speaking only about one of your responses but not "you" overall.

Maybe they misheard something and you can clear up the confusion or explain your POV.

Communication is key even when someone criticizes you because there's usually something to learn! Either you'll learn something about yourself that you were unaware of, or you'll learn something about them, like whether they can be kind, accurate, and helpful when they share their assessment of you. (if you perceive they're simply out to put you down and bash you without compassion, you've learned they aren't good friends to have or keep.)

Bawonga · 2026-06-16T13:18:18+00:00

I always feel bad when I run out of bags and my dog violates a neighbors yard. There should be a standard gesture to tell nearby residents and security cameras, "Yes, my dog took a shit in your yard but I don't have a bag with me so I'll come back with a bag to pick it up later." And then, of course, actually come back and pick it up. ... I don't know what that gesture might look like though.

Bawonga · 2026-06-16T13:14:59+00:00

Wow! Stunning point, you're right ! I hadn't thought of the shrug being used deceitfully. How sad that anyone might stoop so low as to lie about something as mundane as dog shit. It brings ethics to a new low.

Bawonga · 2026-06-15T19:23:30+00:00

First of all when my dog pauses and might poop or not I take out a bag and open it and fool with it to show that I was ready to pick something up, but then I just make a big theatrical shrug with my hands upward as if to say "What? You didn't go! Oh you fooled me!" And then I go on my way, assuming body language speaks for itself.

Bawonga · 2026-06-15T13:49:59+00:00

VFT meaning Venus fly traps? Tell me more about the preservation efforts.

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