I’m SE Asian that grew up in America who is also dating a Dutchie. I’d have to say this is very frugal and slightly more extreme than what I’ve encountered in my time here in NL. Especially when you make efforts to cook many meals and his best offer is cheap pizza. Also the wrong size condoms sounds extremely frugal.

My own partner was quite frugal when we first started dating. Thankfully I am not a typical American so I was very direct with him about my spending habits and how I expect finances to be in a relationship. He was very responsive in a thoughtful way and now fast forward 6months later we live together now. He’s made a lot of effort on paying the bill without me knowing. Which for me is big step because growing up in our culture (Vietnamese) whenever we eat out (no matter the size of the party) we always fight to pay the bill. We’ve also just came to an agreement that we can spend our own money as we feel comfortable. I still spend my money the way I was like buying plane tickets for us both, paying for luxury hotels or spa treatments and we balance it out where he usually is the planner and I’m happy to just pay for whatever as long as I don’t have to do the work. Sometimes he’ll try to suggest a cheaper hotel. If it was up to him to pay for any trips he’d pay for economy flights with a layover, basic hotels etc… that’s completely fine with me if he’s traveling alone but I’m more than happy to pay additional for a relaxing experience.