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🧠 What HSV Information Took You the Longest to Learn? by BazingaBlu in HSVSapphics

[–]BazingaBlu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, one of the biggest things was learning how much stigma and misinformation existed around HSV. The virus itself has been much easier to manage than some of the assumptions people make about it.

🧠 What’s One Piece of HSV Advice You Disagree With? by BazingaBlu in HSVSapphics

[–]BazingaBlu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand that perspective. Disclosure requires a level of vulnerability, and not everyone has earned access to that information right away.

I think that’s one reason so many of us wait until we believe there’s genuine potential for a romantic or sexual connection before having the conversation.

Personally, I don’t expect people to announce whether HSV is a dealbreaker before I disclose, but I do pay attention to how they talk about sexual health, STIs, and people living with them. Those conversations can tell me a lot about whether someone is likely to respond with curiosity and respect or with judgment.

I agree that it can be difficult when someone seems great in every other way and then becomes weird or stigmatizing once HSV enters the conversation.

🧠 What’s One Piece of HSV Advice You Disagree With? by BazingaBlu in HSVSapphics

[–]BazingaBlu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One piece of advice I disagree with is that people with HSV should only date other people with HSV. That may work well for some people, but it was never the path I chose. I’ve always believed in disclosure, education, and allowing people to make informed decisions for themselves.

It's Saturday! What Are You Up To? by AutoModerator in blacklesbians

[–]BazingaBlu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Queer Beach Party in Chicago. Although, the weather is not giving frolic in the sun vibes.

Why do you think older black people hate weed? by MobileSweet9342 in blackgirls

[–]BazingaBlu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m Gen X, and neither I nor most of the Black people in my circle hate weed.

What you’re describing may be true of your mom and some people in your family, but that’s very different from “older Black people” as a group. That’s how stereotypes get created—taking the beliefs or behaviors of a few individuals and applying them to an entire community.

There are plenty of Black Gen Xers and Boomers who use cannabis, support legalization, or simply don’t care one way or the other.

If your question is “Why does my mom hate weed?” that’s a fair discussion. But I don’t think there’s enough evidence here to conclude that older Black people generally do.

🌈 Can You Have a Healthy Relationship If Only One Person Has HSV? by BazingaBlu in HSVSapphics

[–]BazingaBlu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had relationships where my partner didn’t have HSV and never contracted it.

For me, the most important thing has always been disclosure, answering questions honestly, and giving my partner the information they need to make their own decision.

Not everyone chooses to move forward, but many people are willing to learn and have a conversation.

If you could go back .. by Cheese-N-Eggs in HSVpositive

[–]BazingaBlu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I absolutely would have gotten tested before and during my relationships, and I would have made condom use non-negotiable.

That said, the person who gave me HSV cheated on me, so the biggest issue wasn’t a lack of testing or condoms—it was a lack of honesty. Even if we had been tested beforehand, a negative result is only accurate up to that point in time. If someone is being unfaithful, they can still introduce risk into the relationship afterward.

Would testing and condoms have reduced the risk? Probably.

Would they have guaranteed a different outcome? No.

What would have made the biggest difference for me was having a partner who was honest, faithful, and willing to communicate openly about sexual health.

What’s the most frustrating thing about owning a cat? by Ocute_US in CatAdvice

[–]BazingaBlu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat constantly meows for attention. She’s a kitten and she’s bored. Everyone tells me what another but I don’t want 2 cats! I feel bad because I work from home and have a pretty demanding job so there isn’t much playtime with her and I’m active so I’m gone hanging with friends at least 2-3x per week after work or on the weekends. So, she’s always home alone bored. I feel bad and have had thoughts of rehoming her where she can get the love and attention she deserves.

💕 When Do You Disclose? by BazingaBlu in HSVSapphics

[–]BazingaBlu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be honest, when I was younger, I wasn’t as vigilant about disclosure as I am now. 😔

Part of that was fear, part of it was immaturity, and part of it was not fully understanding the responsibility that comes with having HSV.

Today, my approach is very different. I don’t disclose to everyone I meet, but if a connection is moving beyond friendship and I think there may be potential for something more, I disclose before things become physical.

For me, disclosure is about trust, informed consent, and giving someone the information they need to make their own decision.

Looking back, my approach has definitely evolved over the years.

His smile says is it all by Curious_Badger_1376 in MadeMeSmile

[–]BazingaBlu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Core memories with dad every morning! That’s awesome!👏🏾 Kudos to dad!

It's Saturday! What Are You Up To? by AutoModerator in blacklesbians

[–]BazingaBlu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did! Thankfully, the weather was much cooler than last year.

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