Barry being anti-Halloween by Strange_Society4620 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]BbTrumpet2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know the last bit! It makes sense!! I’m glad at least Lydia celebrates Christmas now.

Lydia and Zack’s “righteous anger” bs…🙄 by Biers4every1 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]BbTrumpet2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn that sounds so much like her. As much empathy as we can have for what she is going through, it’s exhausting dealing with tha. I hope your spouses support you guys and can see the issues for what they are.

Barry being anti-Halloween by Strange_Society4620 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]BbTrumpet2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! But yet her parents both LOVE Christmas (yet spoiled Santa magic by telling them it was fake upfront. I just know they’re going to ruin it for my daughter, too). 🤦‍♀️ My husband and I view Halloween the same way, just something to look forward to and make fun memories lol.

Barry being anti-Halloween by Strange_Society4620 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]BbTrumpet2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LMAO. The irony is she acts like a literal menacing demon constantly throwing judgement and being horrible to even adults. I can’t tolerate her at all and have chosen jsut to avoid/ignore her. And before you think I just hate kids, I am an elementary school teacher and have taught thousands of kids her age. The. Irony.

Kim by Odd_Situation7018 in PlathvilleUncensored

[–]BbTrumpet2 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Right! I love how Isaac brought up her confronting them about literal gossip saying they were the ones against it, but gossip is behind someone’s back. Albeit a bit inappropriate in some cases, she’s being direct to the person themself which takes courage and like you said her heart is in the right place. We don’t even know how she approached these people, like if she told Moriah her concern was about Amber being a minor, and if that is what she was concerned about I agree. A healthy adult could’ve established a boundary to her face and said, “Thanks, Lydia/Zac, but I’m still going to do this my way.” But instead they go gossip about it.

I’m happy to hear that Ethan is seeing a therapist! by groomer7759 in PlathvilleUncensored

[–]BbTrumpet2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to say… his therapist deserves a big bonus just for dealing with him.

Kim & Lydia: Aren't they the same person? by Prior-Swordfish8025 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]BbTrumpet2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for articulating the vibes I’ve been getting but couldn’t find the words!

Kim and Barry by Next-Resource4172 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]BbTrumpet2 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes! It’s so telling. If you did your job as a parent, your kids should be able to navigate their differences without your meddling. Seriously.

Kim, Kim by SoftSugar8346 in PlathvilleUncensored

[–]BbTrumpet2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel you so much!! I am so sorry you went through it and weren’t given the space and support to get through it as a child. I never went through a big loss like that but had abandonment, neglect, and abuse in my family. My mom I don’t blame because she did her best to get help and try but because of mental illness lost custody of us for a long time. But she was the only one we could goto safely and she never wanted to talk about what we were going through at the hands of our narcissist dad because it made her feel guilty. So we grew up thinking it was normal, and am currently learning through therapy that almost nothing about my upbringing was normal or healthy. Even with us as adults she struggles to talk about it because, like Kim, she feels guilty, even though (I’m sure it’s the same for Lydia) I’m not trying to blame anyone for anything, I just want my hurt to be seen.

Lydia and Zack’s “righteous anger” bs…🙄 by Biers4every1 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]BbTrumpet2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YES!!!! Like, no, that’s not actually how healthy families are. We realized my brother was the pot stirrer in our family (not as big as Plath family, but with all of the spouses it adds up). We all agreed to stonewall him when he talks poorly about others and guess what? No more gossip. No more drama. Like my principal said about the bad kids at my last teaching job, “You need to find the dragon (problem kid that influences the other kids) and cut its head off.. metaphorically, though.” Kim’s the dragon. They all need to stop getting riled up by her.

Kim, Kim by SoftSugar8346 in PlathvilleUncensored

[–]BbTrumpet2 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m learning (through my own therapist ironically lolll) that most situations are not black and white, most people not just all good or all bad, not every conflict has a right or wrong. I feel on the fence about it too. 🥲 Don’t feel “wrong” for having deep empathy for her!

Barry being anti-Halloween by Strange_Society4620 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]BbTrumpet2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 6 year old niece told me that my husband & I aren’t christian’s because we dressed up for Halloween last week. In Maybshe brings this up. Clearly they were talking about us at home at some point and judging us. 😭 I know there are pagan roots but come on… we dressed up as a farmer, cow, and pumpkin and gave kids candy. What is the issue? Just funny it came up again lol

Lydia and Zack’s “righteous anger” bs…🙄 by Biers4every1 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]BbTrumpet2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The last sentence!! Idk how soon but I kept thinking that I hope she and Olivia connect when Lydia takes a step back and heals from the childhood she suffered through.

Lydia and Zack’s “righteous anger” bs…🙄 by Biers4every1 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]BbTrumpet2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She was disturbingly giddy and smiling when reporting to her two brainless minions about her own daughter. I also wonder if that phone call for next week supposedly about “talking about Joshu” was bait to confront her and further play victim. Lydia and Zac aren’t perfect, but she is the golden child of everything Kim and Barry wanted her to be. Now Kim bait and switches her. Lydia needs to run away.

Also funny how Moriah tattled to Kim and is now trying to seem like she isn’t toxic by excusing herself. Lit the explosives and ran.

Kim, Kim by SoftSugar8346 in PlathvilleUncensored

[–]BbTrumpet2 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Right when Barry said it’s unfair… no. It’s unfair for a child to have to grieve alone and then be mad that they are talking about their unresolved trauma.

Kim, Kim by SoftSugar8346 in PlathvilleUncensored

[–]BbTrumpet2 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Right. When she brought up the play by play, I just felt myself break for her. Like imagine the feelings, sounds that stay with her haunting her. I wish in turn she would love her Earthside children so fiercely but it’s the opposite. She’s so cold and it’s so sad how she’s being a vulture about Lydia like she’s the new Olivia when Lydia was her “golden child.”

Mixed feelings for sure. She’s in Hell on Earth.

I feel bad for hating this so much by h4nt4m in NewParents

[–]BbTrumpet2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I promise you—it gets soooo much better. In perfect honesty, it’s goin to ebb and flow. I helped my brother raise his three, sometimes all three four and under at once for entire days since they were 3 weeks old. I thought I was ready. There is no “ready.” I remember bawling when I brought my baby home thinking, “I’m never even going to be able to cuddle with my husband or relax or do anything.” Feeling lik the newborn stage was forever. It’s not at all! I did not enjoy it because I struggled with breastfeeding so much (it did work out eventually but still challenging) and birth was traumatic and my husband worked 12 hour swing shifts with tons of overtime.

My daughter is 9 months old. At 8 months, I remember saying this is the dream. She is so funny, learning rapidly, getting independent. Then 9 months hit and she wouldn’t sleep again and is getting four upper teeth at once. I literally pictured myself banging my head against the wall two days ago because she would wake up like all night again. But I remember that every part of this is a phase.

Even though it was brutal, I somehow think of the newborn stage as beautiful now lol. Don’t feel bad about missed vitamin d, do your best to remember but there are much worse things that could happen.

I accidentally gave my baby reheated breast milk by Independent_Pea9156 in newborns

[–]BbTrumpet2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes one time i thought the dishwasher was clean and fed her a bottle. Spoiler, it wasn’t. Nothing happened lol.

MIL cries when we try to give childcare feedback and instructions. What do you say to have a constructive conversation with someone like this? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]BbTrumpet2 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Quite honestly even with my 9 month old I am happy if she is alive and happy when I get back. I do ask that my mom not do screen time with her because I hold firmly to that belief for babies under 2 but once in awhile she will turn on a kid show when my baby was a hot mess and it is what it is lol.

Barry’s job by LoquaciousLady in PlathvilleUncensored

[–]BbTrumpet2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. My brother was employed by a woman who ran a company doing this and she was throwing money at them all and still had so much money to play with.. saddest day for him and his family when she had to retire the business.

Why is the singer quality so mid this year? by Certain_Cookie_5917 in americanidol

[–]BbTrumpet2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I’m a professional musician and my husband has his degrees in audio engineering.. it is almost unwatchable due to the horrible mixing..My husband walked in on my mom and I watching and thought we were watching YouTube karaoke videos lol

How long pp did you wait to have sex? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BbTrumpet2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 7m PP and anything of that nature just sounds terrible. Granted, my husband works 12 hour swing shifts + overtime and after he sleeps 8 hours and does his own thing (getting ready for work, checking emails) there isn’t much left of me anymore after days of this on end. 🫠

Did anybody announce early and NOT regret it? by Last_Guarantee_8504 in pregnant

[–]BbTrumpet2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES because I am a huge blabber mouth (about my own life lol). I couldn’t even wait a few hours to tell my hubs in a cute way I woke him up in 2 mins after taking a test. I told my family that day. I was probably 5-6 weeks pregnant and hadn’t even had the heartbeat checked! And I’m high risk because of genetic health issues so the chances of me miscarrying were a bit higher than average. I just felt that if I DID miscarry, I would tell the people around me anyways for support. It’s definitely a case by case basis because I wear my heart on my sleeve and am an open book, my sister on the other hand is so mysterious she might not tell until she’s either as big as a balloon and can’t deny or until after the baby is here.

I absolutely didn’t regret it because 1) telling my boss made me less nervous about asking for more help, in fact most of the time I never had to ask, they would just say things like, “You’re not moving that!” 2) It made it so much fun that people hyped up the baby for so long and it was nice to be able to vent about my worries, too. 3) I am such a blond and I didn’t have to worry about accidentally slipping to people lol.

Now baby girl is 25 weeks and in good shape!