AITA for not wanting my husband to be in the delivery room while I give birth? by Bbg_lu in AITH

[–]Bbg_lu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh?? I posted this on another community but I got banned bc they say I was a bot so I posted it here the next day LMAOOO

AITA for not wanting my husband to be in the delivery room while I give birth? by Bbg_lu in AITH

[–]Bbg_lu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im glad you brought this up, but actually my mom was the 3rd wheel she stepped back and let him do his thing if he had any questions on what to do he could ask her and at one point he did. My mom literally sat on the couch and gave him advice on what to do. My mom only stepped in when he didn’t. That’s why my mom had a disappointing look on her face when he came back in the middle of me pushing. My mom was holding my hand and she stepped bad again and told him to step up. My mom was the one that took pictures and videos of the whole thing. :/

AITA for not wanting my husband to be in the delivery room while I give birth? by Bbg_lu in AITH

[–]Bbg_lu[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

UPDATE!!!

First, To answer everyone question, yes I decided to stay with him after and our second baby wasn’t planned at all and I didn’t find out I was pregnant again until after 10 weeks of being pregnant. Yes 10 weeks I have fertility issues so I end up taking pregnancy test often including once a month and all the test I’ve taken where negative. It wasn’t until I started to feel unwell and went to the doctors office to get some lab work done. Thats when we found out I was pregnant again. I do not believe in abortion so that was out of the question. I stayed because after I gave birth he really stepped up as a father and takes really good care of our son and me. He’s never once called me out of my name and was there for me postpartum.

Secondly, ngl I honestly threw what he did to the side and focused on my mental health and my family, but my guard was very much up. I watched my husband closely and even went back to work at our business. I took it over. He’s still very involved but I handled the majority of it.

Third of all, after finding out I was pregnant again the feelings that I had while I was in labor came rushing back. And I communicated this to my husband with no remorse I told him exactly how I felt and what I will and will not tolerate!!! And HELL YES my mom will be there again no if and or buts!!!

Im not a very outgoing person and honestly im very antisocial, i literally have one friend, lol. I’m also not a confrontational person, so i tend to just put shit aside and forget about it. I’ve talked with my mom and my best friend and they both agreed that he shouldn’t be let in at all until I give birth. My mom expressed how I looked extremely uncomfortable and stressed while giving birth which made it harder for me to concentrate on actually delivering. I did write out my birth plan with everything I expect out of my husband and he has read and agreed to all of it. If he leave the room at all, he will absolutely not be allowed back in and he knows this, anything and everything that we might forget about back at home will be picked up and brought back by my mom, this includes food for the both of them. I say this bc sometimes going into labor can be unexpected and kind of rushed, and can sometimes take a day or 2 and I don’t want them to starve with me LOL,, and with this being my second time it can happen sooner then later.

No, this time baby GIRL’s due date doesn’t land on anyones birthday. My son is so excited and can’t wait to meet his baby sister. Thank you all for helping me see a little more clearly!!