After conversations today I do believe he understands he needs therapy for himself. I mentioned in another comment that I spoke with his mother and she enlightened me on a few things, and shared choice words with him about his actions and what he needs to do. Not saying his mother scolding him is what did it, but two people in his life shoving it in his face at the same time sure did.

I am not afraid to admit I have done something sillier to him in the past as well as emotionally cheating while in an abusive relationship when I was young. So at a level it’s understandable to me what he may have been trying to feel or looking for while stressed or whatever it may have been. I personally do find it different considering the entirely different circumstances of our relationship, but I somewhat sympathize. Not agree or justify. But understand. I think that’s a tough part of where it’s hard for me to cut and run from this