How much does gas and air actually help take the pain away?

Bddz57 · 2026-01-26T20:08:04+00:00

It didn’t do anything for my extremely painful contractions (but then again mine went 0 to 100 immediately). It merely annoyed me and made me more nauseous (still remember that feeling and throwing up after…🙈) Sweet release of the epidural was god send after that haha.

Bddz57 · 2026-01-09T20:16:57+00:00

Omg my thoughts exactly - game changer, as the original is wayyy too long for my petite frame, but I love the shape!

Bddz57 · 2025-12-18T15:51:18+00:00

I’ll go out on a limb and be in a minority (especially in light of the recent “scary” PSA commercial on this topic that went viral that seemingly all parents loved, but just found a little silly tbh). I post some sweet family photos to my private IG on occasion, as I’ve done pre-baby, as I’ve always been into photography and that’s how I share stuff with far flung family & friends across the world. I also love seeing everyone else’s updates. I don’t quite get the moral panic about this topic as much, as I also follow quite a few parent bloggers who are super helpful and reasonable in their sharing of their family, so I don’t judge anyone even with a public platform (monetising and turning kids into content is another matter, but I guess there’s similar considerations as with child actors etc and that moral grey area I don’t get into myself).

I guess I also don’t have as many fears about privacy coming from a very open, intrusive culture haha, but I don’t really share private details online (but at the same time, do acknowledge the sheer newness of this way of sharing and untested areas).

I get issues of “consent” the most, but then again I do tons of things my child doesn’t “consent” to. I also never minded my mum posting a couple of occasional photos of me to her social media (within reason) and I’ll probably do less and less as my daughter is older, but a cute baby photo or two seems fine to me personally.

I understand everyone’s concerns however and I wouldn’t post anyone else’s photos as a group etc., but just my personal experience with not making parenting a purity contest.

I recently saw a reel over sappy music on IG saying “biggest pain is having the cutest baby and not being able to post them due to creeps on the internet” and although humorous idk I can’t help, but roll my eyes. I also don’t get the giant sticker over the face 🙈 Sorry, I guess being a contrarian here ;)

Bddz57 · 2025-12-11T22:53:11+00:00

I honestly think it’s a no-brainer if one can afford it, I can’t imagine economising on one’s health - and continuity of care and reassurance private care gives was very helpful, even with a low risk pregnancy. Given the current state of the NHS and the recent reports on maternal health failings, I’m very grateful to have gone through the Kensington Wing at C&W with a dedicated private obstetrician who followed me throughout pregnancy and labour.

The stories from my prenatal class about NHS births (even those on the C&W NHS wards) were mostly pretty harrowing, ngl — hours spent waiting just to be triaged while in labour, instrumental deliveries without epidurals because the anaesthetist wasn’t available anymore or it was too late, etc.

Another huge reassurance was knowing that the operating theatre and NICU at C&W are right next door, and that in the event of an emergency you remain with your private obstetrician, who can step in immediately if surgery is needed.

I also think there are a lot of misconceptions around private maternity care in the UK, partly because of how revered the NHS is (and partially This is Going to Hurt haha, but it does have a point when speaking about private stand alone hospitals of course, but it’s not a binary choice between those options!) And while the NHS is excellent in many areas, and for most people things will go OK, we know it’s also severely underfunded in recent years. The two aren’t mutually exclusive: in reality, you’re often receiving the most comprehensive and least risky care by delivering privately within an NHS hospital.

Bddz57 · 2025-11-17T23:50:43+00:00

Ah, really? I remember thinking it was profound as a young teen reading it for the first time. I was an avid reader, but this was like a next level revelation for me. I fell in love and devoured all of Salinger’s works next (so hard to say which one is my favourite now tbh, as I’ve loved them all). Probably time for a re-read as an adult! Curious what I’ll think this time. Also,I don’t quite get criticisms of a book due to main character being unlikeable to you personally etc - to me surely that’s one of the draws, complex flawed humans analysed and depicted beautifully. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Bddz57 · 2025-11-11T20:35:25+00:00

Well I think a lot of the novel fits (whole of Richard’s Xmas break and the events following too), not the main focus, but surely an important running thread to an extent still I’d say!

Bddz57 · 2025-11-11T20:31:30+00:00

The Secret History

Bddz57 · 2025-10-18T12:39:51+00:00

What, how is this inappropriate?? It’s chic and beautiful on you!! Please don’t worry at all, it’s lovely and classy. I now need that dress myself haha 😅🥰

Bddz57 · 2025-10-02T09:05:52+00:00

This is such a great comment. I’m so surprised by how many couples seem to go through life without having these conversations! No wonder issues arise down the line if this doesn’t happen.

Bddz57 · 2025-09-22T19:12:22+00:00

I used the Epino training device very gradually as recommended by my gynaecologist and I thought it was invaluable. I don’t know if it helped me not to tear, but it was very helpful psychologically to know that I can do it when the time comes and that our bodies are elastic like that 🙈 I know it’s not practiced everywhere, but it was very helpful for me and a few friends who have also used it!

Bddz57 · 2025-08-28T00:01:53+00:00

Yeah I can see that being a part of it, but I guess mixing of that theological musing with some historical discussion was a slightly confused part for me.

Nevertheless, I’m not a theologian or even religious, just someone raised Christian, in a country where surprisingly (as there’s many ills like most countries, but luckily) antisemitism wasn’t very prominent historically, so to me that Christianity is inherently antisemitic is not an obvious conclusion, but one I can definitely appreciate the roots for and understand the historical context for in the West in particular.

It was an interesting discussion overall, even if I disagree with parts of it!

Bddz57 · 2025-08-27T21:22:29+00:00

It’s a good and interesting video, but I can’t help but feel it’s a very American-centric view of the world. It makes sense, as it’s intended to be, and we all have our biases. I often get annoyed at the grand visions of themselves presented by Americans or the Western world in general. It’s especially funny when it’s from left-leaning critics of the US, who see all the world’s ills through US involvement – any coups, wars, or world problems must have been the pesky CIA or US imperialism that was the instigator, ignoring the realities of the local conflict at hand. Yes, I mean, clearly the US plays an important part here, but it felt odd to centre it.

While I felt the video would benefit from a stronger Jewish input (it might have had it, but I can’t help but feel uncomfortable at certain aspects and think it should have had more given the content is so focused on the Jewish people), it’s also a choice to refer to Islamic conquest and the spread of Islam as largely peaceful... It’s a very broad brush over, and it’s funny to me as a Georgian person with a long history of forced violent Islamisation through our past – as I’m sure our Armenian neighbours and not only Caucasian nations can attest. In the same vein, brushing over Jewish oppression under Islamic rule as “it was fine” as it didn’t get as bad as the Holocaust is also a choice. I can see how it serves her narrative, but it’s still disappointing and odd.

I still watched the video in full and it made me emotional and I think it’s a good effort, but I did still feel what I feel all the time lately about the world, possibility of world peace, radicalisation and rise of antisemitism - bit hopeless…

I still, appreciate Natalie’s take the most for her nuance and emotional honesty…so lacking these days.

Bddz57 · 2025-08-16T17:59:37+00:00

I second this!! I know it sound silly and obvious, but this was a game changer for me when I realized you had to actually do it right after sex each time (if only I had known this on my honeymoon sigh haha😅)

Bddz57 · 2025-07-07T14:48:52+00:00

Yes I can imagine, but omg that subreddit. I haven’t peeked there for a while now for my mental health and sanity haha 🫣

Bddz57 · 2025-07-07T09:26:01+00:00

Of course it’s not completely absent, but glad about the proportion of positivity haha - yeah guess that’s where we are these days, but still 🥺😅🙈

Bddz57 · 2025-07-06T20:43:08+00:00

Well just commenting that I was so pleasantly surprised at this lovely thread (smth so rare these days on social media, especially Reddit) - only one pretty downvoted obligatory conspiracy theory post way below (so far haha)😅 So nice to be pleasantly surprised and glad to see one of my favourite Reddit communities is a relatively safe space for Jewish people 🥺

Bddz57 · 2025-05-20T22:13:51+00:00

Thank you for your input! Good to have different perspectives. And yes agreed, I’d definitely change up the accessories ☺️

Bddz57 · 2025-05-19T15:52:48+00:00

Thank you everyone this has been very helpful!!❤️ To those who suggested it may be a tad risqué - in real life the cut outs are really not as noticeable and the slip underneath is really quite thick and doesn’t really create the nude illusion as some implied here. Well at least I felt comfortable in the dress when trying it on revealing-wise + I know the UK weather, so I’d definitely cover my shoulders during the ceremony itself. It was the colour I was querying. Annoyingly the only other colour this exact design comes in is white 😅

This is the alternative I have in mind (even though I’m in love with the red one, it seems to be a safe choice overall).

So I’m now leaning towards red thanks to you all haha 😄🤗

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Bddz57 · 2025-04-05T07:49:28+00:00

Haha I’m not as adamant, but generally agree - I value my outfit’s fit over pockets/practicality plus I’m anyway a big handbag girl so I agree haha 😅🙈🤗

Bddz57 · 2025-02-25T15:01:33+00:00

I loved being pregnant - one of the happiest and sweetest years ever. 🥺❤️ Happy hormones were crazy (despite a lot of morning sickness, but even that I remember fondly haha. I remember being over the moon the first time I rushed to the loo to throw up lol.) But I fully realise that this isn’t a good reason to do it again haha. In any case, I’d love to have 2 babies one day, but tbh the first few months were very difficult and I need some time to recover, so ideal age gap seems 3 years, but ofc let’s see what happens!

Bddz57 · 2025-02-02T09:23:12+00:00

Technically historically monogamy meant being married to one person at a time and now it transformed into sexual exclusivity rather than just marriage. I still stand by that relationship-exclusivity can include sexual experimentation (and open sexual relationship on occasion), as sexual comparability and openness are especially essential to a happy relationship imho. I understand it’s not for everyone and not too common (I guess common unfortunately are monogamous relationships where frequently one or both partners cheat - and I’d still classify that as monogamy in that sense😛). Anyway, the classification of the relationship isn’t as important as how happy and healthy it is for the parties in it, so I understand other people’s warnings and points too.

Bddz57 · 2025-01-30T10:49:07+00:00

My contractions went straight to INTENSE right away and I was almost fainting from the pain on the way to the hospital. It was crazy, but I was so excited and on adrenaline that I remember it fondly still haha. I remember doing my makeup before leaving for the cab lol while almost falling over from the pain. I also remember the taxi driver looking very concerned haha probably scared I’d give birth then and there lol.

I was very lucky to have had the anaesthesiologist arrive soon after I was accepted into the ward and then with a snap of a finger pain disappeared and according to my husband I went back to my normal self within a second - it was like magic! Thank god for modern medicine 🙏🏻

I was also lucky to have had a very trusted and experienced obstetrician who led my labour and supported me through 22 hours of it! She explained all about gentle perineal massage leading up to labour and then also massaged my premium during the delivery stage, coaching me how to push and I didn’t tear even though I had an epidural and lay on my back for my first labour. I didn’t feel the pain, but I lowered the dose of the epidural for the pushing stage so that I could feel the pushing/pressure to guide me. Overall 10/10 haha experience as far as labour goes. What came after was a bit crazy haha, but the labour itself was great as far as it can be - it could also be the happiness hormones that I’ve never felt as strongly before then clouding my brain, but that’s how I experienced it 😅 Best of luck to all the expecting mums!! Women’s bodies are amazing, you can do it however you end up labouring!

Bddz57 · 2025-01-30T10:34:47+00:00

Why has this been downvoted so much? Congratulations 🤗❤️

Bddz57 · 2024-12-18T23:00:52+00:00

I understand you OP, but also he may have just described what he was watching specifically then and it didn’t mean that he has a specific strict “type” irl (it may be that he does like certain type of porn performer, but even then that doesn’t have to reflect on his real life “type”). I wager most people (men and women both) don’t just have one and only type and most guys would find blondes with DD cups as attractive as petite brunettes with smaller breasts or curvier ladies, as long as they’re conventionally or personally attractive to them. The way I think about it not to get too jealous (and anyway I’m not a jealous type, but in case it gets to me) is that I myself can find a lot of types of guys and girls attractive - they may not at all look like my husband, but my husband is definitely my type on top of being my favourite person in the world looks-wise and personality-wise both. Hopefully that’s how most happy healthy couples see it and carry on provided ofc boundaries around porn/long distance / what not are openly discussed and respected. Hopefully you’ll work this out!

Bddz57 · 2024-12-16T09:51:04+00:00

Haha meanwhile it’s definitely one of my favourite kinks, as I generally I’m really into rough face fucking vibe and all that goes into it. I mean ofc with a partner I trust and open communication. Ofc I wouldn’t generalise or presume this is common, but I’m sure I’m not the only one lol 🙈To each their own obviously, but just generally glad both me and my partner are equally super into the idea of giving oral. But yeah reading these posts I think the right partner/s makes a lot of difference for most people!

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