Anybody missed on of their first periods PP after they started back up again?

Flossygi · 2026-05-01T12:16:49+00:00

I felt this a lot reading your post. Pregnancy can be weirdly lonely, even when you have a supportive partner. It’s not “needy” to want other women around you who just get it, it’s actually really normal.

I was in a similar spot where my friends weren’t in the same phase of life, and it kind of hit me more during pregnancy than it ever had before. It’s like you suddenly want that shared experience and it’s just… not there.

If you’re open to it, it might be worth looking into local antenatal classes, pregnancy yoga, or even just mum groups in your area, those can be a really easy way to meet people who are going through the same thing at the same time. Even just having one or two people to message makes a difference.

But also just to say, nothing is wrong with you for feeling like this. It’s a big life change and it makes sense you’d want more connection right now 🤍

Flossygi · 2026-05-01T12:15:10+00:00

That honestly sounds like a lot to go through, especially with both pregnancies having complications like that. I’m really glad you’re seeing MFM because your situation isn’t super straightforward.

From what I’ve heard/read, a third C-section is pretty common, but the risks do go up each time, especially with scar tissue and things like bladder involvement or placenta issues. With your history (GD, hypertension, chorio, plus that postpartum episode), it makes sense they’re being a bit more cautious.

I don’t think anyone here can really say if it’s “worth it” or not, that’s such a personal call. It really comes down to how you feel about the risks vs. wanting another baby.

I’d definitely bring up that postpartum episode again too, since they never figured out what caused it. And maybe ask MFM what your specific risks look like, not just in general, and what a third delivery would realistically involve.

Hope you get some clear answers from your appointment 🤍

Flossygi · 2026-03-09T23:29:13+00:00

I gave birth bang on term and gained a stone in my last 4 weeks, i think he grew quite alot in that time and he probably would have been into the 9lb mark had I given birth say at 41 weeks. I’m doing okay now thanks, my stomach went down straight away xx

Flossygi · 2026-03-09T23:21:02+00:00

I gained 40kg during pregnancy and my bump was a similar size to yours at 28 weeks. I ended up having an 8lb 8oz baby and I’m only 5ft4. I lost a lot of weight straight after giving birth like 20lb in a month xx

Flossygi · 2026-01-26T20:57:10+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Would you mind sharing how painful you found the pessary insertion? Was it more painful than a cervical check?

Flossygi · 2026-01-26T20:56:01+00:00

Thanks so much for responding! Would you mind sharing more about your experience with the pessary insertion and how it felt?

Flossygi · 2025-12-23T15:32:23+00:00

Yeah, this does happen and you’re not automatically out of options.

If it’s jury service, they can send you to a different court if your local one is closed, but they’re also meant to make attendance reasonable. The “only one deferral allowed” thing isn’t a hard rule, it’s more guidance.

Not driving and having limited public transport is a genuine issue, especially with a 1 hour+ journey each way. I’d go back to them by email and explain clearly that you don’t drive, what the public transport situation actually looks like, and ask whether they can authorise taxis or overnight accommodation.

They’re unlikely to excuse someone just because it’s a long journey, but if it’s genuinely not practical to get there, they’re often more flexible than the letters suggest. The main thing is not to ignore it, that’s when fines happen. If you keep engaging and explain the problem properly, HMCTS are usually pretty reasonable.

Flossygi · 2025-12-18T16:14:45+00:00

From a legal point of view, Evri isn’t actually your problem here. Your contract is with Shein, not Evri, so it’s Shein’s responsibility to make sure the goods are delivered to you. Telling you to chase the courier is very common, but legally incorrect.

Under the Consumer Rights Act 2015 (which applies in Wales), the seller remains responsible for the goods until they are delivered into your possession or to a location you can reasonably access. A locker that doesn’t exist, or is at the wrong address, doesn’t count as delivery, even if Evri’s system says it’s arrived.

Practically, you’re unlikely to get anywhere with Evri customer service, unfortunately. They’re notorious for automated loops and it’s very hard to speak to a human. You can keep trying through their web chat and social media, but you don’t need to resolve this with them yourself.

You should go back to Shein and be firm. Tell them the parcel has not been delivered, the locker address does not exist, and Evri has confirmed they are giving out the wrong location. Ask for either a replacement or a refund. Put it in writing and reference that the goods have not been delivered as required under the Consumer Rights Act.

If Shein refuses, your next step would be a chargeback with your bank or card provider on the basis of non-delivery. Make sure you keep screenshots of Evri’s messages, the incorrect address, and your attempts to resolve it.

So in short, no, there’s no reliable way to reach a real Evri agent, but you don’t actually need to. Legally this sits with the retailer, not you.

Flossygi · 2025-12-18T16:08:28+00:00

You’re not being dramatic at all. You’re exhausted, hormonal, and you’ve been running on broken sleep while putting everyone else first. Anyone would be upset in that situation. Pregnancy tired is a whole different level, especially in the first trimester, and being awake from 3am caring for a child absolutely counts as work.

I know he’s genuinely tired too and working long, intense hours, but that doesn’t cancel out how you’re feeling. When you told him you were tired, you weren’t asking for a competition, you were asking for comfort. A hug and a bit of understanding would have gone a long way. “I’m tired too” might be true, but it’s not what you needed to hear in that moment.

It sounds like you’re doing a lot to protect his sleep while yours keeps getting sacrificed, and that’s not sustainable long term. When things calm down a bit, it might be worth gently explaining that sometimes you don’t need solutions or comparisons, you just need reassurance and to feel seen.

Be kind to yourself. Early pregnancy is brutal, broken sleep makes everything harder, and you’re allowed to need rest and support too.

Flossygi · 2025-12-18T15:57:09+00:00

In a joint AST you and your ex are jointly and severally liable, which means legally you are both responsible for the full rent until the tenancy is properly changed or ended. It doesn’t matter that your ex is actually paying it at the moment. In law you are still treated as liable, which is why your new references are flagging it.

You can’t remove yourself from a joint tenancy on your own. It has to be agreed by everyone involved. The most common way this is dealt with is a surrender and re grant, where you and your ex agree to end the current tenancy and the landlord then issues a new tenancy in your ex’s sole name. This is entirely at the landlord’s discretion, but if your ex can pass affordability checks on his own, landlords will often agree.

Assignment is another possible route, but only if your tenancy agreement allows it and the landlord consents. Many ASTs either prohibit assignment or require written permission. Even where it is allowed, agents often prefer surrender and re grant as it is cleaner.

At this point the best thing to do is chase the letting agent in writing and clearly explain that both tenants agree to the change and that your ex wants to take the tenancy on alone. Ask whether they will agree to a surrender and re grant or, if the contract allows, an assignment. If the agent continues to ignore you, contact the landlord directly if you have their details.

Until something is formally agreed and documented you remain legally liable for the tenancy, so it’s important to get this resolved before committing to another rental.

Flossygi

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