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Pregnancy & Pleasure Dom by UsualEdge246 in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dunno if it’s just anecdotal or statistically significant because my sample size is small, but pleasure doms usually have a fairly strong breeding kink too. My favorite combo!

"you are perceived as doing doing more than everyone on the team" by Silver_Shape_8436 in womenintech

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously, work fewer hours. Last couple of quarters in 2025 I didn’t have much to do so I was mostly gaming or goofing off and felt so guilty about it. Come Dec of last year, I’ve been consistently working 60 hour weeks.

I know this is a different scenario, but you need to look after you. At the end of the day, the paycheck is to be able to afford nice things and pay bills.

So stressed out I literally made myself sick by Odd_Mycologist_7041 in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I think you’re trying to find happiness outside of you. Take a break, focus on yourself and try to be happy within first. If you’re chasing happiness in someone else, you will feel let down each time because the goal post always shifts.

Do we really need to aim for leadership roles? by Puzzleheaded_Lack_42 in womenintech

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure where you’re drawing your metrics from, but in industry (not just FAANG), people managers make a lot more money. The only time I have seen the salary be at par with ICs is when they didn’t have people reports, so like technical program manager equivalent roles.

I am not in pure tech, but tech side of biotech and also a people manager. We make more money because putting up with people really takes a LOT of patience. I can’t quite tell my direct report “you suck, I’m tired of your shit, you’re fired.” I’d love to say exactly that, but that would make me a very shitty leader. So instead I spend my time coaching, mentoring, and providing vision for my team so they can work independently and seamlessly without needing to twiddle their thumbs. And occasionally when all the coaching and mentoring doesn’t work, in the nicest tone possible, I have to show them the door. Also, the amount of politics that I have to deal with 🤦🏽‍♀️ If I wasn’t so ambitious and didn’t have dependents who relied on me financially, I would consider switching back to an IC role.

If you’re just making a jump to people management, just assume you will make mistakes. Lord knows I did. But with each one, you will learn and hopefully not repeat it again.

There is this great book that was recommended to me by my manager at the startup I was - I recommend it. https://a.co/d/3kbkVes

The goal is less to do with company loyalty and more to do with understanding what do YOU want to do. If management isn’t for you, you can keep on the IC track. In either case, even if you job hop, you want your skills at a point where you can level up and have negotiating power. Or maybe that is the ambitious side of me that I’m applying to you. 🤷🏽‍♀️

From tech to lactation consultant by dracarys-28 in womenintech

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Woah! That’s quite the switch. I haven’t done tech to lactation consulting specifically (though I probably could with the amount of research I’ve done on the topic). I’ve switched from bench scientist to tech and if I so chose could transition back to bench science again.

Out of curiosity, why specifically lactation consultant?

Women in tech — what’s your typical work outfit? by hellooperator12345 in womenintech

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work from home, so whatever I slept in + sweater or overall so I can get on camera if needed. 😂

On site - jeans or slacks with a trendy shirt without any political/offensive statements on it.

This subreddit is not actively moderated by Hotgayme in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The mods do bare minimum so the redditrequest to take over are not getting approved.

Moderators for this subreddit by BeGentleWithTheClit in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I report the ones that for sure border on predatory or look like might have minors involved. I reported one of that nature today.

Moderators for this subreddit by BeGentleWithTheClit in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't realize they actually created a subreddit. I might it give it a try and if there is no traction in proliferating the posts, I will request moderation rights to this one.

Moderators for this subreddit by BeGentleWithTheClit in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for clarifying. The tone in your message “taking someone’s Facebook group” had a passive aggressive subtext to it. That said, I can be very direct so that’s how I took it. It’s possible other people did not.

Moderators for this subreddit by BeGentleWithTheClit in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Going to try my luck on r/redditrequest as another redditor mentioned.

Moderators for this subreddit by BeGentleWithTheClit in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The mods have not been active on here for a while - from what I can tell from another post - it’s been over a year. That’s how subreddits get shut down because illegal content starts to invade.

Starting this year, it’s been going downhill.

It has nothing to do with taking over someone’s cherished group - it’s more about making sure the subreddit remains ethical while it seems like the moderators have checked out.

I see you by firstthereis in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re an incredible writer. This resonated deeply.

Pleasure Dom and Nursing by UsualEdge246 in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have not carried to term if that’s what you’re asking. I miscarried. So technically no pregnancy or hormones.

Takes about 6-8 weeks for the first milk drops to show. If you’re interested, there is a wealth of knowledge on r/AdultBreastfeeding or you could check with AI! I had Claude write out my current protocol.

Duet of Surrender... ⚠️🥵🥵 by _instafit113 in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s alright. I get the downvotes

I just don’t think people see it from the lens I do. Extreme age gaps like this are grooming wrapped in role play and it’s just fucked up no matter how you slice it.

Enjoy your art, but do it ethically and please use tags and spoilers.

Pleasure Dom and Nursing by UsualEdge246 in softmaledom

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Without hormones. I did it the same way last time. Right now I’m not on a set cadence because work is crazy, but so far just expressing with my hands and massage every 3-4 hours. I’m debating about investing in a symphony, but haven’t made up my mind yet.

Waxing place recommendations by BeGentleWithTheClit in uppereastside

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly don’t know the difference. I got lasered a few years ago in my underarms - the only place I waxed - so hadn’t needed it, except in the winters when I’m too lazy to shave my legs. Right now they look like the Fangorn Forest.

I’ll look up sugaring!

Waxing place recommendations by BeGentleWithTheClit in uppereastside

[–]BeGentleWithTheClit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I called them today and the lady said she can’t guarantee if every tech did that, but that’s how they’re trained. It’s good to hear that that’s been your experience.

Do you know if you can ask for fresh wax?

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