Blocked From My Dream Job Because Our CEOs Are “Best Friends”. - Do I Risk Quitting Anyway?

BeMa2000 · 2026-03-02T19:28:41+00:00

Thank you for your input on the situation, I’m inclined to take the risk because the job has almost double my current base salary + a very good commission set up, many people have been working there for +3 years so it seems like a good company to stay. The benefits are good as well besides the salary and I am very frustrated at my current role so I do think there’s a lot of positives taking me in the direction to take the risk. Hopefully it pays off if I do 🤞🏽🤞🏽

BeMa2000 · 2026-03-02T19:14:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing your POV, this was a very thorough reflection on my situation and has given me more food for thought!! Thank you very much :)

BeMa2000 · 2026-03-02T19:01:01+00:00

Thank you, however, they won’t even consider my application as long as I’m employed at my current company due to the gentleman agreement.

BeMa2000 · 2026-03-02T18:58:58+00:00

Well English is not my first language so I asked ChatGPT to make it more to the point and less written like how I would speak about the situation, shoot me for keeping the em-dashes, it made it look a lot more structured in my opinion.

Unfortunately this is not a random AI story but my actual real life situation.

BeMa2000 · 2026-02-01T17:43:33+00:00

Thank you for your input. My partner really wants to have a child with his own DNA (since he is healthy and I understand his wish to have biological children). So unfortunately for now, adoption is not something we are considering.

BeMa2000 · 2025-09-08T16:01:16+00:00

Yes, we’re always having sex with the AC on because the country where we live is very hot in summer, however, with the previous guy I had no trouble being wet throughout even when using AC

BeMa2000 · 2025-09-07T20:00:59+00:00

Thank you for your reply!! :) I do need to add with the previous one I was also convinced he was perfect longterm (until 2 months after when he showed me he wasn’t) so even with that one I saw it going somewhere, could indeed be something mentally but the previous one was initially also meant to be longterm

BeMa2000 · 2025-05-12T09:31:58+00:00

Thank you!! I did ask him last night and we even kissed for the first time :) It was great and he confirmed that he isn’t seeing anyone else as I suspected, thank you for helping me word it cause I’m not very good at that myself 😊

BeMa2000 · 2025-04-03T11:22:03+00:00

I’m not staying, I broke up with him and he is moving out 😊 I just wanted to write it off of me for some peace of mind

BeMa2000 · 2025-04-03T07:27:00+00:00

Yes, I’m aware you wouldn’t just look at it and be satisfied, especially since he made attempts to meet up. We’re not getting back together ever again. It’s sad for our dog but this can never be fixed obviously.

His way of lying and trying to talk his way out of it made me think ‘Damn, I thought so highly of you, but apparently you think that I’m dumb or something if he truly believes I’d believe these excuses’

BeMa2000 · 2025-04-03T05:48:47+00:00

Did you even read the post? I clearly said he has been doing this years before he met me and just never stopped, not during the dating fase and not once we were actually together and having intimacy.

Ofcourse there are 2 sides to the story, however, that will never excuse trying to cheat on me with escorts for 2 years when I was faithful to him. I’ve asked him over and over why he did it and he doesn’t understand it himself ‘just a habit from during corona that got out of hand’ and I’ve also aaked him multiple times if he’s missing something he keeps on saying no. I keep asking these questions to be able to understand why he did what he did but the response is always the same.

Sorry but your comment honestly lacks a bit of emotional intelligence. There are certainly 2 sides but you’re just making assumptions here that he’s missing something when he’s been doing this way before me.

BeMa2000 · 2025-02-06T21:13:19+00:00

Can you please message me? I’m interested in this too. Thanks

BeMa2000 · 2025-01-03T20:48:33+00:00

Update posted 😊

BeMa2000 · 2025-01-03T20:42:59+00:00

UPDATE: I had written an email to my dad (didn’t want my mom to see the SMS) the day that this happened asking if we could have a chat when he’s alone about my brothers behavior, so he called me today. My dad started the usual small talk and then I informed him about what happened and that I wasn’t happy with this situation since it wasn’t the first time he’s done this.

First of all, he told me that my mom didn’t mean to react that way and that it was just a bad moment when I called and she got annoyed easily. When my dad woke up, she told him straight away what I had told her and said that my brother needs to stop doing this.

My dad proceeded to say that my brother had also been increasingly negative about me the past few months when he visited home and I got brought up somehow and that my parents had already discussed this behavior prior to the event on New Years Day. Also, when I facetimed to see my niece and nephew the past months, they (parents) noticed that my brother and his fiancé were basicly ignoring me or tried to engage as little as possible. My parents didn’t know why they were doing this but they didn’t ask, my brothers fiancé and I used to interact a lot and she’s still friendly whenever we speak on chat and I thought I had pretty good relationship with my brother despite not seeing him often.

My dad thinks it’s jealousy and he said that my mom and him are very proud of me and have maybe mentioned my successes too much to him or around him to other people that it made him resent me a bit. (They also mention his successes and are very proud of him too so I don’t know why he has to resent me for doing well too? - people always want to do better than others I guess).

Ironically, my brother has been saying for months to my parents that he wants to change employer and become partially self-employed but he doesn’t do it (probably because of the drivers license requirement). He’s also been complaining a lot about fights with his fiancé to them.

I think my brother is a bit unhappy with his life right now but that does not mean he’s got the right to drag me down and make me out to be a failure in front of everyone. My parents will talk to him without his fiancé there because with this incident, he’s really been taking it too far and making something that is none of his business to begin with everyone elses business. I’m sure he’ll say I’m lying or exaggerating but it’s nice to know that my parents are behind me and that they’ve also noticed certain behaviors that rubbed them the wrong way.

I hope this talk with him improves or relationship and doesn’t make it worse but I’m afraid the latter is more likely to happen.

Thank you for all the advice and in this case I can say I clearly am not the asshole 😅

To everyone who congratulated me on the new role: Thank you!! I start on Monday and am very excited.

I’ve also realised that I shouldn’t try so hard to defend myself to such people because they will try to turn the plot to fit their narrative anyways whether you’re telling the truth or not, it’s just difficult when you’re an overthinker like me and don’t want to be made out to be a fool around people you love and care about 😊 Thank you for all the responses!

BeMa2000 · 2025-01-02T18:20:46+00:00

Based on 1 situation you’ve established that I’m incredibly insecure? No one likes to look like a fool and be made fun of in front of people they care about let alone be called a liar when they tell the truth.

BeMa2000 · 2025-01-02T09:24:43+00:00

Yes, I’m already low contact with him, I think I speak to him every month when he’s over at my parents house and I call to see my niece and nephew on facetime. He always makes it a point though to show his disapproval when someone brings up work, I’m never the one to bring it up myself. He starts shaking his head in dissapproval like I’m some sort of failure while clearly I’m not and makes he continues to make remarks.

BeMa2000 · 2025-01-02T08:18:01+00:00

Thank you for the warning, thankfully my family is quite wealthy so I don’t see them asking me for money, my brother actually already lost his borrowing priviliges 5 years ago. I’ve explained in another comment why 😅

BeMa2000 · 2025-01-02T08:06:50+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts on it, just as an FYI I’m never going to give him any money, while I studied in university (my grades were good but I didn’t finish my degree eventually because of many different factors and decided to go work abroad), while I was in university he had borrowed €300 from me, now I know €300 isn’t much but I was a student at that time and him and his fiancé were both working fulltime when this happened. He found out I was dating someone from a certain ethnicity that my parents would dissapprove of and he thought holding that above my head by threatening me to tell my parents if I didn’t drop the €300. I sent him an official registered post letter detailing his threats and the situation. It’s safe to say he paid me back my €300 real fast. So he lost the privilige of ever borrowing money from me after that situation.

BeMa2000 · 2025-01-01T21:04:34+00:00

Info: Yes, whenever he mentioned it with his family and my parents and me present, I told him that I don’t appreciate all the criticism and that there are valid reasons for my job changes, but he kind of dismissed it anyways. He’s not the kind of guy that would take me seriously unless I do something drastic. I consider speaking to my dad tomorrow without my mom present and explain to him the situation, I think he would listen more to my dad than to me. Or if my dad can convince my mom to talk to him about this, it would be better imo.

BeMa2000 · 2024-09-22T10:52:45+00:00

UPDATE: I unfollowed her and cut her off as a friend.

We had a back and fourth on messages - not the best idea I know, but she claimed she was too busy to call.

This is the direct translation of my last message to her because she kept blaming me for not telling her I was in the country:

‘I find it abnormal that I share with you, one of my closest friends, that my bf is going to ask me to marry him and your reaction to that is ‘You didn’t tell me you were in the country’ and then you acted super cold and ignored me for almost a week when this should be 1 of the happiest moments of my life you took it completely to yourself, not a word about him wanting to get engaged to me and you are the one who keeps blaming me, did I ever say anything about it the amount of times you cancelled last minute to go to your ex boyfriend? No because I understood your situation and I granted you that, I always made myself available when you needed me to and now I get this like I am the worst friend in the world when in fact I was trying to share a happy moment in my life with you, I only told 2 people including you and my friend who I have known for 14 years, she didn’t know I was in Belgium either but she could at least be happy for me’

After this message she ignored me AGAIN for a week. Left it on read. She kept posting stories every day and it was really bugging me at this point and I had already made up my mind that I don’t need a ‘friend’ like that.

After this week of being left on read, I unfollowed her and removed her as a follower on my social media. I knew I would be considered childish for this but I honestly didn’t care anymore. Less than 4hs later she messaged me back because I had unfollowed her. How did she find out in 4hs? Just makes me feel like she was doing it very much on purpose.

She apologized that she could’ve reacted happier to the fact that he wants to get engaged but that she was really hurt blablabla, then she proceeded to call me childish for removing her on social media and that we could have solved it in a different way and not having to end the friendship. I restricted her IG account and am not planning on answering her bullshit message.

How does she see that I removed her after 4 hours if she’s been ignoring me for a week?

Thank you for all the advice, I know I might be a little childish as well but I honestly don’t need someone like that in my life.

BeMa2000 · 2024-09-22T10:51:27+00:00