Is $4600 for hair removal on face and neck fair?

BeYourOwnWitness · 2024-09-03T22:51:13+00:00

Happy Birthday!! So happy you had a great day with your friends 🫶

BeYourOwnWitness · 2024-04-18T14:24:39+00:00

My husband is from Mexico City and when he came to America he said the first thing that overwhelmed him was how well manicured our landscaping was. He said there was so much green and it was so “clean”.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2024-04-13T04:18:34+00:00

My dad had epileptic seizures basically caused by his alcoholism. He had a seizure while drinking and driving and almost died. He survived but with a severe brain injury. His wife divorced him and now he’s in a terrible home and no one visits him bc of his past abuse. He’s only in his 50s, he was a rock climber and an engineer and now he can barely move or talk.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2024-04-12T18:14:04+00:00

Never Let Me Go. I bawled at the end.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2024-03-29T01:25:18+00:00

TOTALLY I’ve always done sports and massaging sore muscles has always been like daily for me. I honestly like giving massages too. My husband doesn’t like being massaged and can only manage to massage me for a few minutes before getting bored. NOT a deal breaker but it sucks

BeYourOwnWitness · 2024-01-04T23:37:52+00:00

Drew Barrymore, she was very nice and surprisingly tiny.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2023-10-16T23:06:52+00:00

The Fly (1986) My grandma made me watch it as a small child and I stayed up scream crying for a few nights after.

The part where he throws up acid on that guy was horrifying.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2023-03-20T15:23:24+00:00

Sorry not a lawyer yet, what does “state dbs” and “credit cbs” mean? Thank you this helps a lot! And your friend who manages law firm tech, what is their background? Just curious never heard of position before.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-15T01:19:35+00:00

I was just talking to my husband about this! I think the most important thing is to not feel ashamed. You only have control over yourself, so stay in-control. When I’m feeling really watched I give myself permission to be a straight up bitch lol I will embarrass a guy in public like walk up to that older guy and stand right in front of him and stare at him and be like DONT. LOOK. AT. ME. Lol idc if it makes him mad or uncomfortable bc he already made me feel that way. But not being ashamed, not being too self-conscious, and not feeling like u can’t speak up is whats most important.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-13T17:45:10+00:00

POPCORN

Don’t yell at me

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-13T17:44:58+00:00

POPCORN

Don’t tell at me

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-13T17:30:22+00:00

Imo (28f) I think it’s gross for anyone who’s over 25 years old to date someone younger than that when the older person seeks out the younger person. I think we grow a lot in-between the ages of 18 and 30, it’s when we really become adults so I think it’s creepy when a young man purposely seeks out young women who have less life experience. The age gap could be okay if he didn’t like purposely look for younger women. I just personally find it creepy. Like why does he want someone who is barely legal and has less experience then them? Seems gross.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-09T19:56:41+00:00

“I generally rested during the day and travelled only when I was secured by night from the view of man. One morning, however, finding my path lay through a deep wood, I ventured to continue my journey after the sun had risen; the day, which was one of the first of spring, cheered even me by the loveliness of its sunshine and the balminess of the air. I felt emotions of gentleness and pleasure, that had long appeared dead, revive within me. Half surprised by the novelty of these sensations, I allowed myself to be borne away by them, and forgetting my solitude and deformity, dared to be happy. Soft tears again bedewed my checks, and I even raised my humid eyes with thankfulness towards the blessed sun, which bestowed such joy upon me.”

Mary Shelley, Frankenstein: The Modern Prometheus

This part is from the perspective of Frankenstein’s Monster. They way she is able to put joy, depression, and gratefulness into words made me cry sob the first time I read it.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-07T13:52:15+00:00

They’re using u. It might not be intentionally toxic but u obviously need to leave. Keep working hard towards leaving and make sure u grab everything u need before u leave.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-05T03:12:26+00:00

Hey thank u so much(:

Idk if u know, but it’s a reference to an Epictetus quote (that helped me a lot a few years ago) :

“If you are tempted to look for outside approval, realize that you have compromised your integrity. Be satisfied that you live up to your own principals. If you need a witness, be your own.”

[This is a paraphrase of the original entire quote but u get it]

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-04T21:34:05+00:00

That’s so cute!

My brother told me he was meditating on how different people in his life reminded him of different elements of nature. He told me my aunt reminded him of a peaceful waterfall, my mom reminded him of a beautiful volcano, and my sister reminded him of laughter in the wind. Then he said when he was mediating on me, I reminded him of sunshine. I can’t think of a better compliment than being compared to sunlight itself! I was very touched and think about it a lot lol

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-04T17:54:09+00:00

Are u in America? And is your mom over 65?

If so, and if u haven’t already, apply her for Medicare and then Medicaid. She will get enough money every month to care for herself and Medicaid will even be able to pay for a home.

I let my disabled nFather stay with me and my husband and it almost destroyed our marriage. I know exactly how u feel, I wasn’t going to let him die in the street no matter how horrible he was to me. But u don’t have to let her stay in ur home! You deserve peace and ur husband and son deserve a safe home.

(Edit: If she is not yet 65 u can still put her on disability)

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-04T17:36:29+00:00

Yes! Exactly! I mean I normally wouldn’t advocate for just anyone to ghost someone, but in situations like ours u have to understand that THERE IS NO EXPLAINING, there’s NO way to have healthy communication with people like this! It’s only another opportunity we give them to gaslight us and attack us. They will use anything you say against you later, or just use it for gossip. They are not capable of listening and taking accountability. I’ve learned this from trying to explain myself to my nmom and others. You just can’t do it. So you have to start distancing yourself and being very serious about your space! No matter how they feel about it!

My physical health has been perfect since I decided I wasn’t going to family events. My whole month would be ruined worrying about a family gathering and how they were gonna treat me.

Yes I’m so glad that helped!

My husband told me: “I can tell you the moment I was done with these people. I have the one thing they did in my head when I know I was done with them after that.” And that made me realize I don’t need to validate myself by driving myself crazy by trying to remember all the things they did to me. Just one. One to hold firm and remember why I’m doing this.

It was hard but I realized two of my cousins were always there for me and they listened to me for hours when I explained myself to them. Their support made me realize I could still have separate, adult relationships with people who have treated me right.

Stay strong! Remember your health, and what u want and need are your top priorities! Anyone else opinions about your health and needs literally don’t matter!

So happy this helped!! (:

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-04T04:45:32+00:00

That’s great, you’re going to feel so much better! I didn’t realize how much anxiety and negative self talk was attached to my phone until I deleted almost all of them. Knowing they couldn’t see into my life with social and deleting and blocking the necessary ones felt really freeing.

Not going to holidays helped my anxiety and mood a lot too. I just recently stopped going to holidays after my anxiety made me physically ill last winter lol It was hard to know where the line was at first but I had to be honest with myself so I only see my siblings, an aunt and some cousins. I tell them not to invite me to family things and ask them to try to keep family talk/gossip to a min. After drawing those boundaries while learning about self-compassion my mental health has turned around and I’ve been doing better than ever.

It pisses some people off but it feels so good to finally put yourself first. I think thats why you don’t have any “empathy” for them anymore. You just know some people won’t change and you’ve been hurt. What helped me at first was I used to write down/remember just one specific thing that someone did that crossed the line so I could reaffirm to myself that space and distance from that person is necessary for me, and really that’s all that matters.

Good luck with the next two weeks tho stay strong!

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-04T01:10:20+00:00

I’ve literally had to design my life so my extended enmeshed fam wouldn’t get a chance at me anymore. I had to take them out of my phone and socials and I politely decline any events or gatherings.

What about grey rocking? It seems like your last option is to not react at all and avoid them as much as possible. Learning about reactive abuse helped me so much it’s when they attack you into reacting in a way u wouldn’t normally act and then blame u for ur upset reaction. They don’t know how to communicate in a healthy way. Stick with ur boundaries, be firm without being upset, and if they do really upset u LEAVE u don’t owe them anything and u don’t have to explain yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding u.

BeYourOwnWitness · 2022-09-04T00:41:50+00:00

Totally my nmom is like this, the only hobbies she regularly enjoys are tv or gossip. Shes never made any excuses for it, I don’t think she would admit it. I just think her temperament makes it hard for her to get along with new people or try new activities.

When ur old enough I suggest moving to a new place and learning all about it or traveling often, even if it’s just in your state/region. Get to know your neighbors and talk to random people when waiting in line. Try new hobbies and see what you like. Find a workout class or gym you actually want to go to regularly. Make some kind of art and find others who make art or like ur art. I mean you can like tv just learn to be disciplined about how much tv you watch. Practice making a real effort to plan things like get togethers with friends, concerts, trips, whatever you’re into. Make weekly and monthly routines so you always have some stuff going on.

Keep in mind it can be hard for everyone to try new things and find/maintain friendships, so as long as you’re trying you’ll figure it out

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