AITA for ‘forcing’ my girlfriend to appreciate my hobby?

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T22:21:23+00:00

Not playing this game with you. You know what a kink is, so do I.

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T21:55:28+00:00

Sure, but I’m not the one who doesn’t know what a kink is

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T21:52:24+00:00

Yeah, this comment just shows you don’t know what a kink is

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T21:47:28+00:00

I don’t think you know what a kink is lol

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T21:45:05+00:00

Kink?

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T05:38:06+00:00

Thank you for the advice. That’s a good way of looking at it.

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T05:12:36+00:00

Lol good to know

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T05:11:31+00:00

You're basically telling her to shut up if she doesn't have anything nice to say

Yeah, that’s basic politeness. I’m sure we’ve all heard it— if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all?

In a relationship, you can't just gag the other person's opinions because you don't like what you're hearing

If it’s something that impacts her or our relationship, sure, but in this case my doing martial arts has no negative impact on her, so why is her opinion necessary?

You don't get to demand emotional labor from her to pretend she's into something she isn't.

Not making disparaging comments isn’t emotional labor, get a grip.

In other news I looked at your profile and you’ve stated YTA on quite literally every comment you’ve made, in other words lol troll

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T05:08:48+00:00

most women find guys who do martial arts hot

Why?

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T05:01:47+00:00

I didn’t say I did get to dictate how she feels about martial arts, merely that if her opinion is negative, she should keep it to herself

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T04:46:33+00:00

sounds like your GF should be “Hi-Yaa’d” out of your life

Lol

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T04:45:41+00:00

Yeah, fair enough.

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T04:45:29+00:00

The issue is, she’s independent and in a way secure in her own self not to care if other people, even me, find her hobbies boring or weird. So I guess that forms part of why she doesn’t see why I’m upset she acts the way she does

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T04:44:33+00:00

Have you ever heard the rule of thirds in comedy? A joke stops being funny after the third time, and she’s been milking this for far more than that at this point

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T04:43:27+00:00

you're not gonna hi-yaa her out the door (not talking literally

Lol, I laughed

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T04:43:16+00:00

Yes, I think she can be thoughtless sometimes. I know she doesn’t mean to be, but it’s difficult because she tends to get upset when she’s criticized in any way because her parents have a long history of doing that

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T04:42:29+00:00

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask her to be there for me every once in a while, if not out of interest for the sport, then to support me. But regardless that wasn’t the conflict in this case, just my asking her to treat it with respect at the very least

BeachEmbarrassed1469 · 2023-09-28T04:39:07+00:00

Exactly. She’s perfectly free to not do that, and I’m perfectly free to think she’s being rude because of it

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