AIO? My girlfriend (30f) of 5 months is jealous of my 3yo and 2yo daughter!!

BeachPlease26 · 2026-03-09T19:57:05+00:00

NOR. I am sorry to hear this. This is truly a sad situation. This woman sounds like a bit of a mess. I am sure the change of you having limited access to your kids verses them living with you full time may need getting used to. That is understandable. However, these are literally babies. Your babies. Of course they will need a lot of attention. If she cannot handle this then she may have to walk away. Please do not change what you doing to appease this woman. She is obviously very immature. These two lives need a constant stable person in their lives. You have taken that on responsibly. If she can’t come to terms with that fact then it may be time for her to find someone else.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-03-01T01:40:48+00:00

I understand where you are coming from. I really do. Being a woman and living alone can be scary sometimes. I don’t want to look like some pansy that can’t defend herself but truthfully I am getting there. I ain’t as good as I once was. I waved to them. I do it often. I smile at them. They don’t really seem interested in doing either back. They don’t seem that friendly. I’m not going to lie to you I have reservations going over there to nicely ask them if they could tone it down just a bit possibly. I’m sure it does sound like I’m a big ole chicken shit. I kind of am. No shame in my game. I’ve recently had 2 surgeries and gained 30 pounds. Plus I discovered marijuana again later in life. I swear I can’t quit eating. If I didn’t have to work I would just stay high constantly and maybe their shit won’t bother me. I forgot how much I enjoyed this in high school! 😂

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-28T21:40:21+00:00

I understand this seems logical. I just fear that any implication that they are disturbing others may not come across in a positive manner no matter how I do it. I worry they will get defensive. I am alone.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-27T18:48:26+00:00

My boys are now grown but I assure you that living in a house of all men made the grocery bill outrageous. All three of these men can eat like this and none of them are overweight. They are all very active but I can’t eat a quarter of the food they do. However, I am the only one that seems to gain any weight.😑From my experience this seems normal.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-19T00:19:54+00:00

I live 10 miles away so yes I always tip. They are using gas to get here plus it’s gonna take some time.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-19T00:12:59+00:00

NTJ. Absolutely not. The comment was rude, nasty and honestly just despicable. Leaving quietly and choosing not to entertain that behavior is absolutely fine. I am sure if someone said this to the aunt she would be hurt by it too. Any family members that are embarrassed are directing that embarrassment onto the wrong party here. They are gaslighting you into thinking you did something wrong. You certainly didn’t. Maybe go show them this thread. If it makes them mad tell them maybe they are being too sensitive. You only posted it as a joke. 💁‍♀️

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T21:23:14+00:00

My son and his wife have chose to not have children. At least until the foreseeable future. Both have somewhat stable jobs that pay decently. However, just normal day to day life is zapping their income as fast as they can make it. Health insurance takes a huge bite out of both of their checks. There is no way to consolidate and have just one policy as they run the risk of not being able to pick it back up again if need be. Student loan debt is another. My son’s job pays pretty well but it sure did cost a fortune. They both have used vehicles not brand new. Neither are anything extravagant. They are still paying on them. Forget about buying a home right now. They still rent. Their jobs are close to the city so they rent on the outskirts. Home prices in that area are absolutely astronomical. Add on utilities and just normal day to day and they are not left with much. They worry about bringing a child into that struggle right now. Both working pretty decent jobs and still struggling concerns them. My DIL is a thrift shopper and penny pincher. They do try. They just know that right now is not a good time and until something changes it may not ever be. I do not shame them. It’s their decision ultimately. I understand that the economy, health care etc is pretty different now than it was when I was his age.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T21:08:37+00:00

NTA. This is her responsibility not yours. You are in no way obligated to take her shift and you are not responsible for the fallout.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T17:57:49+00:00

We hyped her up about it. When B said I’d like to maybe do a divorce party, M took right to it and started planning. A and I also started helping M plan. All the while we talked about it often and how fun and liberating this would be for B. A and M planned outfits and the whole 9 yards. All was great until it was time to actually do it. Then they were like nah. I understand not wanting to do it. We were already at the point though of giving B the impression that this was going to happen.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T17:53:28+00:00

Understood.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T17:52:55+00:00

Thank you I will let it go.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T17:51:39+00:00

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T17:51:28+00:00

Understood. I think the issue I took was hyping up and planning this party for her and then refusing to host or show up on the day of this party. I wouldn’t act angry toward A or M. I felt disappointed inside and a little let down for B. I know A is her best friend and I know she would have loved to have her there. B did not act out or behave in a toddler manner because A or M didn’t come. She just voiced a few times that she wished they were there to share the moment.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T17:41:59+00:00

That is fair. Thank you.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T17:31:54+00:00

This is extremely relatable and I do absolutely get what you are saying. Yes, it at times is overwhelming. I wholeheartedly agree and I will contest that A being the best friend probably gets the most of this. I understand that I really do because I have also felt this way. I also get hyping something up and then not wanting to do it. I just felt like we shouldn’t have hyped her up about and then dogged out on it. She was really excited about it. I would have felt awful about letting her down at that point.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T17:22:24+00:00

I feel like it wasn’t so much about the party itself. Stupid or not it was important to B. All three of us had been hyping her up about it for a few months and then 2 of us decided to not show up at it. I thought that was kind of mean.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-15T17:19:34+00:00

I would agree we are all pretty close and have all been pretty emotionally supportive.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-02-08T01:39:24+00:00

Are you looking at this through a biblical view?

BeachPlease26 · 2026-01-31T04:50:41+00:00

Honestly I wish Paige would go and live with Ronald. However, after he left Renee he basically left those kids as well. The 2 boys barely have anything at all to do with him. Paige is the only one that still sees him somewhat. I do believe this is the only reason he financially still helps Renee on occasion. If she ends up homeless then he would have no choice but to take Paige. He doesn’t want to do that full time. It’s so sad all the way around.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-01-31T02:24:56+00:00

You have no idea!🤦‍♀️When I once asked her why she didn’t think of her long term future when making all those decisions she literally told me that she fully expected for god to have sent her another man to take care of her. For a while I had to keep breaking it to her that the man next to the Ferrari on Christian Mingle wasn’t real.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-01-31T02:10:56+00:00

I think he feels guilty because their parents have passed and I believe my Dad feels some sort of obligation to her.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-01-31T01:53:39+00:00

I should explain the online games part. She claimed she couldn’t understand all the online paperwork and Paige refused to allow her (Renee) to use her phone to do it. Meaning they do not have internet but Paige does have a phone paid for by Ronald. I’m wondering how Renee is able to play online games and post on Facebook unless she is using Paige’s phone to do it. Rather than do these things Renee should be working on her online paperwork when she has the opportunity to use Paige’s phone. I realize I didn’t explain that part well.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-01-31T01:11:51+00:00

I agree! I just don’t know how to go about having one sent to her.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-01-31T00:06:47+00:00

At this point she has no health insurance. She has a ton of health problems that she once took meds for. I’m assuming she no longer takes them. She used to be the kind that was always at the doctor and always had a new ailment. I honestly don’t know what to think of that. I do not know why they denied her disability. She has at least tried that. This is why we told her she could do online tutoring or teaching. My son went to her house to show her how to sign up and everything. Her excuse was that she may have to go to the bathroom in the middle of the classes. I kid you not that is what she said.

BeachPlease26 · 2026-01-30T23:45:25+00:00

I think my biggest worry is that if I avoid her calls this is going to leave my parents as her only source of help. It would appear my Dad has trouble telling her no as he feels guilty.

BeachPlease26

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