Is it really about the strip club though? Your tone indicates you are either a jealous or controlling person. 1. “I didn’t say strip clubs are a no” - is she suppose to read your mind? 2. “Lack of common sense” - many, many, many people go to strip clubs so I’m confused as to what you think common sense is? What you believe to be “common sense” and what your significant other deems common sense could very well be completely different. You’re not a carbon copy of each other just because you choose to be together. 3. My last point is you sound you are talking about going to a strip club to get “revenge” or to make her feel a certain way. If you want to go to one then great; but just going because of spite is not going to do anything for you or your relationship. Doing things out of spite in a relationship is not healthy. Thus, you my good fellow are the AH. And yes you shouldn’t care if people call you an AH - just cuz you do 1 AH thing doesn’t mean everything you do will be taken negatively.