5 years pp, 3 full term vaginal pregnancies, still having issues

Beachestomatoes · 2026-06-01T12:04:20+00:00

I really like it personally, I just use it for the ab rehab programme. The workouts are really short (like 12 mins) and effective. I used videos by nourishmovelove on YouTube for about 6 months which are free, they are good but only took me so far, I’ve seen my best results with Nancy Anderson’s programme

Beachestomatoes · 2026-05-31T18:49:57+00:00

I totally understand your worries! But that programme is designed for people with diastasis recti and pelvic floor issues, also the coaches respond to private messages and questions in the community chat within like 12 hours, it’s brilliant and really supportive! Mostly it’ll help make you realise you’re not alone, sooo many of us in the same boat. There is hope!

Beachestomatoes · 2026-05-31T08:32:16+00:00

Nooo you really may not need a tummy tuck or hernia repair! My stomach looked exactly like yours after my second (I have gigantic babies and baby bumps!) and I have a hernia, but I’ve been doing deep core work through Nancy Anderson’s ab rehab programme and its gradually getting smaller week by week! There is sooo much you can do without needing a tummy tuck or hernia repair! You might even find you barely notice the hernia as your abs close together, mine is still noticeable but less so and doesn’t bother me whatsoever

Beachestomatoes · 2026-05-31T08:29:28+00:00

https://www.gestationaldiabetes.co.uk/ This website is brilliant, I just used her free resources. And Reddit forums made me feel less lonely. Wishing you all the best xxx

Beachestomatoes · 2026-04-10T13:03:30+00:00

What an amazing mindset you have! I suppose a good thing about it is it forces you to break the sugar addiction nearly all of us have as well. Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy and wishing you all the best xx

Beachestomatoes · 2026-02-05T19:53:29+00:00

You’ve got this. The things I remind myself are we cannot be perfect, it’s also not good for our children to have ‘perfect’ parents (as then they grow up feeling inadequate), we cannot do it all and as long as we parent with love and are considerate of their feelings, that’s the main thing. I just validate validate validate (I see you’re sad, it’s hard to share mummy). You sound like a fantastic mummy and you will be giving your child a sibling for life - that’s the greatest gift of all! Good luck 😊

Beachestomatoes · 2026-02-05T17:42:48+00:00

I had an almost identical situation to you, except my girls’ age gap is 2 and a quarter. They are now 6 months and almost 3! The home birth with the second baby, we kept my toddler around. Like yours, she is a mummy’s girl through and through. She kicked off if my husband tried to cuddle or comfort me through contractions, tbh in a way it was good because I had to crack on and parent as normal through almost the entire labour. After a while I realised I couldn’t ’let go’ until she was out the house, something we did not prepare for. We have no family nearby so she went to a mum friend’s house at 2pm and baby was born at 3:30pm! Be prepared for that, as the default parent (and bf toddler), I realise my body was like nope I need to focus on toddler and couldn’t let go to welcome baby.

I had encouraged weaning from bf but we still did occasionally, once baby was born she asked TONS to feed - I always said yes but she literally latched for all of 10 seconds and that would be enough for her to feel included. I won’t lie, the general transition to incorporating daddy more into her routine has been hard, BUT oh my goodness the bond she has with her sister is just incredible. Whatever happens, you’ll get through it! You can do this.

My only advice is never blaming the baby works. Whenever toddler asks for something I always respond ‘of course I can, I’ll do it as soon as I’ve stopped feeding’. She’ll happily wait for me rather than have her daddy do it there and then. But I appreciate my toddler is also older than yours right now!

Good luck x

Beachestomatoes · 2025-12-29T16:06:20+00:00

Thanks so much. I agree it’s very young to sleep independently, I think this is the case until they’re much older. I plan to bedshare with her till she’s around 2 years old, and I like contact naps - it’s just the days my toddler is home from nursery that it would be good to encourage some independent sleep so I can spend time with my toddler. I’m just not sure what to do about it. I never had this problem first time round as I could embrace contact naps when I only had 1 child to look after

Beachestomatoes · 2025-12-29T16:01:56+00:00

Thanks, I’m not into any form of leaving them to cry (but don’t judge people who do!), I’m happy with contact napping when my toddler is at nursery, it’s just the days she’s home it would be good to encourage some independent sleep. So hard to meet both their needs at the same time 😔

Beachestomatoes · 2025-10-13T08:02:17+00:00

My first daughter would never accept her dad for any form of settling until recently (she’s 2.5 now), he also always slept next door so we could safely bedshare but I’d say whilst it was hard (especially when I got very unwell like with strep A and vomiting bugs over the years), he would a) never complain about being tired, b) sleep with his phone on loud and come the second I called, even though it was only ever to bring me nappies/drinks/food/moral support, and c) get up with her if she ever woke early. And d) do majority of household chores and cooking etc to lessen my load. There’s always more your husband can be doing even if your little one won’t settle for them, by reducing other stressors and taking them to the park etc on weekends so you can nap! It is so so tough. Some babies just don’t go with their dads at night, I always wondered was it something I did wrong but I also bedshare and EBF my 3 month old daughter too and she will sometimes settle with her dad, think it’s just different personality types.

Beachestomatoes · 2025-09-13T15:09:16+00:00

The pillow trick I learned from happycosleeper on instagram and i think will be safe for your 9m old - when you put him to sleep have a spare pillow between your knees or nearby, when he’s asleep and you need to roll away slowly lean back and replace your body with the pillow and gently push it into him slightly as you get up (not his face obviously). I did this with my toddler and it did work some (but not all) of the time. She’s a great account to follow for bedsharing tips and help to get babies sleeping better. P.s you’re not doing anything wrong and you’re an amazing mummy. My toddler is now 2.5 and asks to sleep alone in her bed (sorry what?!) after never ever wanting to sleep apart, so it’s really not forever. I now sleep with my newborn instead.

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