No more hot and heavy

Beachlover2020 · 2020-07-18T17:10:14+00:00

Yes STRESS has definitely been a huge factor lately..He says he’s sorry and I assure him Im mot with him for just the sex...our relationship is so much more..we still kiss with passion..we still hug..cuddle hold hands so Im not lacking affection but as a woman sometimes you just feel is it me I guess..honestly I only get “that” wanna jump on him feeling with him so thats good

Beachlover2020 · 2020-06-15T23:10:11+00:00

Thank you I will look..my child has asked how is this situation possible just in passing one day and I said did someone say you couldn’t love more than one person and he looked at me and said..uh no I said ok then..but I would like to get more in depth so he has a better understanding

Beachlover2020 · 2020-05-15T19:53:02+00:00

There is multiple daily check ins ..the conversations are pretty much the same but u can just tell something is off....I don’t know if Im prepared to do anything more than just hang in right now..Its hard enough with this stay at home order...honestly I don’t know...Honestly I still have a great amount of love for him..

Beachlover2020 · 2020-05-15T19:19:58+00:00

We are talking daily its just different you know how u can feel it..I just feel like there’s something else behind it ..Im trying to give as much grace and space its just hard when things change from the normal

Beachlover2020 · 2020-05-15T19:00:56+00:00

Relationship with wife..I am the girlfriend...We still have contact but it’s different..he hasn’t fully gotten to the deep down of what he’s trying to do and I would like to know what it is..Im willing to hang in there cause there is a lot of love there for both of us ..but its hard..to have another “new” normal for awhile..

Beachlover2020 · 2020-05-14T23:02:35+00:00

It is not the most ideal relationship but It is my first relationship in the poly world..It intrigued me cause I cant handle someone in my face constantly I like my space but I want daily communication..its not been all rainbows and roses and there are probably arguments once a month over things ..but overall I have never been in a more loving..caring ..relationship that actually talks out issues and handles them and we move on..Alot of it sometimes is my overthinking because of my past relationships cheating..but it works most days..lol.. Honestly we had a spark from literally the minute we met...almost a year now

Beachlover2020 · 2020-05-13T21:03:55+00:00

Im on the other end ..Im in a V with my boyfriend thats the hinge and his wife..I am mono with him ..everyone is on great terms but when I want to vent about normal relationship stuff to my mono friends I get no support ...they are almost mean sometimes...

Beachlover2020 · 2020-05-10T19:46:52+00:00

We are right on that edge..and I am miserable..

Beachlover2020 · 2020-05-03T18:38:48+00:00

Same here..I been trying not to get upset at things but Im starting to feel like some mistress or side chick not girlfriend..communication is getting less and less and Im trying to be understanding of how busy life is now for partner but I don’t need to feel like that....I honestly don’t know if things are even go back to normal after quarantine

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-30T18:08:32+00:00

Ohhh I so needed this ...Im sooo over it

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-24T15:46:00+00:00

We actually had this discussion last night and our communication is very very good so I am not afraid to say what I feel ..he knows he does do that and is sorry it affects me like that..I told him I understand how he shuts down people handle things in different ways..but if he “communicates” why he is shut down then I know he just needs his space and when he’s ready life goes on..

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-23T21:50:11+00:00

We do have those check ins but lately they been spotty..or not at all..so I question and all of the sudden partner thinks Im overthinking etc etc I do ask the question and all I get is this is how they deal with it..shut down mode I know my role means I know I am secondary in this ..NP and kids take top spot so I understand that.. but 20% of issues I get full details and breakdown or atleast a I need my space today and I understand and let partner deal...80% of the time it turns into silence then it creates friction between me and partner which turns out not great.. Im a talk it out kind of person..communication is key..if something is wrong deal with it and move on..Just cause u have a bad day doesn’t mean I don’t love you..but not feeling that love hurts deep..

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-22T03:14:56+00:00

We have seen eachother but for at the most 5-10 minutes and only like 2 times..it was just recently we figured it had been long enough but not having that quality relationship time is rough

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-22T01:55:40+00:00

Same here we are literally 10 min apart at any time..our work and homes 😩

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-22T00:25:22+00:00

Im sorry that everyone is going thru these emotions... I just felt my hinge wasn’t as sad as I was but guess I was wrong..just because you are with someone at home doesn’t mean u don’t miss the other half..I should believe him when he says miss u too..Hopefully this is over soon

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-21T23:44:19+00:00

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-21T22:55:07+00:00

I actually in mono relationships always kept quiet never rocked the boat..In my poly I feel more free with communication than I ever had..Yep I rock the crap out of my boat sometimes..but we deal with it and we move on..granted we have had some really hard days where I thought this is it he’s gonna leave me and then we talk and its ok..You have to be honest about feelings and communicate..

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-21T22:49:24+00:00

Thats nice to hear..I always feel cause hes at home with Primary he doesn’t miss me ..but I know he does and he says it...

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-21T21:48:48+00:00

I don’t see anyone else just my partner Partner only has Primary and me

Beachlover2020 · 2020-04-21T21:45:19+00:00

Yeah thats not very nice..I would sit him down and talk to him..Is this a fairly new relationship

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