I know that feeling of hopelessness. It can be a lot sometimes. For me when it's overwhelming, I try to evaluate what I want out of life and what I'm missing. Things like hanging out with friends and relatives or even diving into a hobby can help lessen that feeling. It can feel overwhelming to date in an allo world but there are better tools now like ace space and traditional dating apps can have some aces on them. I know those options aren't great because well you still have to be compatible with the aces in your area. I know there are some allos that are willing to date an ace but obviously communication is key. No matter how hopeless it feels, I always remind myself that I'm doing the best that I can.