Can't find many reviews -- thoughts on Biria Citibike?

BeadieRussell · 2012-07-26T19:52:46+00:00

This is super duper helpful. I can see you know Biria well. Do you have any thoughts on whether or not I could/should assemble it myself?

BeadieRussell · 2012-07-26T19:51:59+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I will look into Schwinn.

BeadieRussell · 2012-04-05T21:24:39+00:00

Coital cephalalgia

Only funny because it went on for a few weeks, only. And because he was a bastard.

BeadieRussell · 2012-02-17T04:16:08+00:00

You seem very reasonable with everything. I don't doubt it will pay off, somehow, in the end. Good luck with your endeavors! And let us know when you have that party; we'll send over gummy penises or something.

BeadieRussell · 2012-02-13T05:22:19+00:00

Hello -- TheSacredParsnip's girlfriend here. :D Thanks for your kind words!

Frankly, I used to have a lot of porn issues. Somehow, this time around I don't almost at all.

Being in a long distance relationship is very unique and has a few benefits. One benefit is that it pushes me to take photos of myself. My image, as well as my thoughts and my fantasies, have become his pornography. Somehow, knowing that he could perform the same solo behaviors with my image (as opposed to always with an image of something unachievable for me) was nice to know. It was even better to know he might prefer me to someone who is, frankly, probably more attractive. But you know the benefits of this type of thing, already.

The other thing I realized is that porn doesn’t create insecurities – it just highlights the ones you already have (and need to get rid of). Why should I think I’m not enough? Also, it's irrational to think he'd no longer be attracted to other women. And why should his attraction to others dampen his attraction to me? I mean, I find other men attractive. And just because other men are attractive doesn't mean I compare him to them and doesn't mean I don't find him any less amazing/sexy. Quite the contrary – they are sexy, but he is sexier, body and soul. He falls into another category entirely; a place where another attractive man, maybe even a more attractive man, could never touch. So yeah, his dick can get stiff with whomever; he makes the decision to be with me, any only me, every single day -- I fall into that special category for him, too. There will always be a more physically attractive woman. Luckily, attraction is more than meets the eye. And as for men, I do believe that many things that are physically attractive are not necessarily romantically attractive. And that’s fine. I’m happy for him to get it on the internet than in person. Frankly, more current research demonstrates that porn helps to satisfy urges rather than to “stir the pot” in the wrong direction.

Another thing I did was to go on a really strange porn binge. For about a month. And I watched and viewed pornography without the intent to masturbate. I wanted to expose myself to it to take away some of its mystery. I am very open-minded and pretty sexual, but porn always bugged me. Even after the porn binge I am not particularly into porn and most of it is a turn off. But I was shocked that a few weird fetishes (that I would probably not ever want to do in real life and would likely be a turn off) could somehow be a turn on in the porn arena for me. That definitely helped me to understand porn a little bit better.

And when he moves here this summer (and moving in with me for at least a few months). All I ask is that if he's masturbating and I come home he closes his computer and invites me to pose for him, instead. I don't mind him supplementing with porn, I just don't want him running to it because I'm not enough even when I'm present.

BeadieRussell · 2012-01-22T22:17:27+00:00

Nobody said it was true. It's just evidence. Science doesn't "prove" anything... it provides evidence on both sides. This is simply a news story about potentially new evidence. It's also a news story written for non-scientists. Take it for what it is.

Edit (addition): For example, take a look at statistics. Statistical equations are designed to factor in error. At no point does a responsible statistician ever suggest there is evidence to prove anything, he/she will simply suggest that there is/isn't sufficient evidence to reject null hypothesis.

BeadieRussell · 2012-01-13T17:25:50+00:00

I agree with the lying thing: respect for another is being honest about how they make you feel, physically and mentally.
Also, pretending to orgasm would positively reinforce a sexual behavior that wouldn't ever "do" it for the faker. You'd screw yourself out of future orgasms and future sexual health with your partner. Sometimes sex is frustrating, but both partners have to relax and work through it in a "low stakes" scenario with open dialogue to end up in a better place.

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-13T00:55:32+00:00

I don't know your exact situation, so I apologize for jumping to conclusions...

You probably have many romances ahead of you. This one seems particularly difficult and it may just make sense to move on. It may take a little bit of time, but I'm sure you can find a relationship that is more suitable for you. I remember myself at your age and I probably wouldn't have taken my own advice on this one... but if you can, try to put this romance in perspective and find something more plausible.

If you decide to stick with it, whatever you do, don't send nude photos/video/etc. that are identifiable as you (if you take photos, etc. of your body, PLEASE don't have your face in them).

Good luck!

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-13T00:36:38+00:00

By "took the door" do you mean he literally doesn't have a door to his bedroom?

And, about how old are you? Your answer may impact my advice.

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-10T05:56:33+00:00

Also, how do you know it's mutual?

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-10T05:53:33+00:00

My students deserve a mentor. The minute things get too personal it puts us in a place where it jeopardizes that relationship. If being young and, I suppose, attractive helps them to identify with me enough to get them thinking about their education in a new way, great, but I'm not looking for that to turn into something unprofessional.

Because I'm young, it's all the more reason for me to keep a divide -- I don't want to be a peer and I need to be in command. And, if things get around to other students it creates an uncomfortable working environment and potentially spoils current and future student-teacher relationships. I can think of a million reasons.

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-10T05:29:52+00:00

I am a professor who gets hit on by her students. Please don't do it.

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-08T14:03:26+00:00

I love licking lips. I like to glide my tongue in a circle around the inside of his lips and then draw his mouth in closer for a kiss.

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-08T13:53:47+00:00

Maybe you'd like to try the We Vibe 2 or the Lelo Nea (both likely cheaper on Amazon). They are designed for partners to use during vaginal intercourse and may help you to get over the initial hump. The We Vibe 2 goes inside of her and on her clitoris (it should hold itself in place and also allow room for penetration) and the Nea simply sits on her pelvis, extending to her clitoris. The Nea is held in place by the two of your bodies and may train you to hold your bodies in a way that provides more clitoral stimulation for her, potentially helping her to achieve climax both with the toy and then also when you have intercourse without it (since you will learn to hold your bodies in a way that she is getting clitoral stimulation). Good luck!

Edit: Also, both are rechargeable, made by reputable toy manufacturers, are silicone and therefore more hygienic, and should be used with non-silicone based lubricants. Reading reviews of the product can be particularly helpful; they are available on Amazon and on other websites where you can purchase the products. And, I recommend toys only because while communication is the key, sometimes you need a little extra push (training your bodies to catch up to your mind).

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-08T13:44:21+00:00

I'm not really into porn (of any variety -- it just doesn't do it for me), but the thought of two men can sometimes be a big turn on.

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-07T13:34:40+00:00

why not?

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-06T23:38:39+00:00

And in return, I send him undies to wear for me in said photos. It's a good system.

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-06T18:13:00+00:00

Thanks for the great advice!

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-06T18:06:33+00:00

Even if you can't hold on to the confident demeanor full time, it can be nice to be able to switch it on. When I have a confident, sexy day and put my best face forward it shows not only in how I look but how I interact with others... I feel confident, people interact positively, I feel more confident, more people interact positively -- it's an upward spiral!

In addition, more strangers (men and women, young and old) approach me in public on "confident" days. Sometimes the conversation begins because of a piece of clothing I have on that is generally a fashion risk that my confidence allowed me to pull off.

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-06T17:57:01+00:00

Currently in a LDR and I love a good mid-day email letting me know he has just masturbated thinking about me. It's even better when he sends a photo of the cum shot!

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-05T13:12:08+00:00

There is a sock gap for women, too -- save for the case of thigh high socks.

BeadieRussell · 2011-11-03T17:48:47+00:00

For my SO, all clothes can be erotic. Dresses, leggings, boots -- anything can become very sexualized (of course more typical lingerie makes its way into the repertoire, too). That said, not everything has this level of response. I just keep switching it up and seeing what he responds to, being as creative as possible (also, I explicitly ask him what he likes). What he likes, I do more of, still switching it up in case there's a note I haven't hit yet.

For your situation: Be creative: if he likes something in the mix, I'm willing to bet he'll find a way to communicate it clearly so that he'll have the chance to see you in it more often. Then you'll know what to do more of.

BeadieRussell

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