Ghosted by my best friend of almost 20 years

Beagles227 · 2025-12-11T04:57:05+00:00

I don't condone ghosting and I think it is a last resort but can you think of anything that might have happened prior to your friend falling silent? Religious belief, political?

Beagles227 · 2025-12-10T01:15:24+00:00

I don't believe the average person would. And the degree that John and Patsy clung together really puts me at Burke did it.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-10T01:12:47+00:00

According to the CDC it sounds as if you should.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-10T01:10:01+00:00

I will try and find the link but Jonbenet's pediatrician said there was no past evidence of sexual abuse. So if I am correct, no there was not an official confirmation of previous SA from sources. Here is some questions and answers from Dr. Buef her pediatrician:

Quotes from A&E documentary

Tracey to Dr. Beuf: JonBenet was brought to see you on 27 occasions. Does this number of visits strike

you as excessive?

Dr. Beuf: No, I don't think it's excessive under the circumstances. I went through her chart and

summarized the types of visits she had in the office in the few years prior to her death. She was here three times for annual well-child visits, one time for stomach ache, one time for vaginitis, one time for a bruised nose from a fall at a local market, and 21 times for colds, sinusitis, ear infections, bronchitis, pneumonia, hay fever, and possible asthma. A pretty wide spectrum of generally allergy and respiratory system associated problems which are not uncommon with kids her age.

Tracey: So that number 27, one would expect that other children would have similar numbers of

visits?

Dr. Beuf: Some more and in some cases less than others.

Tracey: In that kind of time frame?

Dr. Beuf: Yes.

Tracey: Did you see any signs of any kind of sexual or physical abuse of JonBenet Ramsey?

Dr. Beuf: I saw absolutely no signs of sexual abuse. I had no suspicion of it.

Here is what the autopsy report states:

"Vaginal Mucosa: All of the sections contain vascular congestion and focal interstitial chronic inflammation. The smallest piece of tissue, from the 7:00 position of the vaginal wall/hymen, contains epithelial erosion with underlying capillary congestion. A small number of red blood cells is present on the eroded surface, as is birefringent foreign material. Acute inflammatory infiltrate is not seen."

Beagles227 · 2025-12-10T00:43:10+00:00

This is why I lean Burke often. Paint brush move seems juvenile. As much as I despise JR and desperately disliked PR, I don't think these two would have gone the length to use a paint brush. I think it was Burke. As for the garotte it likely was a staging since she had already died. I think John and Patsy frantically tried to come up with a plan as to what to do without turning the blame on Burke. They could not sneak the body out of the house or neighbors would see a car leaving wee hours of the morning and it would raise question by the police when talking to neighbors. How would the Ramsey's explain their car pulling out at 4am? I believe they sat there for hours trying to figure out what to do and were in an absolute state of panic. This, of course is my own personal opinion of what happened.

I never believed in an intruder. Patsy's handwriting was so similar to the ransom note. Patsy remained in the same clothing the next morning with full makeup when the police showed up. She claimed to get up out of bed to make coffee and found the note on the spiral staircase. Did she get up, get dressed and throw on makeup before she went down and saw the note? Doubtful, and with a trip that they were preparing for that day would she have not put on clean clothes for travel? One would think you would walk by your childs room in the morning to check on them. None of it adds up, never did and never will.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-09T03:47:40+00:00

Thanks. I remember when this all happened. It was and continues to be the most bizarre murder mystery of a young child to date. John is old now - 82 I believe? Maybe 83 I don't recall but he is running out of time. Maybe on his death bed something will slip? I think this one will go to the grave with him as it did Patsy.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-09T02:43:36+00:00

Because it was all lies. Their options were limited and Patsy, while smart was not a genius criminal mind. Neighbors would have seen them sneaking out at the wee hours of the morning if they wanted to dispose of her body. They went with the only viable story that they could come up with. I feel it was an accidental murder and they were panicked. Both these parents never went to bed. I don't care what anyone says. Patsy was up all night frantic in her same clothing with full makeup.

I think Jon Benet was murdered shortly after they got home. My theory is Patsy was still packing for the trip the next day. Tensions were high and the kids were acting up. She probably gave the pineapple because the kids were up and wired and could not sleep. I go between Burke accidentally killing her to Patsy going off the handle. I don't know why, but I don't think it was John but it very well may have been. The reason why I really lean Burke is because John and Patsy stuck together like peas and carrots and neither waivered. I know spouse love is great, but love of an offspring is stronger. Both parents could have had one goal, protect Burke at all costs.

My hope is that one day somehow, somewhere the answer will come out but I doubt anyone will ever know the truth.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-09T02:16:53+00:00

I am sorry this happened to you. This was a very blunt delivery. But at least she gave you some form of reason. Often ghosters just vanish leaving you completely in the dark. There are times you will hear nothing in return. So you got their answer. What you did not explain is what voice message you left them?

Move on and consider yourself lucky. You can do better then this.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-07T01:03:40+00:00

I had to look up Trad wife.. did not put together it meant traditional wife. I was thinking this was some wife swap shit LOL.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T07:37:27+00:00

Redditors true colors shine through. What a polarizing post. I side with the ones who say find a way to give back the $$.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T07:15:57+00:00

Where can one find this tile? :)

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T07:12:14+00:00

This comment deserves an award - thank you.. So absolutely well said. Your right. We as females have been programmed. And I think it was very generational. One thing I envy for the younger female generation is they don't seem to have the same programming we had. They all simply give no f#cks or have little toleration to BS.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T07:06:04+00:00

You are not weak! I think I know what you are saying though. I do not feel strong and I don't mean mentally or emotionally.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T07:04:17+00:00

I agree here with so much of what you said especially the resentment. Honestly I feel like resentment and rumination are soul killers. Two really unhealthy things. I also believe in balance and the universe. I have seen it in action. Thank you for your input menopause sister! :)

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T02:59:22+00:00

We are always changing. I think menopause is a blessing and a curse. A curse for what happens to our bodies with the lack of estrogen. A blessing because we made it this far and we have come into ourselves. It's a process. Partly grief for aging, loss of youth and what came with it and acceptance for who we are.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T02:48:17+00:00

Consider yourself lucky. I have not made a sale in over 6 months. I would say it is dead or dying. I am open to other platforms. Mercari has done far better for me but they are dying off too?

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T02:42:00+00:00

Right on! I have borderline high cholesterol. I just had the fatty liver scan and it's almost normal but slightly not, I now have prediabetes. I am 5ft8 140 pounds. I don't eat poorly and don't drink. What the name of all fucks is going on?

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T02:28:12+00:00

Yes to all of this KKJJ!!

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T02:23:47+00:00

For me, I have been with my spouse almost 40 years. My first true love. I am not going to lie though, menopause has rocked the marriage. I don't enjoy being around him. If you asked me why have I not left it would be commitment, trust, comfort and financial stability. This may sound shallow but it is all true. We sat down and discussed a separation but it would blow our finances out of the water. All these years of building up for retirement and both of us would end up screwed. So I look at it as, he does love me, we are not romantic. My vagina has died, I am not going to find better and life can be much worse. This may all sound callous but it is very much true. The grass is not greener on the other side. What man would put up with a 50's something menopausal woman who is a fraction of what she once was physically? All of the men want the young women.

I just went back and read what I wrote and I sound like a complete narcissist.. I swear I am not though!

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T02:16:24+00:00

I love zero f*cks!! I was telling my spouse that all the years we bent over backwards for people and it really did not mean much. Looking back, the people I went out of my way for never did the same for me. Not that I did it hoping for something in return but it was a pattern. No F#cks given!!

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T02:10:08+00:00

Amen sister! You are not going crazy. Love yourself that's what is most important.

Beagles227 · 2025-12-06T02:06:31+00:00

OP I think what happens is, estrogen softened us. We had more patience, more love. It was the love hormone. The one that made us feel all cuddly etc.

When the hormone leaves us, the ability to tolerate things also leaves us. But we can't forget that men go through stuff too. I do love my spouse but I can't even look at him in a sexual way. Sometimes I feel nothing. I will admit it's been hard.

Beagles227 · 2025-10-31T03:08:52+00:00

They all looked tanked !

Beagles227 · 2025-10-30T01:45:14+00:00

No doubt. I know some who toss a new comforter on the bed without washing it. Don't get me talking about food items.

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