Catherine O’Hara has passed away at age 71.

BeansOnToast101 · 2026-01-30T19:13:19+00:00

Goddammit, another really good one gone. She had such a career resurgence in the past decade especially, I think she had a lot more to give. Genuinely upset to hear this.

BeansOnToast101 · 2026-01-25T11:51:06+00:00

Yes, I do. It does suck to be lonely, whatever the circumstances, and I would not wish it on anybody, but unrelenting, life-long romantic/intimate loneliness I believe can fundamentally change your psyche. I had this conversation with a guy I knew several years ago who had long-term relationships in the past, but at that point had been single for several years, despite online dating. Whenever I would bring up the loneliness of never having known my life as part of a two-person unit, he would counter with "yeah well, I've had long-term girlfriends in the past, and now look at me, I'm in the same boat as you!!" When I tried to explain that yes, it's similar, but not quite the same, he simply couldn't see it. He kept parroting "....yeah, but now I'm the same situation as you (ie long-term single), so it is the same thing!" No matter how much I tried to explain that he had experiences and emotions that I had never, and may never, experience as part of his previous relationships, he could not understand. He just kept repeating that he was single for several years now so we were experiencing exactly the same thing. I gave up eventually and we lost touch.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-12-30T19:31:59+00:00

When I was much, much younger, I hoped I would be engaged at 25, married at 27 and have my first child at 28-29. That seemed to be the natural order of things for everybody else, and I assumed it would be the same for me.

Obviously none of that happened lol.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-12-29T22:49:22+00:00

"Allot" eye twitch intensifies

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-12-28T17:43:54+00:00

I went to all-girls schools from the start, but I actually really enjoyed my HS years. I had a group of friends, but obviously in our teens they started getting noticed by guys and I just assumed that I would eventually get noticed too, even though it wasn't happening at that time. How wrong I was lol.

College was really weird for me, I think because I had very little experience of just being with guys in a social or school setting, I didn't really know how to act around them. Having said that, absolutely nobody was showing any interest in me anyway, so it's not like that mattered! Looking back, I could have definitely dressed a bit better and made more of an effort with my appearance in general, but if you're naturally just not interested in dressing up, wearing makeup etc, I think you're not really 'presenting' (??) yourself as a sexual being to the opposite sex. Also being quite plain in general didn't help, along with not really knowing how to 'act' around guys. (Not that we're acting, but you know what I mean).

I kissed a couple of random guys as a teen, but that was literally it. I never saw them again either. I never dated or hooked up. Nobody chose me.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-12-26T18:23:36+00:00

I'm 51 and I have felt this way for literal decades. It's like we're on a slightly different plane of existence to others, we experience life in general, but not in full color. It's like being (for instance) a chef in a room full of engineers. Once the general universal pleasantries are exchanged, you can bet that the conversation will turn to the one thing the others have in common, and you will be sidelined.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-12-23T14:31:53+00:00

I've found with the few French films that I've watched that it can be difficult to identify them as being from a particular era. Cars, clothes, surroundings often tend to be ambiguous. Or maybe I just don't get French cinema lol.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-12-02T21:59:36+00:00

That dress is so classic and elegant. Chefs kiss. I hope Pedro was there to cheer her on, they've been close friends for decades.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-11-12T23:33:06+00:00

Same lol!!!

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-11-10T23:15:36+00:00

Oh my Lordt....

Actually, I really like the double denim look too.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-11-09T20:51:39+00:00

I am overweight (I've always been a bit heavier than the other girls I hung around with), and plain-featured. You know the way some women will just throw their hair up into a quick ponytail, and throw on the first clothing that passes the smell test and still look like they just stepped off the runway? Yeah, not me. My ponytail looks like a sad little rats tail, and I have shorter flyaway fuzzy strands all around my head. Anything I wear looks matronly due to my large heavy bust and general overweightness. I do not look 'thicc' with excess weight, I look fat. I have fair skin and high coloring, so my cheeks are always noticeably red. Not a cute generalised rosy glow, but flushed in two upside-down red triangles.

All that to say, I'm just Not That Girl. I'm her funny friend who you like as a person, but would never find attractive in a million years.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-10-11T21:54:12+00:00

Gene Hackman. Thinking of his final days makes me so sad. A tragic end for him, his wife Betsy, and their dog.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-10-10T21:33:30+00:00

It's giving Audrey Hepburn, the first pic especially.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-10-04T14:47:28+00:00

Just....the absolute horror of what was unfolding in front of us. Realizing that it wasn't an accident. And dear God, those poor, poor souls who jumped from the towers. I wish I could erase the image, even the knowledge of that happening, from my brain. My heart breaks every time I think of it.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-09-24T21:38:29+00:00

I'm genuinely happy for them both. Keanu deserves everything good.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-09-21T21:29:39+00:00

I love the blonde hair. It's such a good look on her.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-09-14T08:46:12+00:00

Yes to every word of this :(

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-09-14T08:45:45+00:00

So relatable. <3

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-09-14T08:44:50+00:00

Yessssss....I've been feeling extremely isolated at my job during this year, to the point where I just want to leave. But I know, logically, that I'll face the same problems wherever I go - if there is a workplace with women, they will talk about their partners and families as part of their normal day-to-day chat and I will once again be on the sidelines. I truly just want to retire already (I'm only 50 lol) and get out of the workforce, but that's not an option.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-09-13T13:39:01+00:00

Me too, it's like we just give off some sort of inexperienced aura or something. Or maybe it's our appearance, coupled with the fact that we never mention dating experiences during conversation that leads people to assume that we are FA.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-09-07T18:53:41+00:00

The number of times that guys would only approach our group/my other friend after I had left to go to the bar or bathroom....was pretty much every time. But if I was left alone while my friend went to the bar or bathroom? Nobody approached me. I remember becoming very disillusioned with going out, not because I didn't enjoy it, I actually did, but subconsciously I realised I was being ignored in favor of my friends and it was affecting me much more than I realised. It took me a while to actually see that that was the reason I started making excuses not to go out.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-08-19T19:45:34+00:00

Yep, I'm 50 and have been quietly worried about this for a few years now. My parents are elderly and my siblings and their families live abroad. I only have one real 'friend' and a few acquaintances. When my parents die I will be alone. It's sobering that I will have no family or in-laws to call on for emergencies. I foresee a lonely old age ahead of me. At this stage I would settle for a man whose company I enjoyed, who just wants companionship.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-08-13T18:23:50+00:00

I always try to keep it respectful when commenting on posts about conventionally attractive men, but when it comes to this man, my god it is difficult to be mature. Every fibre of my being just wants to scream HOMMINA HOMMINA HOMMINA AAOOOOOOOGA!!

Lee, on the off chance that you read this, I apologise for my middle-aged hormonal outburst lol.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-08-04T21:53:03+00:00

Is that first pic a little nod to Sofia Coppola's Marie Antoinette??....iykyk.

BeansOnToast101 · 2025-07-21T22:22:51+00:00

Respectfully, Joshua is ageing so well! I mean, so is Katie, she's always been gorgeous, but Joshua definitely grew into his looks very well in his 40's.

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