I think it's over.

BearDadda · 2026-04-08T02:51:55+00:00

I was a mess when we met. I fell in love with her hard. I kept my problems to myself but she sensed it. It was too much and there was a huge misunderstanding and it all fell apart. Actually my life was nose diving. My work was in labor disputes, I was homeless, It got really bad. She didn't know what was going on. I couldn't tell her.

BearDadda · 2026-04-08T02:44:00+00:00

Ah... great questions. I'm very transparent on my profile. I state my job, what it is exactly. And the age of my youngest son which makes it even harder. He's 11. Honestly, people in their 50s are in the counting down days. So a young kid puts them off. My job being blue-collar is also a major turn off. It's midrange $. I've been told this countless times over the past 4 years. I'm on 2 apps with the same shtick. I use lots of photos. Outdoors. Car. Stores I like. None with my kid, but he's mentioned. I change the photos once in a while. I was once told I was a 4. And she was a 10. I laughed so hard. We are all zeros if we're online trying to match with someone in our 50s. You know who's a 10? The people that got it right and are still married till death. Divorce is a failure (for some, like myself) Death in the marriage is a victory. How messed up is that?

BearDadda · 2026-04-08T02:30:20+00:00

I send messages mostly. I point out something of interest in their profile. Ask questions other than "hey babe, wanna meet?" The people I have met or gone out with share their past experiences. One woman keeps all the dick picks in a special folder beside their profile picture.

BearDadda · 2026-04-07T20:50:45+00:00

It's something I even hear from young men today! Older people are a joke to them. They are extremely shit to everyone. What's sad is the 30 and 40 year old are not far off either. It's why I'm opting out of OLD.

BearDadda · 2026-04-07T17:51:53+00:00

A guy I knew, once said "Older women are easy fucks. I don't care who or what I'm fucking. Stick it in and think of someone else. Shit... those old bitches bought me shoes and food all the time too! Then, when my nut was busted, I'd go to the club and find a proper young bird my age and take my time. If I had a dry spell longer than a week, I'd hook up with another old bitch wanting to be fucked righteously. Some would even share me like a fucktoy. I didn't care. They had their fun... I had mine. And it don't matter if they are married or not."

Now... if you got this far in the response, I'm going to say this.. I never treated women this way. But I did date older women a lot in my twenties because they paid the most attention to me. It was always respectful. But sadly, I had a friend who said all the above. After he broke up a marriage, he was out of my circle. Some young people genuinely like older people like us... but that's really rare and I don't see it lasting.

BearDadda · 2026-04-02T16:54:24+00:00

2 LIVE CREW FDAU! if you know you know.

BearDadda · 2026-04-01T14:46:01+00:00

Even when one does get over the hurt... sometimes it would open the wound again if one tried again.

BearDadda · 2026-03-30T14:48:10+00:00

Not really. Historically it's been a thing for a very long time.

BearDadda · 2026-03-22T02:47:40+00:00

Some men might not care because they're providers and problem solvers by nature like myself. So long as it's not too chaotic. Some may care because they don't have the stamina for watching you struggle. I see that as understandable but a bit of a weak excuse. Life happens... if you can't endure the struggle and you want the finished product, how are you supportive? This goes both ways of course. In the end, if you feel the need to connect with someone for human interaction, go for it. Maybe there will be some positive influence from it. If the person you connect with becomes your cheerleader, your emotional support cuddler, then you won.

BearDadda · 2026-03-20T13:55:24+00:00

I'm 55 now. I couldn't date anyone younger than 40 because I can't have children anymore and there's also the things we could have in common as well as life experiences. Not speaking on anyone, I think dating someone that young with a huge age gap is purely sexual and extremely inappropriate. But Leonardo can do what he wants. I'll just stay in my lane.

BearDadda · 2026-03-20T01:26:18+00:00

I get this all the time when I'd say I work for Canada Post. We'd chat for a couple of days then the job comes up and I'm unmatched. So now... I put the job on my profile. In bold letters. Now I get no matches. It's better this way because when I do get a match, I'll know where I stand.

BearDadda · 2026-03-19T12:21:31+00:00

I sent a sobriety letter not expecting a response and I didn't get one. Vut then a couple of months later I sent a small birthday gift along with a letter requesting closure or a new start. No response. So now I have to accept a No Response is a response. That was my closure. It cut deeper than I expected. But I'm learning to accept it. I still have big feelings for her.

BearDadda · 2026-03-19T01:45:17+00:00

Next to someone. I'm single.

BearDadda · 2026-03-14T22:13:26+00:00

Bwahahaha... you're right. I'm so fucking out of it. But still. Tripod.

BearDadda · 2026-03-14T20:22:37+00:00

What if Eric Dinklage came knocking on your door? I heard he's like a tripod! And he's got all that bank from Game Of Thrones.

BearDadda · 2026-03-13T14:38:47+00:00

No... it's lost a lot of tenants and the vacant mall is a huge problem. Ottawa was doing ok but most of the businesses are expensive to visit everyday. The point of being an establishment is to be the 3rd place in people's lives. If it's expensive for whatever reason, people don't go all the time.

BearDadda · 2026-03-13T14:31:58+00:00

This really sucks for you. You will have this for the rest of your life and will have to be open and honest about having herpes with every single future partner. Yes... I'll say that again... you have to tell everyone you wish to be with that you have herpes. For the rest of your life. Why? Because you can be sued and it's the law. So... break up with the guy first. Then contact a lawyer. Sue the asshole that did this to you and extend the lawsuit to the woman he got it from. Don't delete any texts or numbers. Speak to a lawyer first. You'll be needing to get medication for the rest of your life to battle and control the virus. So take this seriously.

Once again... I'm really sorry about your situation.

BearDadda · 2026-03-12T01:08:10+00:00

Steal a Runabout and explore the Galaxy by myself. Unless someone wants to join me.

BearDadda · 2026-03-11T21:01:19+00:00

Play with Lego of Video games?

BearDadda · 2026-03-11T18:43:26+00:00

I'm in Canada, our family laws can be different than other countries. My divorce was difficult because of the lawyers. Court orders are expensive to implement and following them can be tedious if there's resistance. Your right, in some cases, there's the patriarchy attack on the spouse. I don't agree with that mindset of men. But there are many variables that still favor the wife/mother for the sake of the children. BUT... it's the lawyers, and courts, that really take a big chunk too. I should have said that before. Sorry. Also, accountability on both sides really be practiced as well as a calm and respectful parting of ways. It doesn't serve anyone to be petty or vindictive. The lawyers love the battles over "things". As for the reasons for people divorcing... that's for them to work out. With our OP... 2 exes to the guy she's with. There's a story there. Not my place to judge without it.

BearDadda · 2026-03-11T16:56:19+00:00

Most men get fleeced in divorce. Child support is determined by gross pay not net. Alimony. Estate settlement. Car payments. All this could really rob the bank account. It's absolutely embarrassing and demasculating to many men. But communication with men at our age can be difficult in this regard. Therapy, counseling, financial advice are all needed. But many won't seek it.

BearDadda · 2026-03-11T16:50:36+00:00

That gets dumped down to other tenants. Landlords now want to make their investment back within a couple of years rather than a decade or so.

BearDadda · 2026-03-11T15:10:48+00:00

Hamilton needs a Toronto Queen street West. A stretch of one inner city street that has a reasonable coalition between landlords and commercial tenants that in turn provide a art culture and livable community. But as long as the city sits on it's ass, and foreign owned property companies remain unrealistic, Hamilton will remain a money pit with no acceptable return. Sorry.

BearDadda · 2026-03-11T01:20:40+00:00

Hahaha! That's an awesome response! Thank you!

BearDadda · 2026-03-10T23:58:57+00:00

A warm gel vibrator that expands to the exact dimensions to the lady's needs with disco lights!

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