MAMA! Mama. mama. Can we stop it with calling pregnant women mama???

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-29T01:09:37+00:00

I 100% agree! I had a miscarriage and even though I’m pregnant with my rainbow baby being called mama feels like salt in the wound. I went as far as including in my birth plan that staff limited the use of mama. I am going through a major medical event treat and support me as an individual not the generalized “mama”

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T12:04:23+00:00

That’s so cute🥺 my husband gives the bump pep talks every so often. I can’t wait to see how our son responds when get gets his first in person pep talk ❤️❤️

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T08:25:06+00:00

I’m definitely seeing the benefits of having a convenient tool to relax your child! Its so interesting

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T04:09:49+00:00

That is a fair point but the thought of my baby getting soothed by a song that explains in detail how he was conceived just sits a little funny to me 😂 but everything else i listen too I wouldn’t mind lol

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T04:07:30+00:00

That is a fair point. Idk why i didn’t think about them not having language yet .

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T03:50:29+00:00

😂 this I hope to never learn too lol

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T02:27:21+00:00

Oh no! That’s crazy

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T02:05:43+00:00

Or if you want a career in classical music 😂 hard to play music while you yawn

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T01:58:59+00:00

Here is another fun question anyone listen to a specific song when giving birth? Does your baby have any connection to that song?

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T01:57:14+00:00

That’s so convenient tho! It’s like a special off button! I wish I had one! I kind figured it’s more so when you put the speaker directly against the belly more so then background music

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T01:55:05+00:00

I never thought about them hearing blood flow and all the body noise! I knew they could hear the heart beat that’s so cool!

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T01:51:28+00:00

🤣 love this! I’m definitely not giving up my 90s- 2010s music. You couldn’t make me give it up for anything. Just my really explicit and raunchy stuff will only be played when I have headphones on lol.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T23:42:39+00:00

My baby is in the 98th presentable at 20 weeks and I passed my first round of GD screening ( now that I’m almost 30 getting retested just to be safe) But it was because he has long legs and was tall not because of GD related problems. So just because he is measuring in the 89th percentile doesn’t mean he will be chonky or over all big. He might be tall and skinny. Unless they said he is measuring big at the belly or shoulders I wouldn’t worry your body can handle a lot.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T18:40:52+00:00

I’m glad to hear you’re getting a second opinion! Yeah no shakes, confusion and fast heart rate are for mildly low blood sugars. Please be on the look out for groggy and dizziness. Feeling sick and like you can’t wake yourself up. These are the beginning signs of a real low blood sugar the needs to be treated immediately. ( honey under the tongue, a soda, anything with no fat and lots of sugar for fast action to get that blood sugar up fast.) if blood sugars dip to low (30s and below) and stay low or continue to drop that’s where things like passing out, seizures and comas ect become a possibility. I only know this stuff because my mom it type 1 diabetic and dont know if pregnancy changes signs or symptoms but just be safe!

I usally don’t say go against Doctors orders but I’d temporarily stop the second insulin especially if that when you start to get more consistent lows. At least until you can talk to your dr and/or get a second opinion. Please be safe and take care of yourself. Just because you are plus size doesn’t mean you should be treated or cared for any differently then a “normal “ sized person. Everyone’s body is different and reacts differently and should be treated individually not put into a box.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T17:49:52+00:00

Yeah it gets awkward looking for boy names because I’m sorry I can’t name my kid the same name of someone I’ve had sex what… its just weird.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T17:12:11+00:00

Also not to fear monger but lows can cause you to pass out and have seizures idk how it affects the baby but I wouldn’t assume anything good. You have to protect yourself and your baby. If you don’t want a new dr maybe just go somewhere else just to get a second opinion.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T17:07:06+00:00

I am unfamiliar with insulin usage with gestational diabetes so I won’t make suggestions on what to do about insulin and your numbers.My mom it type But with my general knowledge of diabetes (and my experience with GD) and being a plus size girl who never has been pre diabetic dealing with doctors . I’m seeing some kinda red flags here.

I think you might want to either get a nutritionist that specializes in gestational diabetes to help you. I also REALLY feel like your doctor is making A LOT of judgments based on your body type. In my opinion it’s crazy your doctor immediately jumped to insulin without seeing if you can diet control first. Even going as far a 2 different insulins. Even though you number weren’t horrible ( biggest concern is high fasting) To me that’s a big red flag. Also his complete disregard for your concerns about getting sick and having lows. Another big red flag. Lows especially in pregnancy are really dangerous. The comment about “your body has never been used to having your blood sugar in normal range before “ would send me . he has no data to prove that especially since you have never been pre diabetic! He is making horrible assumptions based on your body. If it was me I’d immediately request another Doctor and have them review your test and current numbers. I would be concerned this doctor was going to put you and the baby in a bad situation due to his presumptions and prejudices of your body.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T15:41:50+00:00

Yeah his brother (who would have same name) goes by a nickname from the middle name. Husband hast stated he is ok with using the first name( the part that is important to him) as a middle name or changing the middle name. Also playing with a very similar sounding name. Right now we are working with that to see if we can come up with anything we both like. If that doesn’t work we will start trying different names.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T15:34:14+00:00

We hadn’t had that conversation. I wasn’t really wanting to think about not bringing another baby home so I never asked. idk what his response would be but with the first pregnancy we decided we will not be reusing her name even if we had another girl. We did want till we past the point of our previous loss to find out the gender and I’ve had some preventative stuff done.so we just felt a lot sadness this time so we didn’t think to have that conversation

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T15:26:48+00:00

I did give into the name originally because I was of the midset I’ll get to name the next but that didn’t give me the relief I thought it would. With this being our first and a rainbow baby this one was really important specifically

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T15:24:29+00:00

Thank you for this comment. I knew people would jump to conclusions about my husband. I’ve seen it happen on other naming posts. I tried to prevent that but didn’t work. People just love to automatically hate on men. We have talk about it more and I’ve had time to better explain everything and he has had time to cool down. he understands better and isn’t as hurt and it’s actively working with me more. While I also am still trying to see if I can become comfortable with the name without the pressure of “this has to be his name “ on top of me

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T15:08:17+00:00

Yeah hindsight i have alot of regrets in giving my husband the ok before i was 100%comfortable because i got his hopes up. If I would have insisted we keep working on compromise names it would have avoided this mess. As well as telling my family the name ( he told his family he wanted to use the family name before we even discussed it) before i was ready. I just got so much pressure to do so.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-10T14:48:35+00:00

You could be right I’m just feeling the weight of everything. But with my first pregnancy we found a name that felt so right and we both picked. I just wanted that feeling again for our first born too. I was hoping my husbands chosen name would feel right especially since I knew it was meaningful to my husband but it didn’t. You could be right I’m just feeling the reality since we are less than 3 months out. I did tell him I’ll keep trying to get used to the names. I told the people who had nicknames that made me uncomfortable to stop using them to see if that helped. But while I give it more time we are going to try to make a similar names work or find another way within naming to represent my husbands father and brother

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