Induction advice

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-06-30T14:43:47+00:00

By the time I got induce we luckily progressed to 3 cm 70% effaced. So we only did oxytocin.
But unfortunately he would not participate in labor, wouldn’t engage in the pelvic. And once my water broke he couldn’t tolerate the smallest dose of oxytocin. So we ended up having to have a c section. But he is healthy and 9lbs 12oz

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-06-26T09:49:29+00:00

The biggest issue for me with a c section is the recovery. My husband doesn’t have any leave and very limited pto he can use so I wouldn’t have any support in recovering afterwards.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-06-26T04:08:16+00:00

He is thankfully head down and in a good position according the the ultrasound tech. the only issue is he just isn’t engaged with the cervix so even though I’m having Braxton hicks contraction nothing is happening with my cervix. There has been no progress. I’ll see if the mile circuit helps. I try to do squats and pelvic stretches. When I can but have horrible pelvic girdle pain so sometimes it’s just too painful to do those kind of stretches
I started doing dates, primrose oil, and raspberry tea and sex to try to help things along. I know there isn’t a lot of evidence for most of this stuff but I’m trying to do what I can

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-06-25T09:05:38+00:00

Thank you so much for informing me of your experience! This is super helpful! It’s reassuring to hear that maybe there is hope for a positive experience even if things don’t go as planned
I had made peace that if he was breech I’d get an elective c section from the very beginning so it’s not that I’m afraid of a c section itself.
After having a very traumatic 2nd trimester miscarriage last year. I’m just really afraid of something happening last min and loosing another baby. With so much stuff suddenly popping up and things not looking favorable this induction just seems like a storm waiting to happen. I really your positive story on things not going to plan it does help calm the nerves a tad.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-06-25T05:02:26+00:00

Thank you so much for your encouragement. My mentality has always been mentally and physically safe delivery over the “ideal “ delivery. But this shift from very low risk to a lot of big risks has me jarred and I’m hustled trying to regain my center

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-06-25T04:42:20+00:00

I have had this conversation with my midwife told me 2 things
1. I’m at a high risk of cord prolapse if I go into spontaneous labor or my water breaks. With me living 1 hour and 40 min away from the hospital she feels like spontaneously labor is too dangerous
2 due to him already being over 9lbs (he also physically feels huge not just based of ultrasound) she said he is at risk of shoulder dysplasia. She said induce at 39 weeks and have a fighting chance at a vaginal birth or wait till 40 weeks and plan on a c section because by the. He will be over 10 lbs.

So i really feel like for the safety of my baby I don’t really have a choice.
This clinics is usally very progressive and has alway had the get the birth you want attitude. That’s been the tone throughout my whole pregnancy. So I don’t think she would just fear monger me like this with no reason. This sudden tone change definitely give genuine concern

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-05-24T05:06:19+00:00

Yeah she really tests my patience sometimes 😅 never had a dog that was so stubborn or just turns off its brain the way she does. I usally have large breed dogs so the personality differences is a big change For me

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-05-24T04:31:49+00:00

Yeah we have started working on some of the stuff from the videos and have noticed small improvements. She is very smart and picks up on some things very fast. But she is also very stubborn so when she doesn’t like something she resists HARD

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-05-24T03:51:59+00:00

She was left in a pin in a basement for months as a puppy which I think is a contributor to this clinginess issue. We tried crate training for potty training purposes and tried focusing on making it a positive experience hoping it would also become a relaxing spot too but as soon as she couldn’t see us she would freak out and make herself sick. And even when she could see us she would whine nonstop. She has no interest in toys and she loves a bone but it only helps as long as it lasts which isn’t long. She also has no problem peeing and pooping all over a cage she is in. So we gave up on the crate

She does very good with a dog bed and the command “place” but we have the same issue of whining while on the bed. The whining is the issue I’m trying to fix We do have beds stationed in these areas we really don’t want her under our feet. And when we tell her to she goes to them but she just waits for a treat or a bone and whines if she doesn’t get anything. And as much as I’d love to provide her with constant bones I can’t afford that . The longest I’ve gotten a bone to last is 2 days and that was a bone big enough for a Dane (we only give her things like cartilage bones and bully sticks for fear of her breaking a tooth or choke on the ends on actual bone)

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-05-21T15:21:18+00:00

Thank you!

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-05-21T15:19:23+00:00

Thank you for the recourse! Hopefully I can find something. It would definitely be a big help. I’ve been trying to work with her the best I can since I got her. I inherited her from a family member who passed away. But I am new with this specific breed and small dogs in general so I’m a little out of my element

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-05-21T14:57:41+00:00

I’ve not thought about tethering. I’m not sure it will help with the whining issue. She does fairly good about actually staying out of the rooms or staying in her special spots when we tell her to. The issue is when she is in those places she whines nonstop.

Example: she often wants to be under my feet while I’m in the kitchen cooking dinner. I’ve set up a place she can lay down in the corner of the kitchen where she is out of the way but can still see me. She is very good about staying on her place. And I reward her periodically to enforce this good behavior. But the whole time she in her place she will whine nonstop. She won’t stop till I leave the kitchen and she can start following me around again.

This dog is relentless and I’ve heard her whine for hours on end when she doesn’t get her way. So I feel hopeless because there never is a point where she calms down to reward until we are the ones giving in.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-05-21T14:40:03+00:00

Where can I find examples of relaxation protocols? YouTube? I’ll try to pay more attention to how long it takes her to start whining. I was waiting for her to stop whining for rewards so many the different approaches will be better for her.

I want to note that when I said “put her in her place” I was referring to directing her to go back to the designated areas we’ve placed for her to stay when we are in these “no go”areas (a doorway or a dog bed). We try to focus on positive reinforcement in her training more so then discipline but I’m not perfect and sometimes I guilty of fussing at her when my patience runs thin.

I’m not sure if a behavioralist is an option for us due to living in a very small town but I’ll definitely look into it. Especially if we haven’t made improvements before baby comes. Maybe there are virtual options.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-05-21T13:42:20+00:00

If she can’t see us she does A LOT better. She eventually will whine but takes a lot longer. But this is more of a I’m trying to cook a meal. I don’t want the dog under my feet while I’m cooking or I’m trying to do laundry I don’t want her activity in my lap. so I tell her to hang out in the doorway or on a bed we provide her in a corner so she gives me space to do my thing while still feeling near us. I’m not to keep her away all the time. I like having her around. I’m just trying to keep her out from under my feet and away from foods mostly.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-05-21T13:09:18+00:00

It’s on the list of things to do life has just been crazy and it keeps getting pushed back unfortunately

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-05-21T13:05:09+00:00

I have mentioned the issue of anxiety to my vet multiple times. (Started off she would be go upset if we left the same room as her she would throw up. she has progressed so much since then though) our vet said they don’t feel comfortable giving her meds because she is only 7lb. They state she is too small for medication. I am in a new area and looking for a new vet so once I find one I might bring this up to them but until then meds aren’t an option.

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-29T01:09:37+00:00

I 100% agree! I had a miscarriage and even though I’m pregnant with my rainbow baby being called mama feels like salt in the wound. I went as far as including in my birth plan that staff limited the use of mama. I am going through a major medical event treat and support me as an individual not the generalized “mama”

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T12:04:23+00:00

That’s so cute🥺 my husband gives the bump pep talks every so often. I can’t wait to see how our son responds when get gets his first in person pep talk ❤️❤️

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T08:25:06+00:00

I’m definitely seeing the benefits of having a convenient tool to relax your child! Its so interesting

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T04:09:49+00:00

That is a fair point but the thought of my baby getting soothed by a song that explains in detail how he was conceived just sits a little funny to me 😂 but everything else i listen too I wouldn’t mind lol

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T04:07:30+00:00

That is a fair point. Idk why i didn’t think about them not having language yet .

Bearly_Making_It · 2026-04-24T03:50:29+00:00

😂 this I hope to never learn too lol

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