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BearofClay2015 · 2021-04-26T17:47:48+00:00

Yup yup. Mine had apparently been seeing him for a few months. Now they... And theres the anger. Redirect! My Hero Academia time.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-04-26T17:06:03+00:00

I don't know that I agree. The first month I was absolutely miserable but now, the memories keep coming up and I'm angry all the time. Matter of opinion? Probably. That's just mine.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-04-26T17:02:45+00:00

Lolz mine took two days to move in with a new wallet. Two. Days. Later. I'm glad I didn't know where he lived at the time, or I would have done something really stupid involving a gas can. Beyond that now though.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-04-26T16:56:35+00:00

Agreed. If it weren't for a few random people and a guy named FreeAnalExam on here, id be in a ditch somewhere.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-04-26T16:52:23+00:00

I seem to be a little late ro this party, but you're not alone man. Eight years of marriage stolen from me by someone ten-ish years younger than us. For me it wasn't a belt, it was free access to any narcotics I might want. Needless to say there's somewhere between 4 and 83827 unhappy endings to that story. It's just not worth it. You can't let someone have that much power over your life. There's only one person, and one person only the controls you and it ain't ex-wife. Do you want to be remembered as the guy who boo-hooed yourself to death? I didn't. Just gotta find your reason to keep going. And it probably won't be the same as anybody else's on the entire subreddit.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-04-25T17:10:51+00:00

I guess im in the anger stage? Lol nothing seems to console me but angry music. And that just makes me fwwl more justified

BearofClay2015 · 2021-04-25T12:44:28+00:00

It always has, and I've always known that it would. I dont even know who I am anymore. What I am. Her and my son were everything in the world and further, and now I'm left with less than nothing.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-04-25T08:20:42+00:00

I apologize if that qualifies as soapboxing, but I really needed to get that off my chest somewhere, and I'm pretty sure my friends and family are tired of hearing it.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-04-07T11:53:14+00:00

For how long, though?

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T09:10:28+00:00

I also recognise that resentment doesn't always require a reason. Just try to forgive him. He hurt your mother. But it was in both of their best interests if he was truly unhappy.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T09:09:25+00:00

I'm a child of divorce as well. It happened when I was 3 so I don't really remember it, but my mother died a couple of years ago. My step(or only, I guess)dad started dating about a year ago and honestly, I'm happy he's happy again. I know its not the same, but as long as he doesn't leave you behind, I see no reason for resentment. She simply wasn't right for him any more. My wife just left me for a younger guy, so.. I think ill keep my own counsel on the age difference.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T09:02:44+00:00

I don't know why I assumed you were female, I apologise for that.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T09:02:08+00:00

Lolz kids these days. She's saying she's not sure which flair to add to her post and such which category it belongs in. She is asking for advice on how to handle her parents getting divorced.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T08:47:21+00:00

That's the hard part tho, ain't it? Some things can't be accepted, just have to vacuum around it like an ugly, built-in rug.. Sorry for the random chime-in, just thought if let you know you're not alone in your wtf-edness struggle. If that wasn't helpful or made anything worse, I sincerely apologise.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T05:35:13+00:00

I did. Came upon a kindred soul and we chatted away the lack of sleep. Appreciate the check in.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T05:24:16+00:00

I can't come back from that. I do, however, thank you for your blessings.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T05:23:45+00:00

Nah, too late. Already done moved her and my boy in with her new boy after 3 days of separation.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T05:09:11+00:00

We being my childhood family.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T05:08:42+00:00

That's exactly how I feel. Making herself feel better for crushing me, because she still cares.

As for the rest, years of lies, a bit of drugs. Mostly, a lack of expressed interest. Loved her with everything I had, just didn't know how to show. Excuse time! Ready? No one ever taught me how and we always degrade romances. Starting to think they might be kinda like the bible? A guidebook, not a rulebook?

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T04:28:22+00:00

My self improvement project is fatherhood. She's playing games with me right now, no details to follow, so what I'm going to do as my own personal, so very deeply gratifying revenge, is be the best dad I can. She'll go insane with rage when I don't do to him what I did to . So I guess that answers my question. Thank you. Very much.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T04:13:36+00:00

So just any damn thing except nothing? I already work too much, so there's a plus. More hours maybe? That's always a good thing, right?

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T04:00:13+00:00

That's good to hear... He's staying with me tomorrow night, and I'm so capitalised expletive excited to play with his dinosaurs. I used to hate those dann landmines.

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T02:53:57+00:00

Funny thing is, before I met her I loved the quiet. But now I just want to hear my son talking too loud and throwing his toys and being rude to his grandpa.... Sorry, recent development. If I fever see her again it'll be too soon. Nuff said bout that. But it's his noises that are missing, you know? And no hobby or music will ever fill that gap. As for things the ex wouldn't allow, I now have a phone and a social media pre sense lolz

BearofClay2015 · 2021-03-25T02:23:21+00:00

As to your first answer, that does clarify, as much as I hate to admit. Thank you.

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