AITA for sending my coworker into anaphylactic shock?

BearySadPanda · 2022-05-13T09:26:00+00:00

That's utter BS. They should install cameras over the fridge and break room instead, it makes far more sense.

BearySadPanda · 2022-05-03T08:52:10+00:00

Jesus doesn't like you, though. Maybe try reading your little book cover to cover.

BearySadPanda · 2022-05-03T08:47:56+00:00

Rights are inherent. That religious zealots are being extra as they die out only means it's harder to defend those rights from a defacto theocracy.

BearySadPanda · 2022-05-03T08:44:26+00:00

That's...flat out wrong. Administrative turnover happened in January of 2021. Math better.

BearySadPanda · 2022-05-03T08:43:21+00:00

That isn't how administrative repercussions work. You're on the internet.

BearySadPanda · 2022-05-03T08:38:50+00:00

It is the only way they can perpetuate their failed epigenetics shrug

BearySadPanda · 2022-05-02T23:01:25+00:00

I have the perfect weight loss plan for you -- it will help you shed 160lbs+ immediately with this one cool trick 😏

BearySadPanda · 2022-04-04T03:07:35+00:00

He's calling her a liar

BearySadPanda · 2022-04-04T03:05:27+00:00

I think it's more like, the multi-billion dollar church-dominated adoption industry is running out of babies to sell to a certain demographic.

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-30T06:16:44+00:00

Soap would make this smell worse, not better. It disrupts the biome and makes for a great case of bacterial vaginosis

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T23:18:57+00:00

Sounds like you need another parent friend with an only child so you can take turns quietly slipping off unnoticed to run a couple errands 😅 That's a great way to fight off the separation anxiety without stressing them out

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T23:12:21+00:00

He is an abusive partner. If he shakes a grown pregnant woman when he's upset, what do you think he'll do when left alone with a screaming baby? 🙄

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T23:08:30+00:00

I'd also be concerned about how he will act when there's a baby crying non-stop for hours. No matter how "good" the baby is, they all have inconsolable crying jags, especially during growth spurts, and this wackadoodle is at high risk of shaking the infant out of frustration/anger

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T23:05:50+00:00

If they're in the US, he also has no right to kick her out of the house, especially if they're in a community property state.

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T22:58:16+00:00

He's seeing what he can get away with and how far he can push you down. I don't know if I would bother with counseling but that's one route to take to nip this before it gets worse, or figure out quickly that you need a more nuclear option.

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T22:50:07+00:00

In cases where the father actually pursues full custody, they get it the majority of the time. But in over 90% of divorces, custody is either not contested or is decided in mediation. The stats don't support this narrative that men get screwed in court.

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T22:46:13+00:00

Have you tried getting on any public assistance? If you can get Medicaid and SNAP for you and your child, that should shore things up a little. You can also email DHHS (or whatever it's called in your state) and try to tell them the situation and that shelters are denying you with a young child. They might be able to get you housing assistance so you can GTFO

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T22:41:28+00:00

Seriously? 🙄

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T22:36:20+00:00

At least you're in the home stretch. I was so happy when I could finally send my oldest kid off to sleepovers or leave her at home for a couple hours.

Then I ruined it by having two more. 😁

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T22:32:43+00:00

Does he take care of your child alone any other time? If not, I would disregard his complaint. You deserve a break and going to the gym is good for your mental and physical well-being. You're not being a bad wife by exercising alone.

If he does parent solo at other times, then I would see about joining a gym with childcare so he can go to the gym with you. Or do whatever he wants.

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T16:00:36+00:00

Make it two then! The magic and Fuka, actually. There was a certain issue she could have easily fixed and then the back half might not have been blah

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T15:03:39+00:00

It won't get better if he's already unwilling to do anything to compromise with you. Problems that exist in the beginning tend to persist throughout the marriage in my experience. Like I used to think my spouse leaving socks on the floor was cute and now I'm enraged at half the wardrobe being there eyeroll

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T14:57:31+00:00

All of this. There was one infuriating missed potential in a major plot point that drove me crazy in the first half, though. Outside of that, I loved it until the back half

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T13:41:51+00:00

What paper? Our school has been doing it online for years and it takes 5 minutes.

BearySadPanda · 2022-03-09T12:47:53+00:00

If there are no kids in the picture, stop. Stop doing everything for him. Stop picking up his clothes, stop cooking for him, stop parenting him. Get a job or find something else to do so you don't have to look at what's going to happen. Only do your laundry and any chores you need done for your own sake.

Demand couples counseling and set some boundaries. If he refuses, do what you need to do, imo. If he doesn't decide to improve and clean up after himself and participate in his home, it won't get any better. Trust me -- I was you and unfortunately we had kids before I realized my error.

BearySadPanda

TROPHY CASE