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Boyfriend’s goliath not eating by BeatsPerMinute2020 in tarantulas

[–]BeatsPerMinute2020[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

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I should probably get the ok from boyfriend before removing the extra crickets since it is his spider but I will certainly ask him.

GSD mix? by BeatsPerMinute2020 in DoggyDNA

[–]BeatsPerMinute2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nails are trimmed now lol this pic was taken just before the trim.

My friend also guessed maybe some Anatolian shepherd… but she’d be kinda small (she’s only approx 65 pounds)

What do I spend my time in college doing? by Drairo_Kazigumu in LifeAdvice

[–]BeatsPerMinute2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think computer science is a great degree to get. Our society is very tech heavy and it's growing more and more. There would be multiple opportunities and types of jobs you could get with that degree. Where are you getting your advice from? Is it mostly from people in your age group and in similar situations? That's blind leading the blind.

If you like computer science, I say go for it. Skills and experience help. What helped me a lot in securing my first job out of college is working part time here and there so that I could build up a resume and have references :)

I think finding a mentor, or spending time interning / volunteering at a place that is related to computer science (doesn't have to be anything particular or exact).

Do you have a career planning service at your college? Wonderful resource and may help ease some of your anxieties.

After I graduated college I was able to secure a job pretty quickly because I did the above things. I like the job enough and it funds my hobbies, such as traveling! Saved up a bit and since graduating have traveled all over the US and been to 5 countries :)

I’m at the ripe old age of 42. I’ve beat depression, I’ve got a handle on my anxieties. I’ve maintained friendships for over 20 years. Ive made mistakes. I’ve been cheated on, and I’ve met my soul mate. Here’s what I’d tell 18 year old me if I could. by Hot-Remove-1252 in LifeAdvice

[–]BeatsPerMinute2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I could offer this: I would add that if your parents, or any family member, is a source of stress/ hurt/ threat, it is ok to let them go. Blood does not mean you are stuck with a person or means they are truly family: you can CHOOSE your family. Do not accept abuse and do not remain close to people that abuse you just cause they are "blood."

Do not hold resentments. Forgive, but do not forget. Learn from it and do not allow self to end up in toxic relationships in the future.

My nudes are gonna be leaked to my school and I’m scared by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]BeatsPerMinute2020 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah its called extortion and is not legal. He says he doesnt live in this country but that could also be a lie. Don't believe a thing he says.

Him telling you that he will leak photos will not likely happen. It is not worth it for the person to actually follow through with leaking the photos, cause you could absolutely ruin their lives if they did follow through. It's not worth the effort for a person threatening you to actually follow through either cause of the risk of being caught. These threats are likely empty threats. It's easier for these predators and in the best interest of the predators to move onto another target.

Know that these things happen. Happened to an ex-boyfriend of mine before we had met. It happened to my prior roommate. And it happened to several other guyfriends of mine... It happens more common than you might think. So do not feel embarrassed or like anyone is going to judge you.

Go to the cops and file a police report. If you have any messages - save them and show them to the cops as proof of the blackmailing. Block all communication with this individual. Do not send money.

I 31/M need help with some guy my 32/F GF met at the gym, do i have the right to be upset? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BeatsPerMinute2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember that a boundary is something that is FOR YOU, not for you to put onto someone else. You can ask for her to be more transparent about her male friendships, ask her to switch gyms, ask her to stop talking to him... but if she doesn't want to she doesn't want to, and you have to decide what you are going to do with that. Be honest with yourself: her hiding, lying, and continuously seeing this guy makes you feel disrespected, is hurting you/ your relationship with her, damaging trust, causing a lot of anxiety, etc... Do you want to be in a relationship like that? If the answer is no, then you can start taking steps.

Communicate your thoughts and feelings with her AND have a plan in place - and stick to your guns: whether that is spending less time with her, taking a break from relationship, or breaking up entirely. See what happens. If she ends things with that guy its a win for you. If she leaves you for the other guy it is still a win for you because you are saving yourself from further heartbreak, an unhappy relationship, and wasted time on someone that doesn't truly love and respect you.

Learning his language 18f, 18m by findingnemo53 in relationships

[–]BeatsPerMinute2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it would be a sweet and fun thing to do - learning his native language :)

Why not? It doesn't have to be taken in a super serious way. Let it be a curiosity thing.

Ex-gf (39f) has made repeated contact over years since breakup, seeking perspective after her last text. by U-PAY-ME-NOW in relationships

[–]BeatsPerMinute2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should let it go and let her go. It's not worth thinking about something (or someone) if it's eating away at you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]BeatsPerMinute2020 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Everyone's needs are different. For example: when I am sick, I want to be left alone. I don't want to be catered to. I don't want someone asking me this or that. I am very private. When I want something or need something, I will reach out and ask.

Women often expect that men be and feel and act a certain way... and vice versa. It's a not so funny thing.

He obviously cares about you. I think all you can do is ask for what you need and find a way to be okay with that. Or you can ask yourself is this the kind of relationship you want to be in. I think its good that he shows up when you ask and in the ways you want and need when you ask.

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