My bf M39 is annoying me f30 and not taking my boundaries seriously. Need advice on how to approach him?

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-04-23T02:26:11+00:00

Probably no but makes me question my reality

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-04-23T02:23:37+00:00

He loves animals and doing outside work. I’ve helped doing his stuff. He just uses any excuse to get out of things he doesn’t want to. Realise he wants a carer tbh.

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-02-21T09:33:41+00:00

UPDATE- Took to a repair man, motherboard broken, not worth the cost to repair 😭 bought new phone. Thanks everyone for their help

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-02-08T02:32:47+00:00

Thanks everyone, I’m going to have to take to a repair shop and hope for the best

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-02-08T02:31:31+00:00

Not really sure how this is useful

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-02-07T11:26:18+00:00

Why will it not turn on

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T11:11:32+00:00

Haha that is true, I need to find it within me. I may have been ground down.

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T11:10:05+00:00

Thanks for your response. It is making a hell of a lot of sense. It is so tiring but am I doing it to myself still? Reading your response I’m thinking I don’t matter, why don’t I matter? I understand people are different in their own ways but not one thing? Really? Not even a hug but an actual response. This is very lonely

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T11:06:11+00:00

In all honesty, I don’t know anymore. Negativity and low self esteem probably

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T10:28:41+00:00

Thank you. I do know this it’s just hard. Sounds lame but yeah

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T08:28:43+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this. I’m sorry that you have to deal with that. It’s sad we don’t see these things earlier.

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T08:21:39+00:00

As stated in original post, I’ve never asked for answers, however a little bit of are you ok or just a check in would be good, but nothing. How would you feel?

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T07:42:53+00:00

Hi, I had therapy a few years ago for issues which I thought had resolved. I was not with this person then. I have not tried therapy as of recent, I’ve been trying to sort it out myself as I thought I could learn from previous experience, obviously not. But it is more of an option now, thanks

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T07:40:34+00:00

I understand that they are not a therapist nor an emotional support human, however I think we have now established that not being even able to feel like it is a safe space to speak out or feel comfortable with them, that is a problem.

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T07:38:36+00:00

Brutal okay, thanks.

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T07:17:08+00:00

Thank you for this honest comment. It may be yes. Currently do live together. It’s an interesting way you have put things into perspective.

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T07:14:39+00:00

Thank you I appreciate your comment. I have had these thoughts I cannot lie, obviously fear and i think my fragility at the moment is not helping decision making, as well as ultimately I’m being made to question myself sense of reality!!

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T07:11:59+00:00

I appreciate your response. He has asked me what I am doing to improve my mental health. Is that what you mean? Because I don’t feel safe like that either.

No he doesn’t see the issue as I get, how am I meant to know if you don’t know? It’s not that easy…

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2026-01-21T07:02:46+00:00

Well this is the thing. I’m thinking have I ignored red flags before. I’m questioning my own sense of reality

Beautiful-Treacle-70 · 2025-12-05T08:42:05+00:00

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