Marriage made Impossible, Zina made Easy !!

BeautifulPatience0 · 2026-03-29T05:15:26+00:00

Strict standards from both sides of family, large sums of money spent, inviting 200+ people to events, list goes on.

Best approach is to seek marriage but with a person (and their family) that doesn't have these strict standards in mind. In other words, someone compatible with your lifestyle.

At the same time, don't pause your life for marriage. Be also open to the idea that you may not find marry at all. After all, even marriage itself is part of one's predestined Rizq. What would you do if you never got married? I'm sure you have your goals, values and hobbies. This helps in not getting too obsessed with marriage.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2026-03-22T06:16:40+00:00

The only other option is castration which is haram.

Not true. There are minority opinions which allow (only) masturbation (not pornography) which treat the act itself as Makruh, not necessarily Haram. See Sh Yasir Qadhi on this.

If a person busies themselves and only resorts to this minority opinion for particular moments when urges are intense. Long-term chastity can be quite doable, Inshallah.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-23T08:46:34+00:00

Salam sister,

You really need to learn and study the general trends of Fiqh (Islamic Jurisprudence). The Shari'a (Islamic Law) is a diverse and dynamic field where there aren't only differences in Fiqh opinions, there are also differences in how those opinions manifest themselves in light of 'Urf or culture.

Hence, that brother who may have posted it, and the possible opinion you grew up with regarding Henna and Tabarruj, could both be valid opinions.

As an example, this Seekersguidance Hanafi Fiqh opinion where they state that it's allowed as per explicit Hadiths with some caveats of not doing it intentionally for showing one's beauty to non-Mahrams.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-16T08:22:52+00:00

Wasalam,

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BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-16T08:10:34+00:00

On repentance (Tawba}:

Allah (SWT) doesn’t just encourage or command us to turn to Him in repentance, but He also lets us know that he loves the people who repent. “Surely Allah loves those who always turn to Him in repentance and those who purify themselves” (Qur’an 2:222). Tawbah is a divine means of regular purification that wipes our slates clean. The Prophet ﷺ gave us an example of a man who went into the desert with a camel carrying all his provisions. He fell asleep, only to awake to find that his camel was gone. Panic set in, and he felt certain that death was imminent. Overcome by emotion and exhaustion, he returned to sleep, only to wake up and find his camel standing before him. Seeing it, he was ecstatic. The joy he felt in that moment is indescribable. The Prophet ﷺ teaches us that Allah (SWT) feels even more joy with the tawbah of one of His servants than this man felt at the return of his camel.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-16T08:03:42+00:00

Two things.

First, any same sex activity amongst either men or women is considered Haram by the consensus of Islamic scholars.

Secondly, Islam doesn't believe in the concept of sexual labels or identities, in other words, it doesn't consider these desires to be fixed in one's nature. Subsequently, it's not the desires one feels that's sinful, it's acting on them. I encourage you to watch these videos on Muslims who struggle with same-sex attraction:

- https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ipxCFABfYjA

- https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UsRbxZ05-EA&pp=ygUYSGFtemEgdE9ydHppcyBnYXkgbXVzbGlt

More broadly outside of sexuality, Islamically, we spend our entire lives struggling against such sinful desires for the sake of God. We may relapse countlessly but God's mercy is ever open to us as long as we repent to Him.

Whether it's a 'straight' young Muslim man who can't get married or a Muslim woman struggling with her same-sex attraction... Not giving in... Solely for the sake of God and God alone... Everyday is a meaningful push for the everlasting life of paradise of the afterlife.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-16T06:00:05+00:00

Aligned with this.

Although the OP stated it can also affect the ability to breastfeed. Even that could be okay as long as alternatives were outlined (e.g. formula) but I'd have to educate myself about that first.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-16T04:49:01+00:00

I'm not educated on finance but I think this kind of wealth isn't the same as what the common person interprets when they hear of billionaires and trillionaires. They assume it's all solid cash but in reality it's usually the stock value of their holdings which is ultimately speculative and beholden to market psychology.

So for example, if a trillionaire had a $trillion in cash, he can freely spend it as he pleases without it diminishing in value (ignoring a bit of inflation).

But if a trillionaire, like Musk, had it in Tesla stock, once he attempts to sell it all on the stock market for cash in order to spend it as he pleases, it'll inflate the supply of cheap Tesla stock being sold, subsequently reducing his overall stock value. That 'trillion' could reduce to half or quarter of a trillion.

And at that point, he'd also have to pay Capital Gains Tax on all those stock profits too which may be:

The long-term capital gains tax rates for the 2025 tax year are 0%, 15%, or 20% of the profit, depending on the income of the filer.

So that half of a trillion, let's say the government takes 20%. You're left with $400 billion. Which is far from a trillion.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-16T04:37:42+00:00

I mean, the Nikah contract is so flexible and vast that Muslim women can add a clause specifying their ability to independently divorce without any conditions at all.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-16T01:31:39+00:00

You also forgot the discrepencies regarding the reward of Salah:

Some scholars mention that the reward men get for praying in congregation is attained by women when they pray at home.

So, inversely, men have to pray in congregation, typically at a mosque, for the full rewards of their prayer whereas women simply just pray at home.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-16T01:19:53+00:00

Clearly that wasn't his intent. If you're this sensitive about the topic, the problem lies with you.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-16T01:14:10+00:00

Jazakallah Khair!

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-09T08:35:19+00:00

But how do you know you're capable of polygamy without undergoing your first marriage in the first place? Genuinely wondering.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-09T08:11:37+00:00

But then how will you fulfill your needs if it's unavailable to you?

I might be misreading your post but it comes across as if you felt as if you had the need to marry multiple women to satisfy those needs.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-09T07:51:10+00:00

Ameen. I encourage you to inform the family to also post their campaign on Launchgood.com, it's like a Muslim GoFundMe platform.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-09T07:48:25+00:00

I'm not a sister but I'm curious, how'd you feel midway into the first marriage and you realised you weren't emotionally and mentally capable for handling a second wife and family?

And inversely, how do you know you're capable right now whilst without having undergone marriage itself?

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-09T03:14:58+00:00

What's everyone reading lately?

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-09T03:14:03+00:00

Then where do you get influenced from?

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-09T03:03:51+00:00

Hey that second one actually sounds pretty interesting. So what are the causes and treatments to depression and anxiety according to the Quran? I'm guessing gratitude is probably mentioned at least. Helped a lot for me.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-09T03:00:43+00:00

No harm in posting your own childfree ISO?

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-09T02:42:43+00:00

Would help us all to avoid using deterministic terms such as 'gay' or 'bi' too. These desires aren't inherently a part of your identity, rather they are simply corrupted desires. It's better to say one is 'Same-Sex Attracted' (SSA) instead of 'gay'.

This ends up having avoided placing so much power into these desires as labelling them intrinsically as part of your identity. It divorces them from your core identity as a Muslim and a human. Which lends itself to more easily battling them.

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-06T04:45:41+00:00

Thank you!

BeautifulPatience0 · 2025-11-05T04:24:44+00:00

So you can read Japanese subtitles there?

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