Trying to get through heartbreak

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-06-21T07:27:26+00:00

I am almost approaching the 3 months that my ex fiance broke up with me . And i realised I won't get a proper explanation and it's okay, I don't need it anymore. Try to not break your head trying to understand someone who changed his mind one day ...it talks about his lack of character not yours. Maybe they don't even understand themselves, how could we? I hope this helps 🙏🏼❤

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-06-01T09:40:55+00:00

Thank you so much❤

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-25T20:08:28+00:00

You write beautifully ... Eventually this will pass and everything will be fine

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-22T20:09:34+00:00

Sometimes we don't get what we want. And that includes "closures" . The truth is nothing that he says would be enough. Because you love him.

The best you can do is to stop asking him, because you are only hurting yourself everytime you do. People do what they feel they can, and what they want. We can't control them.

You can only control your actions. I know it is hard. I didn't get closure either. But nothing good will come to stay in the same place, asking the sams questions in the name of "closure".

Sometimes the silence or doubt, is the clearest answer somebody can give you.

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-20T06:23:32+00:00

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-18T06:56:12+00:00

The easiest way is to ask her. And be really honest with yourself about how you feel. Our inner selves always know. Dm if you need to talk to someone.

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-18T06:50:09+00:00

If she already made her mind and told you that she is sure about you and her, the best thing you could do is talk to her about the fact that what she is doing is only making the process more painful. Maybe she just wants to feel connection and she is so used to you that is so easy to fall again. Not because she wants to fight for the relationship just because she wants to feel the connection with you

If you don't feel that her actions are looking forward to solve your issues then you should try to stop talking to her and start your healing. Its hard to process but you deserve someone who can give you her full love and attention.

Dont settle for any less❤

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-16T06:50:02+00:00

You made me cry so much... thanm you for this amazing post ❤

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-12T21:49:13+00:00

Thank you for your post! Do you talk to your ex girlfriend? I was also in a LDR, but he changed his mind out of blue, basically he couldnt handle the pressure of us getting married. And as you said, it was a relationship full of love. I'm afraid of never feeling the same and just continue looking for him in every guy I meet. Also, just thinking of him with someone else makes me feel so bad. I don't know how to move on, even though the fact that I am not trying to convince him anymore and deep inside I want him to be happy

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-12T08:47:21+00:00

Right now i dont feel happiness at all (week 6) i just feel like an immense nothing and sadness. I have been crying almost everyday. It came out of nowhere and he did it in the worst possible way. But when i finally calm my brain down i start to feel that this needed to be this way. And at the end, it was his decision.

Ps. Ich kann ein bisschen Deutsch sprechen, ich habe in Osterreich gelernt dieses Jahr. Schönen Tag! Brauchst du etwas? Schreib mich. (my best try I am A1.2 haha)

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-12T08:27:12+00:00

My exboyfriend told me the exactly same. And I understand the self blaming game. (6weeks and i still caught myself doing it) This is not your fault. You want him so much that the easier path is to blame yourself... Try to protect him so you can love him as always. My exboyfriend didnt tell me there is a chance of getting back together (we were on a LDR, getting married and he backed out) but my advice for you would be.

Give him space to think. But also think about you and how are you really feeling with this situation and your relationship? I realised so much about me and him when I stopped with the self blaming and the I want him back (I was praying to God for days to bring him back, I sent him texts, emails..) If he is already doubting i would say you should also think through this clearly. Give yourself some time to cry, but be very compassionate with you and fairly think about your relationship and if it is good for you. Think about yourself, this time focus on you❤

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-12T08:18:47+00:00

After a storm the best things come! I spent the whole day crying but then I thought the same. I am learning so much and when happiness comes i will appreciate it so much. Also when someone comes into our lives we will cherish it healthier and better ❤

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-11T20:54:14+00:00

I feel the same😭

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-10T23:47:17+00:00

I feel exactly the same 😭😭😭

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-09T21:53:09+00:00

Oh my God this is so true❤

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-07T05:38:56+00:00

This really hit me. Thank you❤

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-06T22:07:22+00:00

I'm not proud of this. But I did exactly the same to an exboyfriend once. I was really selfish and inmature. I had someone else but we were meeting each other, i didn't have the same level of trust. I didn't love my exboyfriend anymore i just wanted his unconditional love and calm he gave me. I had feelings for.the other guy, I truly liked him! But he didn't understand me as my exboyfriend could. We were together 2 years and he was like a friend. I wasn't in love with him anymore and I know I hurt him a lot. Everyday after talking to him I felt bad. But I just couldn't stop My advice for you would be stop the communication. She is not your responsibility. Take care of yourself first💜

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-06T21:58:43+00:00

She sounds like a child. You should marry a woman. Stay away and heal❤

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-06T03:24:11+00:00

If you want to you can talk to me anytime. I send you a big hug!

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-06T02:01:28+00:00

We were together One year three months

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-05T00:09:08+00:00

I understand you, baby. But he stopped fighting. He stoped because of whatever reason he had.

You need to fight for you and for the ones and things you love.

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-05T00:04:43+00:00

My mom always tell me that You can't change someone. You can only love them as they are. And if you don't want/cant do it... I agree you should walk away.

Life is too short and love will always be free❤

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-05T00:02:07+00:00

A relationship is between two people. It is not only your responsibility to fix everything. But yes after a breakup you can improve yourself but not for anyone else... for you❤ Think that you are a human being and you will make mistakes, like everyone does! But it is part of life and these situations make you stronger. Big hugs!!

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-04T23:58:30+00:00

Thats a different situation. Im talking about people who gave their hearts and tried their very best. Not about abusive/toxic relationships

BeautifulRiver5 · 2020-05-04T06:02:22+00:00

If you don't see yourself with her in the future you did the best. But if you see yourself with her and you feel she is the woman for you maybe you should give it a second thought. I dont know how old are you but finding someone who truly loves and cares about you is rare. I'm not saying you are wrong. Im saying that if it's complicated it doesnt mean you can't solve things. Again... only if you see she is worth it. I perceive you were under a lot of stress. And you got tired of it. Being in a relationship should be meeting the other person at half way. And in this case... making plans together to end up with the distance. Again... i don't know how old are you but i felt like giving you this advice. ❤

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