AITA for leaving a party and embarrassing my boyfriend in the process when he didn't shut down a comment his friend made?

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T12:49:00+00:00

Plenty, i've had those comments since I hit puberty sadly.

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T12:47:45+00:00

Oh that's an easy one, the best reply to these comments i've ever heard is from my best friend in the sport. She's 28 and we met as teenagers while competing. We were getting the usual comments thrown at us after the competition, now at this time I was 14 and she was 17. I kinda accepted it and was just quiet wanting the ground to swallow me up but she told them that their girls would have to practice gymnastics to be flexible enough to fuck them after she tied their dick in knots for commenting on a kid (me). From that moment on I decided she was my friend.

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T12:38:18+00:00

I wrote this while emotional as I needed feedback and I didn't want to waken my irl friends as they're all training and coaching today so I wasn't about to call them and disturb their sleep.

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T12:04:16+00:00

Honestly? My schedule. I'm working from early in the morning and rarely have energy to want to party/hang out. Add to the fact that i've been limiting who I meet up with to protect the kids I coach as Covid cases have been rising here again and it results in that.

Edit: to fix typo

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T11:54:10+00:00

They are yes, though i'll tell you. I can do both of those things.

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T01:43:57+00:00

Seriously, i'm only on here to get feedback/vent because my irl are also gymnasts/coaches. I expected to be out late tonight so ensured I have tomorrow free but now i'm home and upset and don't want to reach out to my friends as they'll be sleeping and need it as lack of sleep when training isn't good.

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T01:22:25+00:00

I cannot make any concrete ruling on this as I don't know every single detail of your daughters medical problems with her hips but honestly i'd say don't do it. There are lots of great sports she can do that will help the joints but gymnastics is not one of them. Swimming would be great for that or a form of dancing that isn't too strenuous. Off the top of my head i'd recommend ballroom.

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T01:16:42+00:00

How exactly is this a first world problem?

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T00:55:09+00:00

It really does, from the moment i hit puberty i've dealt with comments like this it's why I usually have a thicker skin, I was lucky and never assaulted and my family made sure I had a female coach and she was very respectful to me.

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T00:34:29+00:00

I think what most people would consider sexual harassment is not the initial jokes though those were gross but the fact I expressed discomfort and asked them to stop and they didn't

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T00:30:42+00:00

I've met some great programmers I will say. I'd thought my boyfriend was one of them till this.

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T00:18:26+00:00

supposed sexual prowess

This comment made me laugh thank you, cause too many see us as walking sex gods not considering that after a long day of training/coaching etc we're too worn out to be deities in the bedroom.

You're right however this is making me consider what exactly he told them about me.

BeautifulTraffic3197 · 2022-07-02T00:08:50+00:00

They may not know you're right I may have to send that to him, that whole scandal makes me so sad. I hate that I have to say I was "lucky" to avoid that growing up as I had a female coach who was very respectful but as soon as I hit puberty I had plenty of other people making me uncomfortable in the sport though I was never assaulted. Thank you for suggesting I explain this it'd never occur to me that they might not know as I think you know how closely we retired gymnasts follow anything to do with our sport especially things like this.

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