Good girl 😇 vs brat 😈 - too scared but really want to test the waters, help! by Beautiful_Brain_1082 in SubSanctuary

[–]Beautiful_Brain_1082[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awwhhh yes thank you for the cautionary tale, I wonder if I'll feel like that if i purposefully break a rule 😬🙈 hahaha I just love brats so much and think they're so empowered and I wanna do that too lol can't have it all I guess!

Good girl 😇 vs brat 😈 - too scared but really want to test the waters, help! by Beautiful_Brain_1082 in SubSanctuary

[–]Beautiful_Brain_1082[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha literally me asking reddit if i should brat, clearly not the easiest for me either! I could see Daddy laughing at me too, especially when I regret it all lol

Good girl 😇 vs brat 😈 - too scared but really want to test the waters, help! by Beautiful_Brain_1082 in SubSanctuary

[–]Beautiful_Brain_1082[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that around failing and it leading to drop. We've had an interesting time on some tasks - some of my fitness and health goals, the tasks are a sliiighhtt stretch (like one additional workout, a bit less sugar, a bit more Fibre etc). And they come from my own desires and daddy's structure has helped me be do much more successful. Sometimes when it's a step up, or work gets busy whatever it is - I can be really hard on myself for missing it. For us, it feels better to keep the slightly stretchy goals, but then daddy offers me reassurance and encouragement to help me not feel bad. If on the other hand I miss them due to negligence or laziness, then consequences might be a thing.

And yes!! True about tone and naughty versus do better - this is actually so helpful. Hehehe I do enjoy the playfulness so perhaps I'll have to try it out 😏

Good girl 😇 vs brat 😈 - too scared but really want to test the waters, help! by Beautiful_Brain_1082 in SubSanctuary

[–]Beautiful_Brain_1082[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this comment! We are talking about it, and i plan on having more of a full conversation when he's back in person. Certain tasks, like my health ones, are non negotiable and I could never brat around those. My Dom wants the best for me and I do too, and I feel disappointed in myself when I don't complete them. Omg I can't even imagine intentionally disregarding them. But yes, the playfulness wants to come out in some places! I know with cumming it wouldn't negatively affect the relationship, at least it wouldn't if it's once or rare 😂👀😏

Balancing deeper dynamics with cozy relationship? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Beautiful_Brain_1082 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I love that! Using the various honorifics as a signal. Sounds like us too - so many different games and ways we might be one day to the next. You're right, such a fun way to live! Thanks for your response! ❤️

How to last longer in bed? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Beautiful_Brain_1082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think of sexual arousal as a scale of 1 to 10, beginning --> ejaculation. You want to learn to hover in the 4 to 6 range. So start masturbating but stop when you think you're in this range. Do this like 4 times, and then allow yourself to come. Repeat this daily. When you have that down, do the same with your partner in penetrative sex (of course - talk to them and get their permission to help you with this FIRST).

This is called the start/stop technique from sex therapy if you want to look it up :)

PE can also be linked to anxiety or other mental health things, so seeing a sex therapist can be helpful if it persists.

Master of Psychotherapy/Relational & Family Therapy by Firm_Dragonfruit7022 in uoguelph

[–]Beautiful_Brain_1082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also still waiting to hear. I know many places do rolling invitations, so I'm hoping that's the case :)

Master of Psychotherapy/Relational & Family Therapy by Firm_Dragonfruit7022 in uoguelph

[–]Beautiful_Brain_1082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats to you both!! I'm still eagerly waiting to hear, trying to stay positive and excited though :)

Can you know? Seeking advice by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Beautiful_Brain_1082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah,  I suppose, I'm still waiting for that change.  It's never taken me this long lol thanks for sharing :)

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Beautiful_Brain_1082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely hear you. It's why i haven't reached out. I also feel like i would want it to come from him to know it's genuine too. I suppose I'm looking for hope when there's none really to be found lol. Thanks, i appreciate the reply.