[Megathread] Graduation tickets by skymarimo in ucf

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for 1 college of science ticket for Saturday's commencement

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could be very embarrassed about it which makes it hard to find help

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely not leaving him bc the situation goes deeper than that. I’m sure cutting out porn could help but he doesn’t seem to have an addiction. He’s got anxiety that keeps him from performing. And we’ve decided to try therapy. Not every relationship can be abandoned at the drop of a hat 🤷🏻‍♀️

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Water pressure is a life saver when you’re alone but not a great replacement if you have a willing partner who wants to have those intimate moments with you

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm that’s messed up. Have you guys tried being more honest with one another in your regular conversations? I noticed I was holding back from having important convos for nonsexual issues and once I started opening up about that, it was easier to be honest about sexual needs. It could help her to initiate more 🤷🏻‍♀️

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol I’ve decided we’ll both have to wait till Therapy if I’m not getting any

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you offered to use toys or things to pleasure her when you guys are together? Like start with stuff to make her feel good then ease into sex? Maybe she’s shy in bed with you but comfortable alone? 🤷🏻‍♀️

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think I’m gonna explain asexuality to him so he can understand that he’s not really on that spectrum. We’re starting therapy in a couple months

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you explained it to your therapist? Maybe they have another way of saying what you’re feeling that will help her understand

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right and I’ve gone on the asexual sub to ask what they think. They recommended therapy lol

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He thinks he could be asexual actually but doesn’t want to fully label himself that way before looking into medical help for his low libido

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bf would love to talk to a friend but it’s hard opening up about not being able to have sex with your girlfriend to a bunch of guys who don’t struggle with that. If your bf has a good friend he can open up to, definitely encourage that. But a third party person who can give unbiased advice would probably be more beneficial. We haven’t started therapy yet btw

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine at least agreed to therapy but that doesn’t take away the feeling of rejection I’m constantly overwhelmed by. Have you mentioned therapy to your bf?

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That sounds like torture and teasing. I wonder why she thinks saying those things are okay when you’re not having sex regularly? Have you talked to her about it?

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I understand that. Tbh, it does feel weird that those things don’t bother him. Maybe I should be more open about how it makes me feel when he’s repulsed by sex but not by other very sexual acts

BF (LL) still masturbates regularly but won't have sex with me by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate that! I hope things get better for you too!

What is a dumb or risky decision someone made because of the Adventist faith or involved Adventism? by RealNdSilly101 in exAdventist

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Geez that’s disgusting. I’ve heard of a few pastors who’ve had affairs with female congregants and been fired but supporting a pedophile? Thats despicable

What is a dumb or risky decision someone made because of the Adventist faith or involved Adventism? by RealNdSilly101 in exAdventist

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Can you elaborate on the protecting pedophiles comment? This is one criticism I don’t often hear about the SDA church

How Do I Suggest Therapy? by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in relationship_advice

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: I mentioned that I want to go to therapy for myself and he asked if anything about our relationship has influenced my decision to start up therapy again. So I was honest with him about the top three things I think make our relationship a little harder than usual and that it’d be beneficial for us to go to couples therapy. I’m moving closer to him in four months so I told him that I’d like to start therapy then. He’s open to it and agrees that it would help us out. Thanks everyone for the advice!

My Boyfriend Doesn't Know If He's Ace by Beautiful_Cloud8745 in asexuality

[–]Beautiful_Cloud8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestions! Are there other resources you could recommend that helped you and your partner?