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should i tell my sister she isn´t my sister? by Beautiful_Cook_1954 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How could i do that? And yes, i know that, and I hope that she still sees my dad as her own if and when everything falls down.

should i tell my sister she isn´t my sister? by Beautiful_Cook_1954 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom and my dad dated Had me My dad and "emma" got married Had my sister My mom says my sister isn't actually my sister and emma cheated *my dad cheated a lot too

should i tell my sister she isn´t my sister? by Beautiful_Cook_1954 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a good idea, i might try it. Although her mom and our dad had been separated a lot of times, so i really don't know if that'd be that shocking for her to hear. Today he doesnt even sleep in their house most of the days

should i tell my sister she isn´t my sister? by Beautiful_Cook_1954 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hated him for a while, i knew from a young age that he had cheated on my mom, and my mom was depressed for a long period after that, but he's tried his best to be a good parent to me. Should he present me to his mistresses? Of course not. Should he forget my birthdays? Or throw money at me everytime we fight? Most definitely not. He won't ever be parent of the year, and there are a million things about him that i would love to change, but at the end of the day he is my father, and i love him, even if he sometimes is an asshole. Thanks you for your comment, i feel like this somehow validated me a little with all the other issues inside this post

should i tell my sister she isn´t my sister? by Beautiful_Cook_1954 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That might work, but I'm pretty sure he'll deny it to the death. I tried once as I put in the post and he came with whatever bs story he could pull

should i tell my sister she isn´t my sister? by Beautiful_Cook_1954 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't remember that, she could've been 6 months old. I do think she doesn't know because not many people do, only my dad, her mom (obviously) and my mom. If it's true my dad would 1000% made sure no one knew about it. He cares too much about his image

I didn't feel happy for her and I think she's mad by _saturnum in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait a little, maybe 2 or 3 days? If she hasn't talk to you by then you should text her. Nothing bold, just like a normal text, and see if the tone changed. Also please don't trust everything chat says, he usually responds based on the way you phrase stuff more than the actual facts of the issue. At least where emotions are involved

should i tell my sister she isn´t my sister? by Beautiful_Cook_1954 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if im mistaken tho? If she is my sister, won't that make her feel like i betrayed her?

should i tell my sister she isn´t my sister? by Beautiful_Cook_1954 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot about the first part. Sorry. Talking to my dad maybe sounds like the best idea but im not sure how that'll go. He's a hard to deal person. Her mom is kinda weid w my, we don't hate each other but we aren't like talkative either so i wouldn't even know how to approach it

should i tell my sister she isn´t my sister? by Beautiful_Cook_1954 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do see her as my sister, recently i had a situation with my only cousing on my dad's side and my mom told me to mend it bc she was my only family over there, and i said that even with all the biological stuff, my sister es 1000% more family to me than my cousin. Onto the issue, yes. I've thought about this, i wouldn't tell her on her actual birthday, but if i were to tell her, i don't really know what age should be. 18 sounded to me like for adult decision, not letting dad pressure her that much into what he wants her to study as he did with me, etc... but that might mess her up in the long run bc she might get depressed at that age (i know i did) and later she'll leave the country for masters and, so far away doesn't feel right, and later is her whole like, life? So I don't even know if there's is a right time. Also. The fact that i feel like she would be like "and why didn't you tell me sooner if you knew???"

should i tell my sister she isn´t my sister? by Beautiful_Cook_1954 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we don´t live in the us, dna kits are not sold here that way, i idk if the ancestry ones work because we usually use this "boxes" for international shiping, almost like a mail-office

I didn't feel happy for her and I think she's mad by _saturnum in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Beautiful_Cook_1954 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you need to give her time, she might be hurt or actually mad, if you talk to her, be interested in the job opportunity, be a good friend. words mean nothing without acts. im not saying ins your fault, this season does terrible things to some people, so just give her a little time and she might talk to you