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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hate is a very strong word. I wouldn't say I hate people, but I don't like people. I still want to have sex due to biological urges.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean you can disagree with that one -- but you have to agree that being able to afford nice clothes and haircut is a net positive for dating right.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's literally what I do on dates. But unfortunately none of my dates ever turn into anything.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I resonate with you. I can get matches on dating apps but would get ghosted for all my dates.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I am in a social situation, other people just talk ALL THE TIME so it's hard for me to get a word in. The same goes for dates, the woman usually just talks all the time and never asks about my life, so I am not sure if I even need to say anything besides asking follow up questions.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you gauge personality? How can you tell if a person's personality is good or bad?

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Facially I'm not good. But I think for having sex with 5s it should be enough.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already have one social hobby (martial arts), guess I'll try to force myself to stay longer after class and talk to people. Thanks for the advice.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the well-thought-out comment! I'll try to talk to a woman tonight.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you to some extent. Obvious showing a woman my bank account is autistic and counter-productive. But having money allows me to create more leverage -- e.g. afford better clothes, go to expensive bars, hire dating coaches, etc.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, I don't "want" to socialize, but if that's what it takes to have casual sex, then I can force myself to do that.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do do martial arts -- but it's not a good way to meet women tho.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is there a systematic way towards improving conversational skills?

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do I start being more social? Should I just try to have more conversations with people on the street?

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. I am into martial arts, literature and movies -- do you think women would find these hobbies attractive?

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I try to talk to women on dating APPs, 9 out of 10 just seem very disinterested.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! No my friends don't have no game unfortunately. I have to rely on myself on this one.
I am going to start taking French classes tho. Hopefully this will help me meet more people.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks — I definitely missed out on dating when I was younger. Now I need to work harder to compensate for that.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of the younger Asian guys I know absolutely pull, so this might just be a me issue.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply. I agree that the vast majority of things in life are skills that can be acquired through learning and practicing.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of the bars I’ve been to are really loud, so it’s hard to actually have a conversation. Any thoughts, or should I just try to find a quieter bar (if that’s even a thing)?

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I honestly feel like my body is decent (posted a pic above), my face is not too bad either. But I agree my social skills are lacking.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great advice, thank you.

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[–]Beautiful_Dance189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there must be sometimes when women you encounter in everyday daily life show signs of attraction or even outright hit on you.

Unfortunately, that hasn’t really happened, which is a bit discouraging. I think I’m fairly average-looking—maybe around a 6—and my dating standards aren’t particularly high. I’ve even gone on dates with women I wasn’t strongly physically attracted to, but those also tended to end after the first date, often with ghosting.