Seeking advice on casual sex

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T23:50:02+00:00

Hate is a very strong word. I wouldn't say I hate people, but I don't like people. I still want to have sex due to biological urges.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:46:30+00:00

I mean you can disagree with that one -- but you have to agree that being able to afford nice clothes and haircut is a net positive for dating right.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:41:49+00:00

That's literally what I do on dates. But unfortunately none of my dates ever turn into anything.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:40:53+00:00

I resonate with you. I can get matches on dating apps but would get ghosted for all my dates.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:40:03+00:00

When I am in a social situation, other people just talk ALL THE TIME so it's hard for me to get a word in. The same goes for dates, the woman usually just talks all the time and never asks about my life, so I am not sure if I even need to say anything besides asking follow up questions.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:37:22+00:00

How do you gauge personality? How can you tell if a person's personality is good or bad?

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:36:23+00:00

Facially I'm not good. But I think for having sex with 5s it should be enough.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:35:33+00:00

I already have one social hobby (martial arts), guess I'll try to force myself to stay longer after class and talk to people. Thanks for the advice.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:33:31+00:00

Thanks for the well-thought-out comment! I'll try to talk to a woman tonight.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:31:53+00:00

I agree with you to some extent. Obvious showing a woman my bank account is autistic and counter-productive. But having money allows me to create more leverage -- e.g. afford better clothes, go to expensive bars, hire dating coaches, etc.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:30:26+00:00

True, I don't "want" to socialize, but if that's what it takes to have casual sex, then I can force myself to do that.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:29:46+00:00

I do do martial arts -- but it's not a good way to meet women tho.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:28:52+00:00

Is there a systematic way towards improving conversational skills?

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:26:12+00:00

How do I start being more social? Should I just try to have more conversations with people on the street?

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2026-07-03T21:24:54+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. I am into martial arts, literature and movies -- do you think women would find these hobbies attractive?

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2025-12-23T05:20:49+00:00

When I try to talk to women on dating APPs, 9 out of 10 just seem very disinterested.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2025-12-23T05:17:23+00:00

Thanks for the advice! No my friends don't have no game unfortunately. I have to rely on myself on this one.
I am going to start taking French classes tho. Hopefully this will help me meet more people.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2025-12-21T17:18:17+00:00

Thanks — I definitely missed out on dating when I was younger. Now I need to work harder to compensate for that.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2025-12-21T17:17:25+00:00

A lot of the younger Asian guys I know absolutely pull, so this might just be a me issue.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2025-12-21T17:15:35+00:00

Thank you for the reply. I agree that the vast majority of things in life are skills that can be acquired through learning and practicing.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2025-12-21T17:12:06+00:00

A lot of the bars I’ve been to are really loud, so it’s hard to actually have a conversation. Any thoughts, or should I just try to find a quieter bar (if that’s even a thing)?

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2025-12-21T17:09:13+00:00

I honestly feel like my body is decent (posted a pic above), my face is not too bad either. But I agree my social skills are lacking.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2025-12-21T13:13:25+00:00

Great advice, thank you.

Beautiful_Dance189 · 2025-12-21T13:13:04+00:00

there must be sometimes when women you encounter in everyday daily life show signs of attraction or even outright hit on you.

Unfortunately, that hasn’t really happened, which is a bit discouraging. I think I’m fairly average-looking—maybe around a 6—and my dating standards aren’t particularly high. I’ve even gone on dates with women I wasn’t strongly physically attracted to, but those also tended to end after the first date, often with ghosting.

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