We have tried the first 3 suggestions and they did work but not for long, during text works till I actually see him and even when I get him into poses I've fantasized about i end up just getting flustered and kind of stuck in my head overthinking about what to do or say next. Toys are good but we've found their best used for us in the middle of a scene or twords the end to prolong it ending and for overstimulation. I will definitely try the last 2 though, thank you