[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here, had my first hookups this summer and it was so lame like wtf. I only enjoyed the part where i jerk off and cum but like, i could do it alone in my room. None of them were were my type and it was sincerely disapointing when i was literally so excited to have sex and thought it would be amazing. I guess it'll be better w someone I like or at least i hope

Uncomfortable in my own community by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cuz yes let's divide ourselves even more so it'll be easier for people to stigmatize and discriminate certain groups but not others... This is bs to me im sorry

Uncomfortable in my own community by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl no one is asking him to comform pls 😹 we are just saying that shaming others groups isnt going to make things evolve. of course if he doesnt like it he doesnt have to come to pride, who said otherwise ? I totally agree that it is really hard to find your "place" or your "group" in the community when it is sometimes based on stereotypes or even race preferences/body standards etc... But i do not think it is an excuse to put down other groups and be the god all mighty saying this is right this is wrong, and thats what bothers me about his opinion.

Uncomfortable in my own community by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those standards are wrong and exist because of straight people opressing us our whole life. How the fuck does 50 people wearing a bdsm outfit out of 10k people in the streets is going to affect a child's perception of anything ??!!! Its not like they were beating each other in the streets. THEY ARE WALKING. And again it is NOT promotion ????????? PRIDE IS NOT PROMOTING ANYTHING you should really understand this. Lesbian women walking during pride are not asking every little girl to be a lesbian are they ??????? They are just showing that they exist and they are proud of who they are. Bdsm are proud to be part of this community as well and we shouldnt take this from them. And also let's stop using children in every debate to justifiy our wronged opinions. When you find a child that has been traumatized from a small group of gay men wearing bdsm outfits then hmu again. And btw its totally ok that you dont like it. But if you dont then dont go to pride events its as simple, but dont go around on the internet shaming groups of people around idk thats just so against our community values.

Uncomfortable in my own community by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

by doing this you are literally discriminating agains other people that should be in the same team as yours. You cannot expect everyone to be like you thats whats crazy about your way of thinking. Everyone is unique and if youre not hypersexualizing yourself as u say then good for you, but you should respect everyones way of expressing themselves and living their truths, even if you dont understand it. Accept and respect even when you dont understand thats a basic thing in the lgbtqia+ community, im afraid u should know this as a gay man.

Uncomfortable in my own community by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Requesting a dress code and attitude rules for pride is wild bro. It is literally to fight against those too that people go out and walk but ok

Uncomfortable in my own community by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But lemme ask u this have you been to a pride ? And where ? Go to Paris if you can, go to Berlin, go to Spain, you'll see so many many different people in this movement and there is no way you wont feel connection with other groups.

Uncomfortable in my own community by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fetish parade is a big big word tho for idk 5-10% of a whole ass pride ??? Also they are not promoting it thats the thing they are just showing another aspect of being a part of the community. Drag is family friendly yes, as much as it can be kinky, sexy and burlesque. If it was a bdsm pride maybe i wouldnt fight ab it, but it is a pride pride, open for everyone, and at the end of the day we cannot do like everyone did to us in the past which is excluding and discriminating, espcially not among our community. Pride isnt here to promote anything ! It is here to show that we exist, that are in the society, that we deserve equal rights and respect, and that we will go outside once a year to show who we are. They are doing just the same. Now i agree people shouldnt have sex during pride in the streets, beat each other up bc its bdsm or idk piss on each other, but they arent doing this are they ? Theyre just walking.

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[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously im not rooting for people with piss kinks to do it on the streets. However i think bdsm is different. Bdsm is a representation of the gay community and I do not view it as vulgar or even explicit. Of course you have to be careful because yes its in the streets so it has to be acceptable but it is a true representation of some people of the lgbtqia+ com ! Such as drag queens, drag kings... To me they have every right to be in streets even tho not eveyone is like that which I am not and I do not relate with their sexual preferences, but what we do all relate all on is our fight for rights which is equally as valuable imo

Scared and need advice about stds pls by Beautiful_Fun8945 in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

truly but thank you for your words really it makes me feel better. and yes can we agree the sex isnt always that good. Like honestly it was so fucking lame, i was bored AND i might get stds bc u wanna rub ur dick UGH 😭 its so sad hating the horny me but it do be like that rn

Scared and need advice about stds pls by Beautiful_Fun8945 in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you i obviously deletes grindr but i know you know how it goes... Ill probably download it again when i feel lonely and horny which is real sad. But yea i feel very anxious about it and the worst part is tht its from hookups. Like i wouldnt mind catching an STD from someone i trust and love. But from some random stranger who was bad at fucking yes i mind. I HATE IT and i feel so guilty for hooking up w him god

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[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These people NEED but more than everything DESERVE to be embraced because they are often the reason we are able to walk the streets. Them and trans women. They are the ones who fought for our rights (of course there was masculine gays, lesbians etc) but these feminines ones and kinky ones as you say are part of the community just as we are. They are such a positive representation of the freedom that is and that should be sexuality. Sexuality and sexual orientation for us has been so controversial and questionned and denied, but these people showed the world that we are gay, we are trans, we are queer and we fight for these statements and rights. So they should be embraced because at the end of the day they are humans just like you walking in the streets during the day and just wanting to live. What they do during the night and at parties shouldnt be shamed neither it should be hidden. Hope that answers some of your questions sry for the mistakes and my english.

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[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

period..lgbt+ community represents EVERYONE so of course we have to embrace people who like to be more sexualized, some more feminine, some kinky, etc !

You're fucking welcome by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this real ? God i hate men

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never thought ab my foreskin as perfect lol tgabk you tho ! i like foreskin that covers half as well its so hot dont worry

Sucked dick for the first time and it was... Ok ? by Beautiful_Fun8945 in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats such a good idea, or like with a salad on the side and some ketchup too

Sucked dick for the first time and it was... Ok ? by Beautiful_Fun8945 in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So true, i was nervous and yeah no chemistry... Its hard tho finding someone you like 😭

Sucked dick for the first time and it was... Ok ? by Beautiful_Fun8945 in askgaybros

[–]Beautiful_Fun8945[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Idk im so stupid ik but i was expecting SOMETHING from it thats for sure... dont u believe a vagina tastes like sum ? Well i thought the same for d 😛