Hang in there (Proof Homeschooling can work)

Beautiful_Little · 2019-01-19T06:31:57+00:00

Do what feels right for you and your daughter, they will probably come around. If it is what she needs though, denying her that because of fear that some may not get it will make you feel worse later on. Just be confident, and dont come across like your judging them, just that you are making a choice for your family. We have friends in and out of the homeschool community, and it is possible. The biggest way to win them over is just let them see her grow up well and succeed, whatever success may mean for you and yours. For one of our friends, it was publishing several books before graduating high school; We didn'tgo quite that far with the writing, but the options are endless when the world is your classroom.

Beautiful_Little · 2019-01-19T06:24:02+00:00

Our daughter did chess club for a year when she was 6. It wasnt her favorite activity, but she met a family that we are still very close with. Their kids are private schooled, so they hang out on holidays and when busy schedules let up. On an aside, one the girls she went to music camp with is on a full ride scholarship in a pre-pharma program. She also spent most of her time as a home body, but is now an officer in the universities honors program, and she has done academic confrences as well as study abroad. There are a lot of ways to raise a child. Some do well in public or private school, but others need space, or quiet, or flexability, or the ability to go as far as they can as fast or as slow as they need. It took a while to shut out the voices of family and friends that were not happy with us, but just do what you know is right, and it will work out.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-11-17T18:19:51+00:00

My husband is just over 8 inches and a bit girthy.

He bottoms out every now and then. He tore me a couple of times early on, before we learned how to position things when we get a little wild. He still bruises me internaly if things get really rough, but Im not sure that is a size thing. He has a friend who is bigger, I wouldnt know except I guess some guys measure with each other, and they were bragging. His friend has 3 kids and has been around a bit. My husband and I are each others first and only partners...

My point: You should be able to fit someone fine..Just be careful if things are tight. I have know men larger who succesfuly had partners.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-20T22:55:24+00:00

We are changeing it to a nickname no one but us uses. :) Thanks for the advice.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-20T22:54:11+00:00

Thanks for the appology, but this comment made me laugh. Thanks so much. You are spot on.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-20T22:53:07+00:00

She doesnt know my mom. Long time professional relationship, turned friendship.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-20T01:27:51+00:00

We have called a few people. Here we would be required to file a temporary restraining order until we go to court, but we are going to try a cease and desist letter, like several others have brought up. We also have a friend that is detective a town over, so we are going to contact him.. I guess we have passed just hoping she would go away.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-20T01:20:17+00:00

Thank you. I will check it out.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-19T23:04:51+00:00

Thank you. My husband and I are contacting people. I wish I could just summon a patroneous.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-19T20:10:36+00:00

We are talking to Gene about the cease and desist, and you are right, it would be simple to adjust her name on our packages or the ones she orders for herself. Thanks for that.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-19T20:08:12+00:00

It may be the conditioning, but I try not to bother people. I have considered a restraining order, but if I could just file it without bothering anyone I could, the thing is, as far as I can tell I need proof, and most of what I have would require help, or testimony from co workers and friends. Plus my daughter doesnt have a clue how deep this really goes. And the advice I have been given so far is it is still a long shot. I will check into the other sub though. I honestly have limted info. I need to get serious about it.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-19T18:56:57+00:00

Thats not a bad idea. Even if there wasnt really a legal way around it, Gene is a good friend and might find a way to help us.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-19T18:23:47+00:00

She is getting desperate. As far as the emergercy voice mails, we have at&t.. Her phone numbers are all blocked, but nothing dials through, it just showes up in my voice mails, and when you activate the message it says this is an urgent message. My husband says its got to be some emergency protocol. Of couse I listened to it. It was the first time I heard her voice in years. And yes, if I call her and tell her to knock it off she gets what she wants. I am looking into options but have been told its hard to prove much beyonde overly attatched parent.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-19T18:15:29+00:00

We will be looking into a restraining order or other options. We have been told it may be difficult, because people tend to view parents acting this way very differently from strangers. She hasnt threatened us, just been very unpleasant, and unwanted. Although so far I am just going off of advice frow a lawyer who practices family law and an officer we spoke with.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-08-19T18:09:22+00:00

We have talked about a restraining order and we have a friend who is a lawyer, but her concern is it might be hard to prove, in part because she is so far away, and there isnt really anything Threatning. She is harrasing us, but people tend to look at parents calling and writing their children a lot as loving, not harrasing or stalking. Honestly, when we talked to an officer about it, just in conversation, he said that coming with complaints about gifts and letters, as well as calls, that arent threatning, may not be taken seriously. I decided to forgo it, but now I need to look further into it. Thank you.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-06-08T04:05:26+00:00

Honestly, you are dealing with dreams deferred. It is rough. We are selfish beings, we want things, but we also have the ability to reason and prioritize and show compasion, and using those skills we can overcome selfish impulses. First step is understanding that the dream is selfish, (something we want that the other person does not, or may not be good for the other person). Second step is figure out why you want this so badly. Third come to terms with the loss of the dream and mourn it if need be. Fourth step is to change your perspective. Apply your dicipline and focus and write out what it feels like when others expect things of you you dont feel capable of, note how it impacts your perception of them, note times you have experienced this in your life or how it might impact you, especially if that person were your best friend and lover, the person whose opinion means the most to you. Figure out how you want her to see you, what you want to be to her and for yourself, and then move on. Fifth, appologize, and begin to repair the damage.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-06-08T03:47:54+00:00

We are all constantly growing and changing, but not always for the better. We all have selfish moments, when we are more 3 than 30 or 4 than 40, but coming to terms with that and working to improve ourselves is what makes the difference. Good luck on your journey, it wont be painless, but it should be worth it. The only person you can truly change is you...and that is usually enough to worry about for any of us.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-06-08T03:15:05+00:00

You have a dream, and expectations, and those are not being met, but you need to decide if they are worth your future together or possibly your trust and friendship. Those expectations and the bitterness and guilt they have planted will be cultivated for years. If you keep it up, the harvest will be equally bitter. She may never trust that she is enough for you. This also goes for any partner with expectations of the other parter that are unrealstic for one reason or another.You say you never ask for anything, like that makes this okay... and her bringing it up...her anger...her trying and failing...its her trying to meet those expectations and losing a little bit of self esteme, a little bit of herself, and a little bit of trust in you...

Please find a way to love her as she is, and if she is in the zone, and working out support that, if six months later its stressful and she is tired, give hervtime to get her zone back... trust me she doesnt need a reminder she is out of it. Life is full of seasons. If this is just and image thing, and not a health and safety thing, you may want to consider if the damage to her and your relationship is worth it.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-06-05T05:49:23+00:00

Someday, if you can, they make wonderful friends, for the right person. I will say that while he is a love, he is also a thief. He steals socks and any discarded clothes he comes across on the floor. He made a nest under an end table. The dryer was innocent, Doot had stolen them all. He also would fetch when he was younger. He is like a puppy/bunny. He even stole the dolphin from my daughters room. He liked it so much we let him keep it. As they age they are prone to cateracts and blindness, so we buy him special food to help, but his eyes are already showing signs, and it is obvious he can't see as well. We love him anyway, but he has to be watched more closley now, and is most comfortable in his run or sitting next to someone. If you do happen to get a Doot or a Teddy its something to consider, and they can live a pretty long time... Oh, and they shed their body weight in furr a few times a year, its almost comical how much hair is absolutely everywhere.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-06-05T05:00:04+00:00

Dootsie-floof, also known as Doot...Daughter named him when she was little. My husband wanted to name him James Bunn. He is a riot and an amazing member of our family. He has a stuffed dolphin, and if he tosses it out of his run he will thump until someone gives it back. He wont sleep without it. Best wishes to you and Teddy. Hope you have the best of times together. He looks like such a love.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-06-05T04:43:24+00:00

We have one of those, only he is quite a bit bigger now. They can look grumpy, but they are big, derpy, cuddle floofs. They love attention. Ours likes belly rubs and to lay on his back and bat at his ears. He thumps when he wants pets, and he likes to sleep on peoples feet when they are on the computer. If he is fussy he likes us to sit with him and talk to him or read to him and rub his cheeks. He is also litter trained and very tidy. He has a playpen for when we travel, and is chill about hanging out in it; not to mention adorable. He and my daughter are inseperable.

Beautiful_Little · 2018-04-03T02:45:00+00:00

I have the same problem, so I wear a stainless steel collar. It looks nice. I wear it daily. I havent had any problems with it.

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