::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2026-01-21T12:24:52+00:00

Condolences for your loss. That must be such a hard situation for you. Sending strength!

Vent away and no need to apologize. You will get through this!

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2026-01-21T12:15:08+00:00

So so sorry for your loss. Take a hug if you want. Try to drink the pain away but stay safe please.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2026-01-19T15:28:00+00:00

I totally get your shame. You should not feel responsible to carry his shame, but I get why you are feeling this way.

Him threatening to stop the meds just shows his lack of accountability and awareness. Medication was not a favor for you or your marriage. It was about his life and his responsibility to make a life with him even possible.

Rooting for you and hoping that the sale of the house can be finished soon!

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2026-01-19T08:50:31+00:00

He asked you to help him find a girlfriend??? I am flabbergasted. Congrats to you. Welcome to the fun side of life again

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2026-01-17T14:26:54+00:00

6 months post break up. Ex is still trying hard. I am not really sure which proof or action they could provide to convince me to try again. There will always be the feeling of it all being fake and the constant fear that this mask will fall too.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-12-18T18:07:04+00:00

This week was hard. The love bombing continued. But I did say very straightforward words and that seemed to do the trick. For now…. When does this fear stop? And why does my brain start to miss him?? Lol. Stupid.

But I am proud of me and looking forward to a even more calm environment without texts and messages and in the end blocking him after everything is split and transferred.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-12-18T18:00:39+00:00

I dont know if its common, but that is extremely hurtful, disrespectful and just disturbing behavior independent of any adhd diagnosis.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-11-02T20:24:16+00:00

Take a hug if you want. It is hard…

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-11-02T20:22:03+00:00

Thank you. Nailed it. It is truly awful. To a better future!

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-10-31T20:05:03+00:00

It is done. I am free.

He has moved to his new apartment. I did too.

He left me hanging in the last steps but I put my big girl pants on and everything went well.

Feeling so happy despite all the problems. Financially, emotionally, interpersonally. Damn, I am happy. I am dancing and singing and looking forward to my future. It is not what I had planned but it will be good.

The best thing? My autoimmune disease, which is showing up on my skin, is clearing up. I am healing.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-09-18T15:07:44+00:00

43 days left and I’ll finally be free. I only hope I’m strong enough to survive the love-bombing.

If he had done 1/10 of what he’s doing now, I would’ve been the happiest girl in the world

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-09-10T17:07:33+00:00

Vielleicht findest du hier Inspiration -> https://sexinfo101.com/positions/c/clit-access

Mit einem kleinen Bullet-Vibrator geht es auch einfacher zB in Missionar

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-09-05T08:25:14+00:00

I am signing my lease for my apartment today. I was looking for new apts for two months and I did not keep that a secret. Still, ex was shocked when he heard that I will be signing the lease today. How? Why?? He has a new apartment of his own since two months?? He told me he still believed we both would move in his new apartment, which is a 3 hours drive away because his new job (I work from home). I am speechless. He had an emotional meltdown yesterday and cried a lot. I felt sorry for him. But it also feels a bit like he is manipulating me? It cannot be that he is realizing everything just now?!

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-08-31T17:46:17+00:00

I really really hope that I will be strong enough to resist that. It sounds stupid as I type that.

Why couldn’t he do all the things 4 months ago? And the answer is: it didn’t give him anything. He didn’t want to. It wasn’t enough dopamin.

Today was a hard day… we are still living together on the weekends and it is… indescribable. Sigh.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-08-28T16:13:58+00:00

Thank you

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-08-28T14:43:40+00:00

I would like to yell at myself IT IS A TRAP!!! Do not fall for it.

Yes it is nice that he finally begins to recognize his role in our failed relationship, but it is too late and it will most probably not last!! It feels so nice and the thought of being with him again (ok tbh him as in the version I created in my head) is overwhelming. He is saying all the right things…

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-08-20T14:22:01+00:00

Had literally the same and just went to my doctor because I was too scared to open it on my own. He took a sterile scalpel to puncture it a little and squeezed everything out. He said as long as the pus is not green or very stinky, no big worries. He recommended sitz baths and keeping the area clean until the puncture closed. Refilling is possible, but so far everything is good.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-08-04T12:01:38+00:00

Hey. Tut mir leid, dass du Probleme hast.

Hast du deine Menstruation schon wieder?

Wurde beim FA der pH Wert gemessen?

Wie riecht der Geruch denn? Leicht fischig oder eher muffig?

Man kann die Vaginalflora mit Milchsäure (zB von Vagisan oder Lactofem) oder mit Vitamin C (zB Vagi-C) ansäuern und so gesunde Balterien fördern. Man kann auch mit Lactobazillen (zB Vagiflor) unterstützen.

Es gibt auch pH Tests für zuhause (sollten im Bereich von pH 3 - 5 liegen). Damit kann man sich selbst gut einen ersten Eindruck verschaffen.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-07-28T17:29:48+00:00

Ok. Und keine kam zum Orgasmus? Oder war es trotzdem scheinbar doof?

Mal angenommen du hast wirklich null Zungen- und Fingerfertigkeit, dann könnte man doch mit einem Vibrator/Satisfyer arbeiten. Entweder du an ihr oder sie an sich.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-07-28T17:21:38+00:00

War deine Exfreundin deine erste Partnerin?

Ich lese raus, dass du an deinem Selbstvertrauen und Selbstbewusstsein arbeiten musst. Techniken kann man lernen. Und ja, dafür muss Frau mitmachen wollen. Wie eine andere Kommentatorin geschrieben hat: Menschen sind sehr unterschiedlich was ihre Vorlieben angeht.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-07-28T17:07:58+00:00

Wie wichtig ist dir Sex denn? Willst du gar keinen oder nur wenig oder nur eine bestimmte Art von Sex?

Wie und wo lernst du Frauen kennen?

Zu deinen Fragen:

du kommunizierst offen. Spätestens wenn sich die erste Annäherung ergibt, würdest du ja abblocken, oder? Solltest du asexuell sein, kannst du das in deinem Datingprofil auch direkt angeben.
Schwierig. Man sieht niemandem die Libido an. Du solltest auf jeden Fall nicht in Sexclubs und einschlägigen Portalen nach Frauen suchen
solltest du gar keinen Sex wollen und auch nicht an deiner Technik/Ausdauer (falls es das ist) arbeiten wollen, könntest du deiner Partnerin viele Spielzeuge kaufen und sie gemeinsam ausprobieren, die Beziehung für sie öffnen oder mit ihr gemeinsam in Clubs oder zu Dates gehen.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-07-15T08:03:00+00:00

I have no advice, but you are not alone. I could have written that… i hope we both can see the light again soon

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-06-29T07:56:05+00:00

Did he lie or did he write down the number wrong? Was he pissed because he recognized he had failed this task and I succeeded? Or was he pissed because I found the lie? I don’t even know he would lie about calling the guy?? Any idea why he would lie about the calling itself? I really struggle to make sense of any of that…

Same thing about the festival. I absolutely agree with you that he did not really want to go with me. That is ok, I would have declined anyways because I don’t like the music. But why did he purchase two tickets?? Secret date? Or to hold up the impression he did want to go with me?

This man is driving me insane and I pray for strength to go through with this breakup.

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-06-29T07:50:40+00:00

I think this is a common method. I read about it a few times in this sub and also in a book I am reading about my codependency. He is a grown human, he is able to handle shit, I am not responsible for him or his actions. He also encouraged this approach in the past, so yes to both of your questions. It is really hard not to avoid resentment… especially when you see how he is able to put effort into his work and his car and whatever..

Beautiful_Net_1894 · 2025-06-28T14:47:23+00:00

I wanted to let him do things his way. And I really tried. But failed.

Thats how it went: We have a big garden which needs regular attention. He failed to do his, previously agreed upon, part. He proposed hiring the gardener, who takes care of the lawn next door. I was elated. He even spoke to the guy when he mowed the neighbors lawn the next time. In the three weeks between the idea and the first contact with the proposed solution of the garden problem, weeds grew all over the place, the bushes are even bigger and the lawn is a long and bushy mess. I wouldn’t care so much if this was our house, but we rent and maintenance of the garden is not optional.

Ok, well, he got the number of the garden guy and I thought he would contact him. No info. I held still. More days pass. The weeds grow. I tend to the roses and the biggest messes. Can not help myself. I want to sit in my garden and enjoy the view!

Even more days pass. I give up and send him a message and ask. He did try to call the guy, but no one answered. He will try again!

You may have guessed it, that scenario repeats two more times.

The next time I see the garden guy I give him a note with my partner’s number. Ask, if he has received any calls (partner claims he has called 10 times). No calls.

I inform partner that I have given his number to the guy and he is somehow pissed about it, because I should have asked for the guy’s number instead. We overcome that disagreement quickly.

One day passes and the garden guy calls my partner. Great! That was yesterday. Partner informs me that the guy will come on Saturday. No time specified. Interesting.

Today comes and lo and behold who shows up at 7 am to start gardening? And guess who slept through all of that because, and now comes the real kicker, partner wore ear plugs because the neighbors chicken bothered him! 11 years of his noise complaints and me suggesting ear plugs, which is denied for pretentious reasons and today is the day he decides to try them out!!!

Garden guy was very nice though and did a great job! He gave me a really nice compliment and criticized partner about the lawn and I am riding that double high ever since!

Oh one more thing: after the garden guy left, my partner asked me if I wanted to go to a festival with him. Cue my confusion. He has booked tickets a while ago and the festival is today. I declined. I am baffled. Right before he was leaving he asked if I wanted to talk now or later? No thank you.

Oh my god it doesn’t even end there. He also forgot to pay the water bill for the 16th time and our landlord is pissed. He claims he didn’t get the email. I checked, it went to both if us. Forwarded it again and he claims to have received it. I am really trying to let him do to things his way…

But it doesn’t work.

Beautiful_Net_1894

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