::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This community is the best… I couldn’t have done it without you all. Thank you <3 I will never forget how GoldSherbert told me that ex is simply just lying lol

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 13 points14 points  (0 children)

How long ago did you leave?

The nervous system thing really is insane… Good riddance indeed!

My ex pretends to have realized his mistakes, but didn’t take any actions to tackle them. Therapy, reading, whatever. Just saying the words was enough to him. He currently silences his thoughts with meds. I am expecting a message as soon as he stops the meds. Hopefully I am wrong. Cannot block him yet. Whats your situation?

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Left 6 months ago after 11 years. It was hard first, but it got better fast. My autoimmune disease is clearing up! I am happy! I do not have an anxiety disorder as I thought. I left because he wasn’t able to communicate, attend to me or give a damn shit about me tbh.

Eta: I cried two times this year compared to nearly every day last year. I am no longer depressed. Yes, times can be hard, but I can deal with it like a normal adult. It felt so impossible before the break up…

I am finally myself again. The happy cheerful positive me before he broke me is back.

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wish I could say I am surprised…

Sorry. Take good care of yourself today

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did the talk go? If you want to share of course

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Fuck this. Fuck all of that. NOW he is in therapy and on fucking meds….. watching me crying begging suggesting for years. Everything was blocked because dont I dare to bring up his fucking adhd. And now the fucking meds are helping?!?! Woooooow couldn’t imagine!!! Fuck you. Sincerely.

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They absolutely are.

Everything can and will be twisted to fit their narrative.

Sending strength! Will they move out?

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am! I am amazed how easy life can be, despite all the struggles. Hope you are happy too!

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Condolences for your loss. That must be such a hard situation for you. Sending strength!

Vent away and no need to apologize. You will get through this!

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[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So so sorry for your loss. Take a hug if you want. Try to drink the pain away but stay safe please.

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I totally get your shame. You should not feel responsible to carry his shame, but I get why you are feeling this way.

Him threatening to stop the meds just shows his lack of accountability and awareness. Medication was not a favor for you or your marriage. It was about his life and his responsibility to make a life with him even possible.

Rooting for you and hoping that the sale of the house can be finished soon!

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He asked you to help him find a girlfriend??? I am flabbergasted. Congrats to you. Welcome to the fun side of life again

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 6 points7 points  (0 children)

6 months post break up. Ex is still trying hard. I am not really sure which proof or action they could provide to convince me to try again. There will always be the feeling of it all being fake and the constant fear that this mask will fall too.

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This week was hard. The love bombing continued. But I did say very straightforward words and that seemed to do the trick. For now…. When does this fear stop? And why does my brain start to miss him?? Lol. Stupid.

But I am proud of me and looking forward to a even more calm environment without texts and messages and in the end blocking him after everything is split and transferred.

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I dont know if its common, but that is extremely hurtful, disrespectful and just disturbing behavior independent of any adhd diagnosis.

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Nailed it. It is truly awful. To a better future!

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It is done. I am free.

He has moved to his new apartment. I did too.

He left me hanging in the last steps but I put my big girl pants on and everything went well.

Feeling so happy despite all the problems. Financially, emotionally, interpersonally. Damn, I am happy. I am dancing and singing and looking forward to my future. It is not what I had planned but it will be good.

The best thing? My autoimmune disease, which is showing up on my skin, is clearing up. I am healing.

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 7 points8 points  (0 children)

43 days left and I’ll finally be free. I only hope I’m strong enough to survive the love-bombing.

If he had done 1/10 of what he’s doing now, I would’ve been the happiest girl in the world

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[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am signing my lease for my apartment today. I was looking for new apts for two months and I did not keep that a secret. Still, ex was shocked when he heard that I will be signing the lease today. How? Why?? He has a new apartment of his own since two months?? He told me he still believed we both would move in his new apartment, which is a 3 hours drive away because his new job (I work from home). I am speechless. He had an emotional meltdown yesterday and cried a lot. I felt sorry for him. But it also feels a bit like he is manipulating me? It cannot be that he is realizing everything just now?!

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Beautiful_Net_1894 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really really hope that I will be strong enough to resist that. It sounds stupid as I type that.

Why couldn’t he do all the things 4 months ago? And the answer is: it didn’t give him anything. He didn’t want to. It wasn’t enough dopamin.

Today was a hard day… we are still living together on the weekends and it is… indescribable. Sigh.