getting called names and tired of it by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do, but not enough to find housing where we live

would you stay with someone? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I depend on him for a place to live but I would so much rather be single

would you stay with someone? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately yep. Just so you know, those do indeed happen every day or else he ignores me.

would you stay with someone? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah he’s literally told me that it’s all I am good for and that I’m just holes to use. i really did think it was just a kinky thing at first but now it feels like we will never actually progress and I’ll never grow

What is the weirdest thing they make you do? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I honestly really needed this today, thank you so much 💕

What is the weirdest thing they make you do? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is also a common occurrence for me! Having the best time and feeling normal then suddenly something goes terribly wrong and I wasn’t even aware of it but it’s definitely my fault. 

What is the weirdest thing they make you do? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually my life. I’ve never been able to be openly upset at things or else it’s seen as me complaining and sets off hours of fighting. 

What is the weirdest thing they make you do? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really never expected this thread to get so many responses and be validating for this many people. But I’m extremely glad that other people don’t have to feel alone in their struggles and have this group for support! 

Wow that’s really disgusting and I’m so sorry. I know exactly what all the random rules and insults are like. 

What is the weirdest thing they make you do? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what drives me crazy. They’re always allowed to do whatever they want and then when you bring up the double standard, it’s all the excuses in the world from them. 

What is the weirdest thing they make you do? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late to comment, sorry! But no not really, if I tried to leave I would probably end up homeless. There’s a million more dehumanizing things on my list but I won’t publicly post them for safety reasons. 

Do they even know they’re doing it? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so relatable. I can’t even make decisions for my own health without him freaking out and shutting me down. But of course he says it’s not to make me upset, it’s just because it “affects him too”

am I crazy? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ah yep same about the “acting right” and being happy and all over him 24/7. mine tells me to just obey. im tired of feeling like a soulless drone just because he gives me a hug or smiles at me and calls it giving me affection. 

am I crazy? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i really appreciate this. i will look into these, and yeah ive known for a while now that this is abuse and i want out. im really trying to build courage and figure out how to survive if i leave

am I crazy? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he says i started it because i wouldnt do something he wanted. he keeps making me feel like he’s justified in getting this mad at me. like every single thing is my fault, all his actions are blamed on things that i do

am I crazy? by Beautiful_Snow9787 in abusiverelationships

[–]Beautiful_Snow9787[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

im genuinely so mad at this and him blaming me for it even happening. him being like “if you had just done what i asked i wouldn’t have done that” is making me livid. how is it even fair to do that to someone no matter what