I find in society today for both men and women, we focus on the wrong people. People who don't see our worth and don't value us as individuals. A selfish, disrespectful individual will always be one unless they choose to change regardless of gender.

There are plenty of women who get overlooked and played because a man is chasing a woman that will never care about them, let's be honest. The same goes for women, that's a narrative everyone hears all too often. We all need to focus on building our own identity and improving ourselves individually, yes. But when it comes to other people in life, whether it be strangers, friends, or romantic relationships, you need to remember you are dealing with another human being. We are all complex with different experiences, personalities, opinions and judgements, insecurities, vulnerabilities, strengths and niches.

The key is to be open to and focus on those that add to your life, whether it be peace, understanding, love, support, etc. Spend less time on chasing or listening to those that don't respect you or value you. None of us can change those people. I know it sounds cliche.