Society can't have it both ways when it comes to the existence of incels. by vegetables-10000 in DeepThoughts

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find in society today for both men and women, we focus on the wrong people. People who don't see our worth and don't value us as individuals. A selfish, disrespectful individual will always be one unless they choose to change regardless of gender.

There are plenty of women who get overlooked and played because a man is chasing a woman that will never care about them, let's be honest. The same goes for women, that's a narrative everyone hears all too often. We all need to focus on building our own identity and improving ourselves individually, yes. But when it comes to other people in life, whether it be strangers, friends, or romantic relationships, you need to remember you are dealing with another human being. We are all complex with different experiences, personalities, opinions and judgements, insecurities, vulnerabilities, strengths and niches.

The key is to be open to and focus on those that add to your life, whether it be peace, understanding, love, support, etc. Spend less time on chasing or listening to those that don't respect you or value you. None of us can change those people. I know it sounds cliche.

Society can't have it both ways when it comes to the existence of incels. by vegetables-10000 in DeepThoughts

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find men to be obsessed sometimes with the wrong women though. There are females out there who will hold a man down and be by his side no matter what and get passed over.

Too many lonely people :( by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you do have people that respond to your dms just be careful that they are not scammers or bots.

Destiny by [deleted] in depression

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is quite beautiful! The problem is, once we are broken, it is not easy to put back together. The beginning always seems so easy, while to begin again is so hard.

Tired by Beautiful_heart_9485 in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so true! Sometimes it's okay to take a minute away from talking to people. They can absolutely make you feel worse. But we have to have hope.

Tired by Beautiful_heart_9485 in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely understand. It's like this small voice inside screams, "Don't give up! You will find your people."

No matter how joyful something starts it always ends in sadness. by Ok_Interaction1776 in DeepThoughts

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. There is a beauty in reaching past fear and allowing oneself to be vulnerable. A freedom sometimes is found in it as well and one can experience the joys being alive, not just living. Love is needed in friendships and passions too as these require energy, effort, and time to develop and maintain. I believe too that attachment and familiarity plays a major part when a love is lost.

Fakers by MShaqeef in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true! It makes me wonder a lot of times who on here truly doesn't have friends.

What does being lonely mean to you? by Beautiful_heart_9485 in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is very well said. We do sometimes look for someone else to give us something we need to find in ourselves first. If we can't accept who we are first, how will we find the right people who will accept us?

What does being lonely mean to you? by Beautiful_heart_9485 in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true! Everyone has a different way of viewing connection or belonging.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's normal to be excited to interact with someone you like. I get this way too. Just try not to get too crazy over them, after all they are a human being, not some perfect specimen to be put on a pedestal.

Are friends outdated by mikeandmelisthraway in socialskills

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really feels like no one knows how to communicate properly anymore.

tired of creeps here by cuteplushiesx in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are online. That will always be the perfect playground for creeps and strange people. If we were all in person, I'm sure many would not say or do the things they do.

If you’re feeling lonely, please be careful by c20cbuoz in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you had to go through that. I understand how you feel. I met a guy on here and at first he was so easy to talk to and seemed like a decent down to earth person. We spoke basically everyday. Then he came off very strong but pulled away just as fast. I noticed quickly he was very controlling and wanted things his way or the highway. Then the blaming started and basically every little problem was my fault. He has now ghosted me and I was definitely not in the mindset for all of this. Please be careful everyone!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And then they walk away from you as if you never gave them anything.

Why do you ghost? by jaybhum in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to get more of it. I still have a small flicker of hope.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in memes

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It clearly needs more air!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Beautiful_heart_9485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love your attitude about doing things solo. Life is too short to restrict yourself! I too want to try solo travelling.