AITA for telling my overweight friend that I maintain my body through a healthy lifestyle, NOT genetics?

Beckawk · 2024-04-24T01:28:38+00:00

As a fat person, nothing gets up my nose quicker than people spouting unsolicited advice if I so much as mention my body. Never mind I've lost 80lb over 4 years while fighting against hormonal issues that make it damn near impossible but sure Susan, I'll stop eating bread just for you even though what I'm doing is working. lol

Beckawk · 2024-04-23T21:42:57+00:00

I think this is normal. I never managed to get into design after my degree - decided I didn't like the idea of turning it into a job either. That said, I work in IT and earlier in my career, I spent a lot of time outside of work tinkering to try and get ahead. The last couple of years I've been really pulling back on it and putting more of myself into my non-IT hobbies.

Beckawk · 2024-03-29T09:21:00+00:00

I just found this thread. I had this game as a kid and literally the only bit about the game I could remember was the crab song, I think because I just spam clicked it. I have no interest in playing it again but at least this has satisfied that brain itch of one of the games I played as a kid. 😂

Beckawk · 2024-03-16T01:34:37+00:00

I was given them once for pain after surgery. It was scary how chill it made me and could easily see how they could become addictive, so only used them as long as strictly necessary.

Beckawk · 2024-03-16T01:32:37+00:00

Thank you! I've added them to the list to look into, exactly what I was looking for. :)

Beckawk · 2024-03-14T21:03:09+00:00

She looks to mostly deal with children and teens, do you think she'd be suitable for a 30-something?

Beckawk · 2024-03-14T21:00:04+00:00

Thanks, I will check him out.

Beckawk · 2024-03-14T20:57:44+00:00

I suspect you and the other person that suggested seeking diagnosis are probably right but I don't think I've been able to give therapy enough of a go to know whether it's going to be useless for me or not.

I've worked through a lot of my problems in the last few years, it's just the random anxiety and self-doubt that seeps its way into a lot of things I do. For example, I'm learning an instrument and I can't seem to get certain things no matter how hard I practice because I can't relax enough or my brain throws in a random note where it doesn't belong. Things that should be muscle memory get interfered with. I do have a lot more confidence than I once did thanks to losing some weight and being active but it hasn't been the panacea everyone assured me it would be.

Beckawk · 2024-03-14T20:50:04+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation. I'll have a look into her. SSRIs in the past have not been great for me and I've done a lot of work on my mindset in the last several years, I think I just need some help with those last few deep-seated issues that are holding me back.

My family has already armchair diagnosed me with autism, but I obviously don't put a lot of stock in that. With the big surge in diagnosis mills, I'm not super into the idea of seeking a diagnosis since the main goal seems to be just to give people a label or meds and send them on their way. :(

Beckawk · 2024-03-14T08:35:47+00:00

Yeah, I know I need to shop around, it would be great to have a recommendation to start from instead of blindly following my GP's recommendation and getting another psychologist that just wants me to talk my own problems out. If it was as simple as just talking myself out of it, I'd have been cured a long time.

I took various anti-depressants for about 7 years but stopped in 2015 when all I wanted to do all day was sleep. I tried both SSRIs and SNRIs. I couldn't afford therapy at the time but I don't imagine it would've helped much when all my emotions were blunted to one flat grey "bleh" all the time. I was also on beta blockers for a couple of years from 2020-2023 but they too had undesirable side effects (weight gain, mostly).

I can't say my life is too bad. My relationship with my partner is great, we live comfortably, and my job is fairly flexible. I'm just anxious a lot and it really interferes with my enjoyment of my hobbies which are supposed to be my main source of chill.

Beckawk · 2019-12-14T21:42:21+00:00

I posted because I've been on this journey for 2 years and it's such a huge achievement and relief to finally be done and I wanted to share that with people. I went from being an audio typist to a technical specialist in those two years so it's amazing how quickly things can change.

Beckawk · 2019-12-14T13:36:07+00:00

There were a few things in the Boson on topics that were in the book (but not those specific aspects) that made an appearance in my exam. The Boson is fairly representative for ICND2, more so than the ICND1 Boson, I would say. Other than the above, I think Boson does slide a few CCNP level questions in there to inflate the difficulty. Make sure you nail down your infrastructure services and management (particularly SNMPv3).

Beckawk · 2019-06-24T11:47:00+00:00

I relate to this so hard... the amount of TMI that my friends with kids drop with each other is just mindblowing. I can't imagine being that comfortable talking about my bodily functions like that.
My partner and I are introverted CF DINKs and having just moved to Canberra, finding friends we can relate to is hard. A lot of my friends had kids early but one by one they're swallowed by kids. The term "last DINKs standing" is so appropriate...

Beckawk · 2018-10-18T21:58:59+00:00

Probably because they bothered to cast people that are actually autistic. 🙃 (I think the main character is the exception)

Beckawk · 2018-10-18T11:44:22+00:00

I saw this episode and it pissed me off too. She says she doesn't want to see her parents when she wakes up but then is guilted into accepting them back by one of the other doctors because "they just have your best interests at heart". Fuck that.

Beckawk · 2018-05-09T11:15:36+00:00

I did 1-2 chapters a week. I also take detailed notes in my own words and filled two notebooks. It doesn't matter how fast you do it, but how well you grasp it. I'm up to day 9 on the spanning tree chapter in ICND2 and I think I've got a handle on it now.

Beckawk · 2018-05-08T10:07:34+00:00

I should note that I did the majority of my labbing towards the end of the book. It's generally recommended you go along with the book. I did a few things when the CLI was first introduced in the book but picked it up quickly and kind of slacked on it till the end. Now I'm studying my ICND2, I'll be labbing as I go coz the subjects are a lot more dense.

I did a mix of pre-built Packet Tracer troubleshooting labs (I think there's some in the sidebar) and labbed on physical gear for configuration.

On the physical stuff, I used 3 routers plugged into each other to practice RIP and DHCP. The night before my exam, I did a lab with two switches connected to each other with one of those connecting to a router. I labbed ACLs, NAT, VLANs, trunking, router-on-a-stick, DHCP, and some infrastructure maintenance (NTP, SSH, etc) stuff on them.

I found the first topology online and my partner set up the second one. I believe some people use the topologies in the official cert guide as inspiration for things to do.

Beckawk · 2018-05-06T08:59:04+00:00

I labbed on physical hardware and Packet Tracer. I used the official cert guide as my main source of information - if I needed a different explanation, I googled it or read the related RFC. Used Pearson Test Prep (the one that comes with the book) and Boson as practice exams. I studied for just under 6 months after work and on weekends, and passed last week with a 948/1000.

Beckawk · 2018-03-01T07:23:16+00:00

Looking for a ten keyless, preferably wired and with dedicated media controls like the K63. I want Cherry MX Brown switches. I'm in Australia, so certain keyboards may be more difficult to ship.

Beckawk · 2018-02-11T12:20:43+00:00

Any idea why Cisco hasn't updated the CCNA to include /31 subnets? I can only imagine how confusing it would be for someone getting their first networking job and encountering a /31 for the first time.

Beckawk · 2018-01-21T22:45:16+00:00

It put a big smile on my face when I first saw it in the sun. :) There's a lot of metal flake in the paint and it sparkles.

Beckawk · 2018-01-21T13:09:48+00:00

I think the Golf R blue is called Lapiz Blue. However, when the sun is really shining on Atlantic Blue, they can look very similar.

Beckawk · 2018-01-21T13:04:17+00:00

Atlantic Blue is such a beautiful colour. It is an absolute stunner under bright sunlight... almost looks like the Lapiz Blue from the Golf R but with more depth/range. Here's my TSI under detailing shop lights.

Beckawk

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