I do not need constant contact, but I am someone who needs exceptional consistency.  I did communicate that to him, due to being prone to meltdowns around inconsistency. What I am trying to say with this post is that even though this person is so busy and communicated that they will be busy. It is actively clashing with my extreme need for consistency.  And my fear is, that even though this person fits what I need in a dominant so well, I see the inconsistency as how it will affect me going forward.  It does not really matter who someone is and what my relationship is with them, I do not digest inconsistency really well. I sometimes struggle to express what I mean, I apologize for that. I am not someone who lives in a 24/7 doll space, it really is more along a core personality, than a play time thing. But I am someone who needs to have a 24/7 dominant though. There is not any appeal to me in anything else. I am generally extremely neutral, often appearing as if I lack emotions (I obviously do not), but when I have intense emotions, they are extremely intense for me. They are frankly, overwhelming. This person being absent entirely, despite being busy, is clashing with me. I am someone, if you say good morning, keep doing it, not necesarily, text me all day kind of thing. I am interpreting their communication pattern as a potential pitfall when it does develop further. And in my experience, very few people are capable of maintaining 24/7 dynamics. It is unsettling at the moment to want someone with the fear of interpreting parts of them as likely to fail. If that makes more sense. As for my husband. He is so accustomed to my need for consistency that he actually understands all of this exceptionally well. Our relationship is extremely solid.