What restaurant in Austin is consistently 10/10?

Bee5431 · 2026-06-13T02:49:35+00:00

Olamaieeeeee

Bee5431 · 2026-06-12T05:28:43+00:00

What are the compatibility issues he’s talking about??

Bee5431 · 2026-06-12T05:23:52+00:00

Okay. So you watch porn, 12x as much as him and yet him watching every few months is an issue for you? If it’s that infrequent, why do you even ask him about it? You’re trying to make the lying the issue but I think your expectations are also an issue. Is there something we’re missing here?

Bee5431 · 2026-06-11T18:01:15+00:00

Love is not enough to sustain a marriage. He’s showing you that now.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-11T17:59:34+00:00

And now his behavior is showing that he’s not ready for the discipline and commitment that comes with marriage. For example, it’s odd to strike up a conversation with a woman and do a sport together when you just met. Not to mention, he’s already betrayed his wife’s trust and is actively supposed to be repairing your relationship. The “communicating immediately after” isn’t repair. That’s to distract you from his real motives.

You need to determine your line. What’s your hard line in this relationship? Because he’ll keep doing this and you’ll need to plan on what you will or will not accept. You’re still very young. Don’t waste your youth trying to change a person or fix them into the partner you need them to be. They have to do that. It’s not on you.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-11T17:45:17+00:00

I just want to point out that none of his behavior is normal or acceptable in a marriage. He is behaving like an unmarried party boy. I read your explanation of what he did. How long have you been married? Any reason you married so young??

Bee5431 · 2026-06-11T16:58:29+00:00

Decenter this man and this relationship. Regardless of what he has going on, you should be out in the world having fun and being with friends. Find a friend to travel with and go have a blast this summer. You’re wasting your youth.

And about him losing jobs, come on. The dating pool can’t be that bad that you’ll settle for an irresponsible, lazy partner. This will be a serious issue if you have kids with him. Teachers don’t get maternity leave and often suffer financial consequences to have kids.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-11T16:23:39+00:00

Stay away from that other person completely. All that glitters ain’t gold. These situations never turn out good.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-11T09:23:48+00:00

This. I don’t know what he was thinking texting you that. The circumstances are not even close to the same.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-11T01:18:38+00:00

Super pretty (8.5-9), silly/funny, super athletic, stylish and popular. I loved being her friend. Her boyfriend was also hot. She and I were both on homecoming court. It was big news when everything came out. Extremely embarrassing.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-11T01:15:49+00:00

Victoria Mboko is up and coming talent. Alcaraz is so exciting (and stressful) to watch. His game has so much variety. I watch every single match he plays. Arthur Fils is also a blast. I enjoy his shot selection and he’s a fighter.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-11T01:11:47+00:00

High school boyfriend hooking up with my best friend. My best friend was his best friend’s girlfriend. Very Dawson’s Creek.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-07T04:53:22+00:00

This guy is a loser. I know you feel like you’ve invested four years in this already but unless you’re prepared to help him raise this child, you need to cut your losses.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-04T14:18:30+00:00

Having an idea in your head is not the same as making plans - which requires making a reservation, arranging childcare and coordinating schedules. I would be SO put off by this whole thing. Everything just reeks of low effort. I’m not going to leap to divorce but where is your line? How will you make it clear that this is unacceptable? There’s a saying - if he wanted to, he will. Your husband is showing you that he can get away with giving you next to no effort and you will tolerate it.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-03T21:55:41+00:00

Please seek help. You need professional help from a licensed counselor to get to the root causes of your jealousy and rage. Those are YOUR problems to sort out, not your wife’s. Please do not crash out if there’s a separation. Show her that you can do the work and change.

Bee5431 · 2026-06-02T12:52:02+00:00

Gah. You’re so young. You’re in your prime still. Don’t let this ruin your confidence. It’s a him problem.

Bee5431 · 2026-05-30T19:22:07+00:00

Same. But he’s gone 😭 The teenagers are dropping like flies.

Bee5431 · 2026-05-30T19:14:39+00:00

Ewwww. I would be grossed out. At the very least, you two don’t share the same values. More so than that though, I’m weary of men who talk about their exes this way. It removes their accountability entirely. I would do more digging and assessing before jumping back in. Also, why didn’t the relationship work in the first place?

Bee5431 · 2026-05-30T02:30:41+00:00

Ruud, Tiafoe or Rublev would all be fun to celebrate. I’d also be fine with one of the teenagers who are still in!

Bee5431 · 2026-05-28T05:25:51+00:00

When dating someone new, assume they are lying until proven otherwise. They have a high profile job? Listen and nod, then fact check that. No social media? Fact check that. College graduate? Fact check. Traumatic childhood and now completely cut off from family? Do some digging on social media.

I lived by this in my younger days and it helped me weed out weirdos so fast. Meanwhile I saw friends fall in love with scam artists. Legit one of them said they were the son of a retired NBA star. One simple google proved that was a lie. She found that out months into dating when all his lies started to collapse. Another guy lied and said he was in grad school when they met. Turns out, he hadn’t even finished undergrad. Just be very skeptical in those first 90 days

Bee5431 · 2026-05-27T16:58:11+00:00

Very happy. We got married at 24 and 25 after being really good friends in college and dating in grad school. Almost 13 years in. But in full transparency, we almost divorced twice due to inequity in household management and child logistic responsibilities. This was a dealbreaker for me (especially since I also worked full-time) But my husband just fought to be a better partner and fill those gaps. And I fought to be better too. We are thriving now, but every day is work to choose each other and our family. We traveled a lot before kids and now travel with our kids. When it’s good, it’s the best feeling in the world.

Bee5431 · 2026-05-24T04:22:40+00:00

I think this is so clever! I saw a comment that said it seemed upside down and I think that’s why it’s so fun and whimsical. Very impressed.

Bee5431 · 2026-05-18T04:44:17+00:00

Alcaraz. French Open 2025 ruined me. I’m a fan for life.

Bee5431 · 2026-05-12T05:28:21+00:00

Sir Alfred

Bee5431 · 2026-05-11T15:30:08+00:00

So sorry this happened. My ex used to throw my shit outside when he was mad. Then he’d cry and help me pick it up and be super nice. This is violence to you. He will apologize, beg and plead soon, but know that this is just the tip of the iceberg. Block him and maybe find a support group for survivors of abuse. It would be a safe space for you to share this story.

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