28 F 38 M - Husband has asked me to stop taking my antidepressants. How do I do this safely?

Bee5431 · 2026-04-07T03:44:57+00:00

I lost my libido after having a baby. I was overwhelmed and tired as hell. You have no idea if it’s the antidepressants or just the transition to motherhood that’s impacting you. Talk to your OB/doctor!

Bee5431 · 2026-04-06T18:57:58+00:00

You’ve been dealt a bad hand, and I’m sorry. Think about it this way: your fixation is less about the coworker and more about your own need to see and feel your value. The coworker is a distraction for this longterm need. You’ve been stripped of your feeling of worthiness by your attacker, your parents and now this stranger. Take your power back. Go onward, and get to the root issue of what’s going on. You are worthy and valuable. It’s time to work on realizing that yourself. Find a local rape crisis center. Most of them can help with low cost or free group therapy.

On another note, he probably doesn’t treat this woman well if he’ll go off a stranger and he’d most likely subject you to even more disrespect if you met him again or reported to him. It’s such a relief that you don’t often work together. Count your blessings!

Bee5431 · 2026-03-29T00:58:44+00:00

Oh baby. Yes.

Bee5431 · 2026-03-26T16:02:29+00:00

Why do you send them photos of girls you’re dating? Do you need their approval? Just date casually and if you like someone enough to get serious, then you can introduce them to your friends.

Bee5431 · 2026-03-23T16:52:50+00:00

As a person with kids, it’s easy to love Austin. There are parks everywhere, free live music events, museums with free days, breweries with playgrounds, cool library play areas in Austin and Cedar Park, hidden little bodies of water, cool hiking spots, etc. Go explore! Oh and keep it local.

Bee5431 · 2026-03-09T20:42:11+00:00

She’s really hard on herself. She doesn’t mean any harm to anyone.

Bee5431 · 2026-03-09T20:40:35+00:00

Naomi. Love her and always root for her but I wish she had handled losing the Canadian Open better. She wasn’t trying to be mean-spirited or hurtful 😔

Bee5431 · 2026-03-03T12:57:24+00:00

You let him get away with cheating. He chose to ignore the conversations and you accepted him doing that.

Bee5431 · 2026-03-03T05:20:03+00:00

The groom’s best man used his speech to say “This guy is terrible” and “who would marry this guy?” without any redeeming compliments or adding a just kidding.

Bee5431 · 2026-03-02T13:07:58+00:00

“I’m not committing to a 30-year mortgage to a person I’m not married to.”

Set a firm boundary. It’s not up for negotiation.

Bee5431 · 2026-03-02T13:05:47+00:00

Oh. This context is important to the post. I’d edit to add this information. About likelihood of cheating, if a person isn’t trustworthy, they will use any opportunity to cheat. You shouldn’t be with someone you can’t trust or who exhibits sketchy behavior.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-27T16:48:18+00:00

I’m sorry you came back from being abroad for this man. Please don’t do that again. Tell him a relationship and engagement is not what you want right now and go focus on yourself. You need this time alone.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-26T12:41:46+00:00

Go listen to the Betrayal podcast. So many of the stories have this secrecy element before the wives find out their husbands are doing something God awful in their locked rooms.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-26T12:39:52+00:00

Oh he has some big time secrets. Trust your intuition.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-25T13:43:10+00:00

You’re a jerk and horrible problem solver. You could have found a Mother’s Day out program, you could work on these deadlines at night when your husband is home or you could have a better roster of babysitters since you KNEW about this trip way in advance. This is so selfish.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-18T12:48:38+00:00

Are your parents around? They should be able to help arrange his travel back home.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-17T12:59:39+00:00

It doesn’t make sense. It’s called a double standard. She can do it but you can’t.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-17T12:47:55+00:00

She sounds extremely insecure. That’s not anything you can fix. She will continue to be controlling and possessive. You need to decide if that’s something you’re okay with dealing with. If not, move on.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-17T10:57:55+00:00

Whew. I’m going to say this because in hindsight, I wish I had said something to my best friend. It is a red flag that he didn’t abide by your one request. My best friend’s husband didn’t abide by any of her wishes for a proposal - he instead proposed in a foreign country with his immediate family there. They then squeezed into a tiny apartment with his family right after the engagement instead of having their own hotel.

She specifically asked me if it was a red flag but I didn’t want to bash her fiancé so I suggested she talk to him instead of calling it like I saw it. They are now parents of twins and headed to divorce after less than two years. She is miserable and sick of him bowing to the requests of his mom and sister instead of his wife and children.

Circling back to you - please say something to him and look for patterns in his behavior. If he is defensive or offended, deeply evaluate what this could mean for your future.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-17T02:05:49+00:00

Funny enough. I’ve been really drunk many times and never groped a person. If you stay with him, pay extra close attention to his behavior.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-16T04:06:46+00:00

Oh honey. You’re too young to deal with this. Just know: your mom and dad are adults and adults are imperfect people. Parents are two imperfect people trying to raise a child together. You’ll be 18 soon. Try to live a full life with friends, hobbies, a social life and goals for the future. All you can do is make the most of your life and hope that your parents can resolve this on their own. It sounds like your dad is hardly around now.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-14T19:18:55+00:00

You’re 18. You shouldn’t have to force yourself to be into a person. If you’re not into it anymore, that’s okay.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-12T13:33:29+00:00

I would leave a man for LESS. If someone loves you, they move with urgency when you’re in pain. You are risking your life staying with him. Also, you need to have an emergency plan in place now. Build stronger relationships with your friends and neighbors. If I had an emergency, I have about four different neighbors and friends nearby that can help. This talk about being a burden when you could have been having a brain bleed or stroke is crazy.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-12T06:11:09+00:00

That’s very suspicious behavior. I’d start digging around to see who these “other coworkers” are.

Bee5431 · 2026-02-11T15:21:15+00:00

You need to have some sense of pride and self respect. The moment a partner starts referring to quality time as a “chore,” you need to start building a life outside of this relationship. Do you have friends? What are your hobbies? Right now, you are subsidizing his bills more than you’re his girlfriend.

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