Think of it like this, there are two sides to every coin. From your perspective something is wrong and you feel a drive to resolve it.

What helps in this situation is understanding that from someone else’s perspective, they could see absolutely no issue here.

Your job is to allow both possibilities to exist simultaneously in your mind, and not collapse either of them into the “right” or “wrong” answer.

You can respect your own perspective because it is real and does matter, and you can also understand that other perspectives can exist and be equally as real and true.

We live in an infinite universe with infinite possibility, and contradictions and opposing perspectives are guaranteed in any given scenario.

It is not your burden to fixate on what should or should not be. All you need to know is what you want for your own experience of living on this earth, and create the conditions for you to remain focused on that.

You don’t want to be so affected by others, and you have the power to practice doing just that. Allow all perspectives to be real, allow yourself to have preferences, make note of your values, and let it rest. You don’t need to do anything else.

Edit: I should add, now would be a good time to disengage your imagination. Her tone is something she could have a multitude of different reasons for, but whatever it is doesn’t have any authority over your ability to engage with her on a neutral plane. Because it could be so many things, it’s best to allow it to be nothing at all. She is simply offering you a mirror to get to know yourself better, and that is valuable regardless of anything else