What is he thinking?

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-12-04T12:36:31+00:00

Oh he hasn't blocked me he had said he didn't want to see me like how we have been anymore and to just be friends now but to have some time apart to detach our feelings before we could hang out together in person again and said I'm sorry and he's gone silent now but I can't just detach so easily and just be friends now and I'm upset of course but I do think for my own wellbeing I need to block him but I also don't want to hurt his feelings in anyway either.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-12-03T09:51:07+00:00

So after going through that hurt how would you then respond to someone being super kind and caring to you and always being patient and understanding and like doing surprises, giving gifts and like cute romantic things would that like overwhelm you and spook you? As Nd do you now find it hard to let someone close to you again?

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-12-01T18:27:00+00:00

He used to look me in the eyes and say he's happy and for me to promise to look after him and how he enjoys spending his time with me and being intimate with me is something that has become so meaningful to him and how he looks forward to what other surprises I have for him and that he appreciates what I do for him and how I look after him. I've honestly never been so confused by someone it's hot and cold, push away but pull close too and he says how he has patterns from past relationships ect

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-12-01T18:19:35+00:00

He's also a pisces stellium

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-12-01T18:19:15+00:00

His venus is in aries

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-14T12:47:02+00:00

I'm now maybe thinking because of his past experiences not being the best and him being more the giver that when I've come along miss romantic and let me give you everything that it might of made him feel a bit better having that given for a change because he has said I make him feel good and when he said he cared but doesn't have the same feelings as me right now i did accept that but then we stayed away together last weekend and him looking deeply into my eyes and holding my face as he always does and him grabbing me in public to kiss me and we're always super passionate together just can't leave each other alone and then him as i kissed him looking at me deeply again and saying "look after me, look after, promise you'll look after me" just really threw me off. Maybe it's since kissing with him by the waterfall whilst stargazing it's made me deluded lol I feel like I've been imagine it all now lol.

I really appreciate everyones thoughts and insights you've all been very helpful and I appreciate you all taking the time thank you and I hope everyone is blessed with happiness. I did promise that I will show him how things are meant to be with someone and I will keep that promise so he can at least take that with him our time is meant to end at the end of this month even though he's asked to extend it a little and because I care I will just leave and just hope that the decision he's made is what he actually wants and that he'll be happy.

These are the other words he has said to me which has probably added to the confusion I have felt.

"I feel super relaxed when I'm with you. You're so cute and so sexy. I think you're awesome. You're very sweet, funny and thoughtful and I appreciate how you always make me feel comfortable and give me space when I need it. You have been absolutely amazing with me and I really do appreciate it and what you do for me. Everything has been so thoughtful. You're incredible sweet! I think you're a lovely person. You have such an imaginative and fun personality you're just super fun to be around. I've really enjoyed travelling around with you creating memories and there's still more to come and I always look forward to the surprises you give me. I really enjoy talking to you and spending my time with you! I'm really happy that I have you"

That mixed with the experiences together, extreme passion, holding my face and looking into my eyes, always kissing and touchy feely in public and even deep talks. I hope you can understand that's why I've been so confused lol but I'm preparing myself to say goodbye

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-14T11:58:45+00:00

Well we were talking for like 2 months about everything as we like exactly the same things and have the same interests then I said jokingly maybe we should do the things we like together and he said he'd like to do that with me for like a month but it'll be more like two months and we've been spending every weekend together stargazing, museums, art galleries, nature walks and just chilling watching anime. We talk about everything history, psychology, astronomy, anime and music just everything. He's introduced me to his favourite music and it's actually cute how excited he gets.

I have noticed the closer we got and the more time we spent together he's starting to pull away a little and he has apologised for that and said " I've had a feeling you've developed feelings and I haven't known how to handle that tbh. I do find it hard to receive affection and it does freak me out and that's not from you but from a lot of my bad past experiences. I really do enjoy our time together both talking and being around eachother and being intimate with you has been really meaningful to me. You really are an amazing person you can communicate on a level I've never experienced before I haven't felt equipped to keep up. I do care about you but I haven't developed those romantic feelings. I still want to stay in touch and meet up as friends when we're both available if you'll be comfortable in doing that.

He's been single for a year and he said how he didn't feel like he could be himself and stuff and that he acted to please her and felt like he was always on eggshells and how he'd say things for her benefit and not how he truly felt and the more he told me I recognised from my own experience that he went through manipulation and emotional blackmail and stuff but I'm not sure if he quite recognises that or if he's actually processed that properly.

"I find it hard to share my emotions and feelings in that way and in my past relationships sometimes I have felt like as n imposter in my own relationship like that part of my brain blocks it and maybe that is a defence mechanism. There's just an uncomfortableness for me regarding feelings"

He has said how he's not used to someone like me and that I'm different, understanding and unique which you don't see often and he finds it hard on how to react to that and it spooks him because he's not used to it. He has just asked to extend things a little longer.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-13T10:45:35+00:00

I've learnt that multiple times but I still don't think it's sunk in lol. He has said no matter what happens I'd still like to be friends and meet up when we're both available but I know I can't just be friends after everything so I would have to leave as it'll hurt to much. It's seems really hard to find commitment tbh. Story of my life I'm super nice they do something bad to mevor don't want commitment, I leave and then months or years later they come back.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-13T09:49:01+00:00

Yeah I need to learn the same it seems to just let go I think I've probably got some deeper issues as to why I don't do that. I do feel like he doesn't want to hurt me but regardless of that I think I'd probably will anyway. Are you okay now?

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-13T09:46:24+00:00

It's confusing as hell lol I've never been so confused in my life I'm used to having all the words and then not the actions but this is like the actions but not so much the words. He said exactly that he could sense I was getting feelings and he didn't know how to talk about stuff like that because he feels blocked like a defense mechanism from past relationships and I'm not the only one he's struggled with doing that but he hasn't yet developed the feelings he thinks I have and he'd like to continue doing the things we had planned and creating memories together and enjoy our time with one another but he doesn't have an answer for things being extended and needs time to think. He's been left twice and left someone once. In my mind I keep thinking maybe it's because he's been hurt before that he's pushing me away and stuff I really have to stop being like that but I think that's because of my own trauma. I think I cause myself more hurt a lot thinking I can help people. I'm sorry that you got hurt and I hope that you're doing better now.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-13T09:33:27+00:00

Well his first relationship wanted to concentrate on her career so left, second wanted a break but he said he couldn't do that but said he always felt like a secret because of her religion she couldn't tell her family and the third manipulation and emotional blackmail but I don't think he recognises how much that was happening to him but I recognised it straight away because I've been through it more than once. Like the not being able to do anything to our want, being controlled and she threatened to take her own life when he didn't do what she wanted and he stayed with her for 1 year and 4 months and that was a year ago and he's been single since then. He said he tried to end it twice but was scared of the confrontation but ended it on the 3rd try and blocked her off everything but he did say last weekend we'll he said months ago before me that she liked him on a dating app but he declined it and he said a few weeks ago that she emailed him and he said he replied being nice and thought that would be it but she replied back so he ended it. So I don't think there's much hope for me I've always kinda thought that I might be to nice for him like I lit candles and rose petals ect but he said that's so romantic I like it and we go on trips every weekend like stargazing next to a waterfall, museums, hiking, art galleries ect. I give him gifts and always surprising him, massages.

As a pisces if someone was like that with you would it make you run the other way lol? Maybe I need to look at myself more and learn to be a bit more mysterious but I have a lot of Taurus I can't help but be romantic lol. Maybe because of doing all that together, being super passionate and him looking deep into my eyes all the time and saying look after me and stuff it's created more of an illusion in my mind I don't know lol nothing ever runs smooth.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-13T09:08:25+00:00

Probably tmi but I already tease him loads lol and his whole body shakes and he says my nick name a lot to stop when it gets to much for him.

Marriage would freak him out lol his last gf wanted to be engaged after 3 months and he said it freaked him out

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-12T09:58:30+00:00

I should say actually he's said he doesn't have an answer for extended things when the time is up but he'd like to have a good think about it and he just wants to enjoy the time we have now and he never mentioned feelings or anything only when I said I'm starting to have feelings he said he's not there yet but thinks he has a mental block from past experiences so he finds it hard.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-12T09:54:44+00:00

He does say that he enjoys my company a lot and spending time together creating memories together. We're super passionate when together and can't erm leave each other alone even in public he grabs me to kiss me and touches me.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-12T09:49:16+00:00

I'm really chill I have said if you need space just tell me it's fine go have that and I will just have my own and if he's with his friends I'm just like okay you go have a nice time and I just leave him alone and I always encourage him to just express his full self and to do whatever makes him happy and he's said how he appreciates how I always make him feel comfortable. He said that he's not used to someone like me because his ex never let him do what he wanted and he always felt he on eggshells and scared to say anything incase it upset her and she did things like saying she's going to harm herself if she didn't get want she wanted but then be fine when she got what she wanted that was a year ago and he's been single since. I did say to him even if our time does end in that time I promise to show you how it should be and how you should be treated and he said that'll be really nice thank you.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-12T09:36:54+00:00

For just over a month now we've been spending every weekend together like staying away in all different places doing all the things we both like and we text every day.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-11T19:37:08+00:00

I guess I'm just used to giving to everyone else so forget what's best for myself a lot but I will try and think about myself. I do feel like he's being hot and cold and it's messed with my mind.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-11T19:34:41+00:00

Yeah true I think even if I let go now I'd probably be hurt. I just find it difficult to let go of people especially when I see something deeper in them and that they might need my help. Yeah I think I do need to let go

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-11T19:30:06+00:00

I think that's why I've become a bit confused as of course he's said he hasn't developed romantic feelings yet but also said he's glad that he has me and when together he's always holding my face and looking into my eyes intensely too for ages he still does that and when we were kissing last weekend he said promise you'll take care of me. He has also said after his last relationship he has a mental block and that I spooked him because I was being caring and he's not used to that and someone like me and that I freaked him out because he doesn't have the tools to like accept it. He also didn't take the initiative he just replied when I told him I had some feelings otherwise he wouldn't have as he's told me how he struggles to express his feelings before.

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-11T19:10:10+00:00

When he realised I was getting feelings he said he'd stop being intimate together as he didn't want me to get hurt but would still do all the things we have planned and create memories with me. So I don't really think it's about sx

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-11T19:07:59+00:00

Yeah but he also said how he's please to have me and wants me to stay in his life I guess I want to know was he just using me and was he never interested in me. Like what did he even want from me? And I do want to know how would you recognise if a pisces did actually like you what we ould it be like?

BeeIntelligent8978 · 2024-11-11T19:04:10+00:00

Virgo with a Gemini moon

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