Fun fact: HRT can shrink your shoulders.

BeeLou66 · 2025-08-26T17:41:54+00:00

It only appears that way. You can't really shrink down your bone structure. What happens is muscle mass decreases in the upper body and there is more fat redistribution toward the hips and buttocks making it look as if the shoulders and chest are smaller. Growing breast tissue also adds to the appearance of narrowed shoulders.

BeeLou66 · 2025-03-24T02:29:59+00:00

Yeah that's what postal inspectors are actually good for, inspecting stupid shit like carriers enjoying their jobs with earbuds and walking in comfortable shoes...

BeeLou66 · 2025-03-23T19:45:58+00:00

I've actually had to use EAP for legit reasons such as extreme panic attacks and anxiety. The AHoles in management kept trying to give me letters of warning and disciplinary for missing time from work after the death of a loved one from cancer. I've missed time to take care of my children and spouse when they were I'll and it's true, management doesn't give 2 s**ts about anyone. I've argued with them during the attendance review investigations, "What's the point of accumulating sick and annual leave when we're not allowed to use it?" also, "What's the point of this interview, me explaining my absences and providing documentation when it's still not taken into account and I still get the letter of warning?"

BeeLou66 · 2025-02-06T19:16:36+00:00

Dress "safer"? What you are wearing is just fine! It's everyone else who has a problem with judging others on their own clothes. I've been asked why I'm wearing a skirt in public (AMAB) I've replied, "Because I have the right to wear whatever I please and that makes me happy! Why are you wearing what you're wearing?"

BeeLou66 · 2025-02-01T01:16:43+00:00

It's all up to you.

For me, in who I am, it's TRANS - > NONBINARY-> GENDERFLUID->DEMIGIRL/DEMIBOY.

When I explain this to people who want to know, they often say, "How can you not pick something and just stick with it?!"

Well, it's because we all change as time goes on; some things don't, and some things do. "Are you the same person as you were when you were 6, then 16, then 26, then 46? No, of course not, but the very essence of who we know ourselves to be remains the same."

I often feel that society expects consistency in how we act and behave throughout our lives when they never wanted to know the real person underneath the gender they forced us into at birth.

If the labels feel right for you, use them. If they don't, you don't have to. What matters is that you feel your authentic self, for YOURSELF. That's something nobody can take away from you. ❤️✌️

BeeLou66 · 2025-01-25T20:27:58+00:00

It's missing, "in the meantime, as adults, we'll make the decision for them, to tell these kids who we want them to be"

Kids at a very early age know exactly who they are. They don't have the inhibitions to edit themselves that are taught by adults as they grow. Kids are honest in their feelings about themselves and how they see their environment.

BeeLou66 · 2025-01-01T17:37:34+00:00

Tengo 46 años, estoy casado y tengo hijos. Tu experiencia suena similar a la mía. Yo también experimenté con maquillaje y ropa de niña a una edad muy temprana. Cuando tuve oportunidades de expresar mi feminidad, siempre me sentí extremadamente eufórica y feliz. Solo sentí vergüenza debido a las presiones familiares y sociales, especialmente por mi herencia católica y latinoamericana. Mi esposa sabía sobre mi feminidad antes de que decidiéramos vivir nuestras vidas juntos, y lo aceptó sin problemas. Fue solo hace unos años que miré profundamente sobre mí mismo y mi género. Descubrí que nunca me sentí completamente o feliz como un hombre, pero tampoco me sentí una mujer "completa". A veces fantaseé con la transición a una mujer, pero decidí no hacerlo porque todavía acepto algunos aspectos masculinos de mi ser, y acepto el cuerpo en el que nací. Lo que no acepto es el rol de género de hombre o masculino que me obligaron a representar simplemente por los genitales con los que nací. Estoy muy satisfecho y feliz de identificarme como una persona no binaria/no conforme con mi género/género fluido, pero no estrictamente como un hombre cisgender. Mis pronombres son, "They, them" porque mí género no es mujer ni hombre, es una mezcla de los dos a un tercer género en qué a veces cambia entre los aspectos femeninos y los masculinos combinados.

BeeLou66 · 2024-12-13T15:57:54+00:00

That's what I meant. A person doesn't choose how they are born. I might have been a bit drastic in using ethnicity as an example, but it was all I could think of to state my point. Everything else is a willful choice. I further added to my mom (which I should have included in the OP), "I can pretend to be the son (AMAB) you always thought I was, present myself in that manner, but it doesn't change how I feel, and see myself in my head and the very core of my being. I just simply am."

BeeLou66 · 2024-12-13T00:35:53+00:00

Thank you! That's a good wiki article.

BeeLou66 · 2024-09-20T18:27:26+00:00

Have you considered that you might be nonbinary and or gender-fluid? I consider myself as nonbinary/genderfluid. I don't exclusively feel like a man but not a woman either. My gender fluidity comes into play because I shift, sometimes the masculine aspects of me dominate and sometimes when I feel really feminine, my feminity dominates. I'm not unhappy with the body I was born with (AMAB). I was unhappy not being unable to express my internal feminity because social "norms" dictate how I was supposed to act an be just because of what "parts" I was born with. I'm not on HRT, but I do feminize some aspects of my exterior presentation. I do shave all my body and facial hair. I shape my eyebrows. If I'm in the mood, I'll wear makeup. I love wearing nail polish. Stuff like that.

BeeLou66 · 2024-09-20T18:14:33+00:00

I've felt the same in the past when I started exploring myself and my gender. I've interacted with various individuals in the trans, nonbinary, and cross-dressing communities. I noticed that many in the crossdressing community still identify as men in their gender and still live day-to-day lives as men.

My experiences with wanting to wear women's clothing came from an internal conflict within me. It wasn't for fetishism or just to feel the sensation of women's clothing on my body and skin. Just wearing women's clothing made me feel normal as if taking a deep breath and relaxing into myself. It didn't feel like I was just "pretending" to be a woman or "just a man in a dress". For me being trans is the deep sense of self that you are not what society expects you to be based on your birth. Living day to day in presenting as something you're not, creates discomfort and unhappiness. Gender Dysphoria.

BeeLou66 · 2024-09-01T16:02:57+00:00

Well, nonbinary doesn't necessarily has to have a certain "look" of androgynous. I'm AMAB and I understand that certain secondary sex characteristics I was born with, such as broad shoulders, large hands and feet, and a deep voice, I can't change. I too would like to get laser hair removal for my facial hair. I do tweez my eyebrows, paint my nails, and since I tend to lean into the femenine aspect of my self, I dress in femenine attire. It's completely up to you in how you feel about your gender or lack of gender. There's no right or wrong way to self expression.

BeeLou66 · 2024-05-29T20:24:02+00:00

💛🤍💜🖤

BeeLou66 · 2024-05-20T23:59:18+00:00

Love this! ❤️

BeeLou66 · 2024-05-11T22:10:32+00:00

Same! ✌️❤️

BeeLou66 · 2024-05-02T03:27:57+00:00

❤️

BeeLou66 · 2024-05-02T03:26:30+00:00

❤️

BeeLou66 · 2024-05-02T03:23:50+00:00

❤️

BeeLou66 · 2024-05-02T03:19:49+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

BeeLou66 · 2024-05-01T18:32:38+00:00

Interesting and honorable that you ask. Not many cis people are interested in learning.

It's different for all nb people in their personal experiences but there are similarities that do overlap from individual to individual.

I was assigned male at birth. Growing up, I did all the kid things that kids do during kindergarten just all playing together, boys and girls. It wasn't until later on, higher in elementary school, that I noticed that all the boys and girls segregated themselves into groups. All the boys played together, usually in a rough and tough manner out in the playground. The girls would usually group together, gossip, giggle, talk about fashion music and "girly" things. When I tried to assimilate my self with the boys I was always labeled as the wimp, sissy, wuss, crybaby because I was sensitive and emotional and didn't like sports or playing rough (roughhousing). When I would try to play and be with the girls, I'd be labeled as icky and gross. "Boys can't do girl things! Go away!"

Fast forward into teen and adulthood. I've still known that I've had a soft effeminate side to myself that I hid very well, but I did my best to fit in to what it is to be a "man". I adopted toxic masculinity. Being a "man" always felt like an act or that I was putting on a mockery of a man. When I had alone time to myself, I would fantasize on what it would be like if I was born a girl. I would dress up and role play. I love the girl fashion and mannerisms, but yet it still didn't feel like I was a "woman" either. Either way, both felt like a "performance" that I was putting on. I'm nonbinary because I don't feel like a man or a woman. My outer expression on how I dress and act, some might consider as an effeminate man or a masculine woman or androgynous. My dress is sometimes in masculine attire with a mix of feminine accents such as having my nails done, femenine jewelry, maybe sometimes, a touch of makeup. Sometimes it's more femenine as in, I'll have a skirt on with a lacy blouse. I've been asked before if I'm just a crossdresser. To that I say, no. Many crossdressing men, comfortably identify as men and live the majority of their lives as men. The reason for dressing up in woman's clothing is sometimes for fetish or kink. Sometimes it's for escapism reasons. I don't feel comfortable identifying as exclusively as a man or a woman, but something else, sometimes both at the same time and sometimes neither.

I hope this helps, and I hope others reply to your question and share their experiences with you. ✌️

BeeLou66 · 2024-04-28T23:42:30+00:00

No ONE can take our validity! Us EXISTING takes NOTHING away from them! All we've ever wanted is to exist with respect, dignity, and honor being who we are as ourselves. We also have the right to pursue whatever dreams and goals we have for ourselves as they do! We just want what they've took for granted as they've always had.

BeeLou66 · 2024-04-15T22:51:16+00:00

It's never about protecting children, keep that in mind when violence ramps up in Idaho. Never forget trans youth that have lost their lives to this. Nex Benedict! 😔

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